https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 10:51:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-938313 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 10:12:16 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 938313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: oh no i'm so sorry you're having to go through all this alone!! like others already jumped in to say, babyprincess is actually doing a phenomenal job, as are you!!! i could never do CIO on my own as a FTM, i needed to leave the house while DH took over so i am impressed at how well you've been holding up! when all this is over, it'll be worth it. you'll both be happier with longer stretches of quality sleep!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-938000 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 09:03:29 +0000 Cherrybee 938000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: Thank you! :-) I've been reading solidly for 9 months! lol. BUT I'm totally going to need you and @PrincessBaby: and everyone else who has been through it to talk me off the ledge over and over when I'm actually in the thick of it. It's so much easier to say than do, I'm sure! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937988 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 09:00:05 +0000 MsLipGloss 937988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: For someone who doesn't have a baby--yet!--on the outside, that was great advice and support! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937901 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 08:37:47 +0000 cascademom 937901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: Sometimes, there's small sleep regressions during extinction CIO. H won't remember this and will be glad that you taught her how to soothe herself to sleep at this age. It sucks, but the benefits are monumental for a family and marriage. </p> <p>Yesterday at 4am, we thought LO was crying because of a lost pacifier (no breathable bumpers). After 45 minutes of crying from a CIO'ed STTN baby, DH checked in on him. He was wet and dirty up the wazoo. After a change and a bottle, he slept from 5am-7:30am when I woke him up to get his day started. We felt like bad parents, but were rewarded with a night of good sleep last night until 6:15am when I noticed he wet the crib and himself. It's just how this parenting thing goes.</p> <p>ETA: Are you doing a dream feed as part of the CIO? Like feed her at 11pm when you're going to bed, so she feeds on your schedule not by her desires. It helped us a lot with sleep training. We discontinued when we visited my inlaws because I was too damn tired to go down the hall there and feed him. He didn't miss it. Around that time, we switched to formula full time, so by 8 months then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937897 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 08:36:38 +0000 meredithNYC 937897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: I'm sorry this has been so stressful! I am still amazed that you are doing this alone and think that's pretty damn impressive - so be proud of yourself! Unfortunately, this is just one of those crappy things you have to get through and ultimately, it's going to make you a stronger/more confident parent when you see how much H is thriving.</p> <p>Sending you happy thoughts! You are doing great :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937879 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 08:32:43 +0000 NovBaby1112 937879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: yea, apparently right around night 5 or 6, it can be one of the worst nights during sleep training. i remember reading it is because it is their last attempt to get things to go back to how they were and protesting this new process. So hopefully that was it for you and going forward it will be easier! H is doing seriously amazing though! I know it is tough around that 4:30/5am period because of the noise, but if that is her only wake up all night that is pretty awesome! I don't think bringing her to bed with you at that time is bad at all- anything to get you both more sleep! once you move into your new house you can put her in her crib all night. I don't think you are creating any bad habits by doing that- I think if she is putting herself to sleep at night and only waking up once, that is pretty fantastic- you should be proud of yourself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937834 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 08:21:07 +0000 PrincessBaby 937834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She went back to sleep after11 or 12 minutes but shortly after, all of the street noise that I've been bitching so much about started again and it was particularly loud. That woke her up and I just went and got her and put her in bed with me to get her out of the noise. She was whining for the boob and I gave it to her. She pretty much nursed to sleep, which isnt what I want to happen bc it's still part of her night sleep at 5am, but I have no idea of how to handle this early wakeup due to noise- it is inevitable every morning in this hell hole apartment. What do I do? I cant leave her in her crib to cio in that noise, that's not fair. And I cant let her cio while I'm right there, hell to the no. So I dont know. I was kind of too drained by the whole situation to really give a crap once she got in bed with me.</p> <p>@NovBaby1112: Wait- 5th night regression? What?!? What happens after that? I knew nothing of this. </p> <p>I'm not going to give up. I do not want to go back to nursing to sleep and 5 wakeups a night where I have to nurse her back to sleep. I recognize that there's not a happy median here. It sucks ass. I am miserable. DH needs to get the f*ck home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937728 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 07:58:05 +0000 littlek 937728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: She does not think you don't love her. It's just her only way of communicating. It will be okay. Hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937622 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 07:28:21 +0000 NovBaby1112 937622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: i agree</p> <p>If my LO wakes up hysterical at an unusual time, i go in right away. We sleep trained at 6.5 months and she still sometimes wakes up and fusses/lightly cries but it is her "just trying to put herself back to sleep cry" so i let her go for 15-20 mins and she usually puts herself back to sleep. However, if she randomly wakes up hysterical, i always go in right away. I figure if she is waking up and crying that hard, something must be wrong- gas pain, trapped burp, tummy ache, teething pain, nightmare or even separation anxiety. Since she cannot talk and I do not know what is making her hysterical, I go to her when she does that. I think after a week or 2 of sleep training under both your belts you will get a better sense of when she is just struggling to put herself back to sleep and when something is wrong. My best advice to you is to just follow your mommy instinct. Even though we sleep trained, I didn't follow the rules to a T. I will say that night 5 is sometimes the regression night/hardest night, I learned that from our sleep training program- so hopefully that was it for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937536 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 06:24:22 +0000 looch 937536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Crying can also be a stress reliever, believe me, I know first hand how hard it is to leave your kid when they are crying, it seems counterintuitive. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937528 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 06:16:27 +0000 pl0508 937528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How are things ??? I agree this sucks so hard. H loves you!when will your hubs be home to help ? