https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 20:17:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sex-life-post-marriage-vs-post-babies#post-29388 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 16:09:08 +0000 junebugmama 29388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I had an amazing sex life until I got pregnant, almost every day. We have sex about 1 or 2 times per week since pregnancy. However, as I'm entering my 2nd tri, I'm starting to feel sexual all the time, and hubby doesn't seem to mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sex-life-post-marriage-vs-post-babies#post-29380 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 15:58:41 +0000 Mrs. D 29380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a different case.<br /> My DH has been away for a month at a time and only home a week each month since we've been married, so on average, we don;t get to sleep together much, but when he's home.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sex-life-post-marriage-vs-post-babies#post-29378 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 15:54:35 +0000 Boogs 29378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I'm with you. ;) I would actually go as far as saying it's the best it's ever been. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sex-life-post-marriage-vs-post-babies#post-29357 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 15:24:46 +0000 mrsjyw 29357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>AMEN. Quality over quantity has always been my general rule of thumb :) pre-post marriage/TTC and will be pre-post baby, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sex-life-post-marriage-vs-post-babies#post-29333 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 15:01:33 +0000 looch 29333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Post baby sex has been amazing...I think our son was 3 months old the first time. I don't worry about quantity, I never have. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sex-life-post-marriage-vs-post-babies#post-29324 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 14:54:57 +0000 mommacommaphd 29324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pregnant with #2 right now and at my first meeting with my midwife she asked- "How is your sex life? I'm more concerned with quality than quantity."</p> <p>I think that's kind of what it comes down to. You definitely don't have the time and freedom to canoodle once you have a kid (it's sad how often a short nap means your afternoon delight is cut short). However, as long as the quality keeps you happy and satisfied, you're OK. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sex-life-post-marriage-vs-post-babies#post-29177 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 11:01:23 +0000 Maysprout 29177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It did take longer to get back in the swing of things than I thought it would post baby, I know that's not how it is for everyone but I was uncomfortable for awhile. We were still intimate even if it didn't involve babymaking. We've always kinda been an everyday sort of couple, I don't think it get's boring ;), though some days are more exciting than others. But it's a way to reconnect everyday, I guess having expectations that not everyday is going to be crazy but there's still warmth and tenderness shared. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sex-life-post-marriage-vs-post-babies#post-29174 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 10:56:19 +0000 runsyellowlites 29174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, DH and I didn't have a sex life before the I Do's sooooo after then it was great! We started to ttc not long after getting married though and well it didn't take long. Since getting pregnant it's DEFINITELY gone down b/c I just felt like poo through the 1st trimester. I think we went almost 2 weeks once without anything... I asked DH how long it had been and felt terrible. Needless to say that changed that night. Now we're probably 1-2 times a weeks. Still not great (even in my book) but I've been pretty busy and busy = tired.</p> <p>For after baby you better believe that date night gets SCHEDULED!!!!! AAAAAAAAND when the chance arises you DO IT! lol</p> <p>Considering you realize how important it is and want to keep up with y'alls sex life, I wouldn't worry too much about it. Just know that pregnancy (especially the first tri) definitely changes it and so you just gotta stay open with your DH about it all. From what I've seen on other boards with soon to be dads, their pretty understanding. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sex-life-post-marriage-vs-post-babies#post-29167 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 10:46:42 +0000 mrsjyw 29167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So there's the old stereotype that once you're married, that sex is a rarity. I'll be the first to admit that sex isn't as important to me (and DH) as it may have been in the early years of our relationship. For that I am grateful, but I am also a believer that a healthy sex life is key to a full marriage as well.</p> <p>Now that we are actively TTC, we are still in the honeymoon phase of baby fever and are having fun in the process, but am also direly afraid with my OCD A-typeness that it may become dull and routine the longer our journey lasts...</p> <p>And then also after the baby factory is closed, how will our sex life be then?</p> <p>What are your experiences? How do you keep the ZSA ZSA ZSU alive?! :) </p>