Hellobee Boards Topic: "She's a year, you should wean"

Hellobee Boards Topic: "She's a year, you should wean" https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 04:31:00 +0000 Janet on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291654 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 14:44:56 +0000 Janet 2291654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I find that many people find it acceptable to judge all sorts of aspects of motherhood - weaning, how many kids to have, daycare vs no daycare...I am sick of it. If it is not polite to comment on how someone should lose 15 pounds or how someone should get a nose job or Botox, then why do they think it is polite to criticize someone's decision about weaning??!??! snowjewelz on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291644 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 14:36:20 +0000 snowjewelz 2291644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @regberadaisy: My DH was born in the village and he said if his mom didn't have enough dm, they drank like watered down sweet potato congee from birth. Really a miracle that he grew up healthy and strong! My mom gets all these random mis-info from other people too, but at least she listens to me b/c she knows I do the research and she sees how DD has grown! regberadaisy on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291637 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 14:29:43 +0000 regberadaisy 2291637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @snowjewelz: ugh. Yeah, the older Asian generation in general are so under educated about breastfeeding. Which is weird because most of them did Bf due to formula being unaffordable and not widely available, not to mention untrustworthy in China! But I get it, my parents were poor so my moms supply wasn't great since she was likely undernourished. She attributed my brothers tiny size to her lack of supply. So she feels some guilt that they could not afford formula for him /us. Adira on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291634 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 14:27:21 +0000 Adira 2291634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @regberadaisy: Yeah, my SIL didn't breastfeed to a year either, so I get that she doesn't necessarily think breastfeeding is anything special, but still? Judging? And spewing random non-facts?? Annoying! snowjewelz on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291633 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 14:27:08 +0000 snowjewelz 2291633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @regberadaisy: too much work to suck the milk out?!?! that's the first I've heard of that one :meh: regberadaisy on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291628 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 14:21:33 +0000 regberadaisy 2291628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Adira: this was my mom! Both times around 4m she told me I needed to stop. It was too much work on me. Then it's *harmful* to my daughter because it's so much work to suck the breastmilk out. I blew up on her about that and asked her who she hard that crap from. Supposingly a neighbor friend of hers told her that because her daughter (who doesn't BF!) told her mom that. Wtf mom. Believe your daughter and not your neighbor friend's daughter!!!! Grrrr littlebug on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291622 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 14:13:50 +0000 littlebug 2291622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I got a lot of "oh, you're STILL nursing?" from Hubs' family. Starting at 6 months. I felt like saying, "Oh, you're STILL an asshole?" Eff off, people. MYODB. Anya on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291621 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 14:12:48 +0000 Anya 2291621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @ms. pug: wow that is not ok, and I agree with pp that it is harassment and should be reported. californiadreams on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291619 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 14:11:31 +0000 californiadreams 2291619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ definitely the longer i nursed, the more comments i got. same with wearing my toddler. regberadaisy on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291614 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 14:02:26 +0000 regberadaisy 2291614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @ms. pug: agree that that is way out of line! I would ask him to stop and if he still doesn't I would report him too. Truth Bombs on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291590 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 13:45:14 +0000 Truth Bombs 2291590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would have said "you're 65, you should know better than to comment on other people's personal decisions". @ms. pug: That is way out of line and needs to be reported to your HR department. Foodnerd81 on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291581 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 13:39:19 +0000 Foodnerd81 2291581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @catomd00: I found I got more upset by the comments when I felt unsure myself. Once I felt good about our status the comments bothered me a lot less! mrsrain on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291577 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 13:37:07 +0000 mrsrain 2291577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @ms. pug: wow, that sounds like harrassment! I'd tell him to back off and then talk to HR if it continues. Adira on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291576 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 13:36:04 +0000 Adira 2291576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @ms. pug: Not sure where you work or what your company is like, but that sounds like harassment to me and something that should be brought to HR... mrsrain on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291574 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 13:35:44 +0000 mrsrain 2291574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Oh yes. I was so annoyed with my mm for saying that if my daughter could ask to nurse (at 13 months) she was too old to be doing it, and as a result have decided not to share that she has since chosen to wean. I would have nursed a lot longer if it were up to me. ms. pug on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291573 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 13:32:39 +0000 ms. pug 2291573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I work with all men, and one in particular feels the need to "call me out" every time I "MARTYR" myself by pumping. According to him, 100% of the nutritional benefits are transferred via colostrum and once the "milk" is in, there is zero nutritional benefit over formula. I never say a word when I need to pump, just grab my bag and walk away. he insists I'm doing it for the extra breaks or so I can "feel like" a better mother. i do NOT know why he feels the need to bring up this (totally inaccurate) point EVERY. DAY. FYI- his wife never