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937492 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 04:14:01 +0000 anbanan15 937492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: Aw I'm sure she is not! She just has a little personality. That's all I got, I'm out of advice (not that that was actually any haha). Hang in there mama! You will all get there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937491 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 04:13:06 +0000 Smurfette 937491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: I know you don't think so but actually H is doing great!! R did great the first three nights and then started waking up multiple times again. And it would be 30 mins every time. She DOES NOT think you don't love her!!!! I promise when she wakes up she will give a big old smile. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937486 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 04:05:39 +0000 Cherrybee 937486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: Okay, it's time for an intervention. Right now. Babies do not cry for the same reasons adults cry.... she does NOT think you don't love her. She is crying because it's her way of communicating and what she is saying is "mummy, I'm awake, i can't go back to sleep because I don't know how to. It's time to rock me/nurse me/[whatever you've taught her she needs to go to sleep]". </p> <p>You are teaching her a great skill and giving her a wonderful gift - the gift of going to sleep. If you cave now, ALL that hard work, all those nights of her crying will have been for nothing. Do you want to have to rock your toddler to sleep?? </p> <p>You are doing an amazing job. You're a wonderful mother. Hang in there - I know it's hard but you will get there. </p> <p>Oh and stop using words like "torture" in your head. You are not torturing your baby by teaching her to self soothe!! Get out of that mindset right now! You have to be centered and calm, you have to be at peace with your decision otherwise she will pick up on how you're feeling and it will make this harder for her, too. </p> <p>ps - big, big hugs. xx </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937484 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 04:03:07 +0000 PrincessBaby 937484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anbanan15: No reflux or any problems. She's just a drama baby:( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937481 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 03:59:48 +0000 anbanan15 937481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: Forgive me as I forget the answer, but does she have reflux or anything? I have heard that CIO will not work on some children with chronic medical conditions like reflux. This is one of the reasons we haven't done it with DS (has GERD and FPIES). There were some desperate times where we said enough was enough, gave in and attempted CIO briefly and it was obvious it was not going to work for him at all.</p> <p>It sounds like she is doing great through! Keep up the good work! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937476 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 03:39:50 +0000 PrincessBaby 937476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am literally about to cave. I cannot take this anymore. It has been 5 nights. I am alone. My child has been crying 9 minutes at 4:30 am. She totally thinks I do not love her. Or else she would not be crying like this!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937472 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 03:34:15 +0000 PrincessBaby 937472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. High Heels: I am going to lose it. I was prepared for a few nights but this sucks. I cant handle it. I am by myself.</p> <p>She woke up as usual around 415. I nursed and put her in the crib super drowsy and she's screaming her face off right now. Why????? Whhhhhyyyyy is there still screaming? I cant take it! I really really cannot take it!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937433 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 01:49:44 +0000 loveisstrange 937433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually wait 15-20 minutes if she wakes up in the night and then check on her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937341 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 23:15:21 +0000 googly-eyes 937341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: that would be my response too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937310 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 22:48:34 +0000 immabeetoo 937310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't do CIO but about half the time when he has a weird, unexpected wake-up there is a reason (i.e. he pooped, has a trapped burp, has leaked, etc.) so my inclination would be to check on her. If there's nothing wrong and you don't suspect teething pain, she'll still get the message she has to put herself back to sleep when you put her back down! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937306 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 22:46:54 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 937306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: 13 minutes is sooo good! It feels like forever in the moment, but that's REALLY good! </p> <p>She got it by the 3rd night. On the 4th night it was literally plop her down and she'd be asleep within minutes. Here's my post on it - <a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2012/09/28/sleep-training-noelle-part-ii/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2012/09/28/sleep-training-noelle-part-ii/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937301 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 22:45:21 +0000 PrincessBaby 937301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. High Heels: How long did it take...How many nights??? We're on night 5 and I dont know how much more I can take torturing my sweet girl:( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937299 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 22:43:40 +0000 PrincessBaby 937299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks you guys! She went back to sleep after 13 minutes. I'm going to lose my shit over this sleep training...It sucks so bad:( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937293 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 22:40:22 +0000 mrbee 937293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup exactly what @Mrs. High Heels: said!</p> <p>Maybe she pooped... that could cause a reaction like this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937291 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 22:38:11 +0000 bunnylove08 937291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What mrs high heals said. Keep us posted </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937280 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 22:32:31 +0000 travelgirl1 937280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that given the time (you're on ET, right?) I would go in. She's been down for a few hours, there could be a really good reason why she's crying.. . but picking her up would reassure you that she's okay, then you can just put her straight back down if she stops crying. She's doing awesome with sleep by the sound of it, yay to both of you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937279 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 22:31:47 +0000 RubyCali 937279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd give it 15-20 minutes or so and then go in for a quick check if she was still hysterical, same as Mrs. High Heels.</p> <p>::hugs:: It isn't easy but it's worth it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937275 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 22:30:32 +0000 HLK208 937275@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. High Heels: same!</p> <p>Hope she calms down soon!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shes-awake-amp-hystericalwtd#post-937270 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 22:27:32 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 937270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I pretty much did the extinction method, but if DD was hysterical, I would go in ONE time. If I picked her up and she immediately stopped crying, then I'd know she was fine, put her back down, and not go back in. However, sometimes I would pick her up and find that she needed to let out a burp. It might be good to check at least once just to make sure she's ok. If you pick her up and she immediately stops crying, it'll give you a sign that she's fine and at least give you some peace of mind moving forward... </p>