https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 13 May 2026 18:15:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2513106 Fri, 01 Apr 2016 14:59:08 +0000 Maysprout 2513106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Id just be cautious. Maybe ask her to keep it covered and wash her hands frequently just in case. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2513091 Fri, 01 Apr 2016 14:45:06 +0000 MrsBrewer 2513091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would for sure tell them to stay home! Although in my situation, I've never had the chicken pox, so it's a no brainer for me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2512983 Fri, 01 Apr 2016 13:41:27 +0000 nana87 2512983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: oh I didn't know it was rare to get shingles again! She just had it in January though, so I don't know if that makes a difference--like if it never really went all the way away. I have no idea. But maybe it really is just eczema...I want to trust her, and I probably would have like a year ago, but she's gone a little off the rails since fil passed away in terms of always acting like she's the victim and giving dh guilt trips for the most ridiculous things. Like, sil was going to visit us in a month to help out with child care while lo's daycare is closed for spring break, and her reaction was "why are you leaving me out? I'm all alone! wah wah wahhhhhh." Because heaven forbid dh have an independent relationship with his own sister.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2512910 Fri, 01 Apr 2016 13:01:12 +0000 Foodnerd81 2512910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nana87: I was kidding about taking her to the doctor, but it majorly sucks that you can't just trust her. But isn't it rare to get shingles twice anyway? So hopefully that means she's telling the truth... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2512895 Fri, 01 Apr 2016 12:48:01 +0000 nana87 2512895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: I think she'd be super offended/act dramatically if we made her go to a dr in front of us. She's had shingles before and had to take a huge amount of pills multiple times per day, so dh and I will just be watching her extra closely while she's here. If she is lying, and just decided on her own that she wasn't contagious/wouldn't let near her affected spots (it's on her neck so she can't hold lo), then I'm just done with her--she's no longer welcome in our home/near lo, at least for awhile. She's also going to be staying at my dad's apt, and my dad is having cataract surgery in about 10 days, so exposing him is also hugely not okay </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2512877 Fri, 01 Apr 2016 12:36:25 +0000 Foodnerd81 2512877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.Pinecone316: I agree- I'd be pissed if I went to a little kids bday party and found out people showed up with shingles. You never know who has added immune concerns- little baby at home, newly pregnant mom, someone who cares for a sick relative... </p> <p>@nana87: can she get a third opinion with you present so you can actually believe her? I guess just watch her carefully and make sure she isn't touching too many kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2512872 Fri, 01 Apr 2016 12:32:08 +0000 red_seattle 2512872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've had shingles, and was told what Mrs. Deer said-- that it's only contagious if someone touches blisters.. My spots were throughout my torso and upper legs-- areas where you'd have to make an effort to touch, you know? :) And, I didn't have blisters. So, I was ok to carry on with normal activity with no contagion risk. So, depending on where the spots were, I would have been fine with the shingles addled family visiting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2512847 Fri, 01 Apr 2016 12:06:37 +0000 avivoca 2512847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I would ask them both to stay home. It's not worth the risk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2512829 Fri, 01 Apr 2016 11:58:16 +0000 nana87 2512829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>thank you everyone for your responses! this definitely made me feel justified/not too harsh in what we had decided. </p> <p>As an update, mil got a second opinion--she was first diagnosed at urgent care and then went to her dermatologist--and supposedly does NOT have shingles, just excema. sil def has shingles and isn't coming, but mil IS coming... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2512363 Thu, 31 Mar 2016 22:31:31 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 2512363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You made the right choice by not having them come! I couldn't imagine bringing my child to birthday party and find out there were 2 people there with shingles. Just not worth the risk of exposing other adults/children/preggos. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2511196 Thu, 31 Mar 2016 08:46:41 +0000 BrandNewMom 2511196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just had a severe case of shingles in my eye/nose/mouth in January. My face still randomly burns/twitches.<br /> You could not pay me to go within 100 feet of someone with singles, I don't care how small the risk of infection is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2511192 Thu, 31 Mar 2016 08:41:15 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 2511192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had shingles when I was like 6 and wouldn't wish it on anyone. Big nope. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2510990 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 23:28:21 +0000 Mrs. Deer 2510990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I see wanting to be cautious, but if the rash is covered it shouldn't be too big an issue. Someone needs to come into contact with the blistery rash to be at risk of them catching chicken pox. Sounds like you've already made the decision but something to keep in mind for next time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2510989 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 23:28:08 +0000 AprilFool 2510989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't just be concerned about the kids but everyone attending, shingles is awful for adults as well. I would tell them not to come. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2510976 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 22:42:22 +0000 Corduroy 2510976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nana87: I don't know but my dad and my brother had the shingles when I was pregnant. Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2510929 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 20:57:01 +0000 littlebug 2510929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definite no. Shingles is no joke. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2510899 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 20:15:06 +0000 mrsrain 2510899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely would tell them not to come. It's not fair to expose others to them, even if you'd personally be okay with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2510892 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 20:08:06 +0000 LovelyPlum 2510892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say skip and plan something special with them on abother weekend. You don't mess with shingles. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2510874 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 19:48:19 +0000 Mrs Hedgehog 2510874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! Even with the vaccine your LO can still catch the pox. Not worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2510872 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 19:44:17 +0000 MrsF 2510872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd have done the same. Pregnant women shouldn't have contact with people with shingles either - so I'd be worried if any other moms are pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2510871 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 19:43:27 +0000 babynumber1 2510871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would let them as long as the site of the outbreak is covered and there is no touching at all. No hugs, kisses or high 5's. It is only supposed to be contagious if you come in contact with the oozing blisters. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2510861 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 19:30:04 +0000 pastemoo 2510861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>School told me to recommend patients with active shingles outbreak to not interact with small children... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2510845 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 19:07:04 +0000 nana87 2510845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: yes on feeling guilty and rushed! mil is the master of giving guilt trips...there would be a lot of "oh, I drove all this way and you won't spend more time with me??" plus, sil is the one who told us, I sort of doubt mil would have... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2510841 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 19:03:22 +0000 deerylou 2510841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd have done the same thing, out of respect for our party guests. Even if everyone was looking forward to the visit, knowing they were sequestered nearby and waiting on us to finish our activities would make me feel guilty and rushed. Not the vibe I'd care to have on LO's birthday weekend. I'm just glad they gave you a heads up; I have IL's who hide illnesses and it's made for some *stellar* interactions. :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2510838 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 18:53:32 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2510838@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have said don't come. Lots of LOs friends have younger siblings that come to parties that wouldn't have the vaccine. And lots of my friends are pregnant therefore weakened immune system. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2510837 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 18:53:16 +0000 pwnstar 2510837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hard pass. Shingles are contagious (in some forms). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2510835 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 18:49:22 +0000 HabesBabe 2510835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If they were really looking forward to seeing LO, I would have them come to your house, but not to the events. I would leave the call up to them if they think it's worth coming out or not without going to the main events. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2510833 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 18:46:52 +0000 nana87 2510833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: we actually already told them not to come, I was just curious to see what other people would do in the same situation/if we're being too harsh! there are a bunch of other family drama issues at work here too--dh is trying to figure out some boundary issues with them now--so I just wanted to hear objective perspectives. we would feel terrible if our party was the cause for anyone to get sick</p> <p>and ugh that sucks that your dh got it even though he had chicken pox before! and it scares me--I don't want to catch it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2510830 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 18:40:08 +0000 regberadaisy 2510830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nana87: if you and DH are ok with them being around the kids, then maybe let them decide if it's worth the trip?</p> <p>DH and I both had chicken pox when we were younger! Poor guy got it right after he got HFM from DD1 since his immune system was weakened. Which btw if anyone in your family has a weakened immune system then I'd ask them to stay away for that reason! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shingles-and-lo-birthday-party#post-2510829 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 18:37:36 +0000 nana87 2510829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: my worry about having them come is that they'd really only see lo Saturday after her nap--they'd get in late Friday, not come over until after we're home from the concert, come over for a few hours after nap, stay away during the party Sun morning, and then leave Sun afternoon as sil has to work on Mon...it doesn't seem worth the ~8 hr in the car to me for them to only see lo for like 5 hrs on Sat and maybe an hour or 2 on Sun. Plus, they'll be here in a few weeks to visit again anyway</p> <p>totally different when it's your dh, but ugh that must have sucked! neither dh nor I have had the vaccine, but I had chicken pox as a kid, and I think dh did but I'm not sure...lo's only had the first of the vaccines though, not the second dose </p>