breastfed. My gut is that this is how they coped with it not working for them (she did try, but never breastfed more than a few feedings). That is fine- but don't attack me with your inaccurate notions. LBee on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291514 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 12:45:36 +0000 LBee 2291514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @PurplePeony: Ha! "It's odd you have such a strong opinion about something that has exactly ZERO impact on you. Do you think I should keep my bikini area shaven or not? Wipe front to back or side to side?" I wouldn't probably say this to mixed company (although I said it to my mom pretty much), but I would DEFINITELY think it. ShootingStar on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291507 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 12:42:30 +0000 ShootingStar 2291507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My normally very sweet grandmother kept insisting I should give my EBF 4 week old a bottle of formula with rice cereal in it so that I could rest from bf-ing. I told her it was essentially fillerand had no nutritional value (the rice cereal I mean) and she still insisted that I should. Everybody's got an opinion on things that are none of their business :silly: . catomd00 on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291502 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 12:38:01 +0000 catomd00 2291502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't get why people make it their business when it doesn't affect them, but honestly I don't understand when people get upset by the comments either. If you're comfortable in the decisions made for your kids, then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Maybe I have just become exceptionally good at not giving a shiz from dealing with a mom for 29 years whose every other sentence starts with "you should..." PurplePeony on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291500 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 12:37:00 +0000 PurplePeony 2291500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ "Thanks. Next time you have a very personal decision to make about the health and well-being of your family, I'll be sure to weigh in on that." So I probably wouldn't really say this, but wouldn't it be nice? psw27 on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291495 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 12:34:58 +0000 psw27 2291495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ mmm... Any sentence that includes "You should..." I basically tune out immediately. avivoca on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291488 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 12:31:17 +0000 avivoca 2291488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ They told me I would want to stop nursing once she got teeth. They were wrong. After a year, I stopped bringing it up since we were only nursing twice, then once a day. nana87 on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291486 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 12:28:50 +0000 nana87 2291486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Shortly after lo turned 1, my mil was like "she has teeth now" big whatevs though! Lo is 17 months and we're still going strong Foodnerd81 on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291484 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 12:28:16 +0000 Foodnerd81 2291484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @T.H.O.U.: yeah, LOTS of "when she's old enough to ask, she's too old!" comments here too. Yeah, by the time she self weaned at 20 months she could ask for it. :) Foodnerd81 on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291482 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 12:27:07 +0000 Foodnerd81 2291482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No one flat it said you should wean, but I got a lot of "so how do you think you'll keep that up? Or, she doesn't really need it now, you know. Mostly asking when I planned to stop though. At first I was really unsure when I was going to wean and what we would do, and that's when I got more negative comments. Once i decided that I would continue as long as it was working for us and that I hoped she would self wean, and confidently told that to anyone who asked, people started accepting that and asking fewer questions. T.H.O.U. on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291480 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 12:24:56 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2291480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I got a few, "as long as you aren't still doing THAT when she's old enough to come up and ask for it". ---- Umm, she asks for it now, baby knows what she wants! mrsbubbletea on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291475 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 12:22:06 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2291475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Massive eye roll. The older my baby gets, the more people ask me sort of surprised, "you are still nursing?" When I go to pump at work. They always say good for you, but I get the feeling the older he gets (8.5m now) the less supportive they will be of me needing to take my breaks at certain times. Maybe not, and we all are supposed to take the two breaks at my work, so it's not like I even have to tell anyone I am pumping. Adira on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291466 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 12:18:29 +0000 Adira 2291466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ haha, my SIL implied I should wean at 9 months and that anything beyond a year had "no health benefits" and was gross! catlady on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291459 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 12:15:50 +0000 catlady 2291459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I hate it when people says like that. It's none of their business. My usual response to comments/questions like this is "Well, actually, these days, the recommendation is..." or "Actually, my doctor says...". Most of the time, these comments are from older people so I just tell them their info is wrong. I got alot of comments when I was on an elimination diet while BF-ing (my family was "concerned" but actually just annoyed that they couldn't go out to eat with us and that I needed special foods). They told me it was healthier for me and LO to wean but I said "No, actually the doctor said..." and then they shut up about it. erinbaderin on ""She's a year, you should wean"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-a-year-you-should-wean#post-2291444 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 12:08:26 +0000 erinbaderin 2291444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm trying to think of something rude that you could have said, but I'm so startled by how rude that was that I can't come up with anything other than "You should mind your own business". You could have pointed out that the WHO recommends breastfeeding until 2. My son weaned himself just after a year and I was pretty sad about it, I would have kept nursing for longer but he was done.