https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 07:57:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-be-waiting-for-crying#post-732741 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 12:56:01 +0000 skibobrown 732741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also had a pretty laid back baby. I learned the lesson a few times over though that if they're not *really* awake and wanting food, to not get up and get ready to feed. Basically, if DD started fussing, I would just reach over to her pack n play (she was right next to my bed at that age), turn on her sleep sheep, and put her binky in her mouth. Often she went right back to sleep, but after 2-3 cycles of that behavior it would stop working and then I knew she was actually hungry for food. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-be-waiting-for-crying#post-732660 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 11:12:38 +0000 googly-eyes 732660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@charlotte: I would wait a little longer, and if you think it's been too short since a feeding, try a paci (if you're ok with those.) It helped us differentiate between when LO was hungry or when it was just a wakeup or whatever. So when she spit the paci out we'd feed her. </p> <p>We were told that at a certain weight they can sttn, but that doesn't mean they will. LO is now 7 months and still eats every 2.5-4 hours, usually every 3 hours, throughout the daytime. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-be-waiting-for-crying#post-732590 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 09:59:03 +0000 charlotte 732590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yay I am so glad I'm not alone! I think I honed in way too much on "if they need you at this age pick them up bc you can't spoil them..." and didnt realize that 95% of the time he didnt need me! If I had a longer walk to his room (we share a wall) maybe he'd have been back to sleep already all those times. </p> <p>I am actually excited for tonight so I can see what he does with a new understanding.. Thanks all!</p> <p>And yeah, isn't the peanut gallery annoying? I hate the linking of weight to sleep thing. He will be ready when he's ready and I'm fine with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-be-waiting-for-crying#post-732587 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 09:56:51 +0000 sarac 732587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have always let my baby fuss until I was sure she was up and not going back to sleep. Never long because I quickly learned the difference between 'I'm fussing but not really awake' and 'I'm awake you jerks come get me'. You probably know the difference too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-be-waiting-for-crying#post-732570 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 09:38:07 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 732570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's so confusing when they don't cry! I probably wait 15 mins of constant fussing...usually I fall back asleep. He's quiet fusses the most in the morning which I think is usually gas. As he's gotten older he's started to real cry more, but usually only in the evening. I do think eating that frequently is normal though...maybe just not overnight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-be-waiting-for-crying#post-732565 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 09:33:00 +0000 oliviaoblivia 732565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For a longtime I'd attend to the first signs of fussing at night. She'd sleep for 7-8 hours, fuss a little bit, eat while sleeping for less than ten minutes then sleep for 4-5 hours. I decided one night to offer a paci when she fussed, she took it, konked out for her usual 4-5. The next night she slept 12 straight and has been doing it ever since. I wonder how much earlier she would have STTN had I not been so keen on her not crying.<br /> She still cluster feeds (every 1.5-2 hours) in the evening to stock up on calories. As long as she is gaining I'm not worried. And she's big for her age. Ignore the peanut gallery. You know YOUR baby better than they do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-be-waiting-for-crying#post-732546 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 09:14:55 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 732546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was how I set bad sleep habits for our older daughter. I somehow thought I was doing us all a favor by preempting the cry and addressing the fuss. What I did instead was prevent the building of any self soothing skills. It's not a bad thing and I still think that with my first I was unable to help myself, but in hindsight I would have tried a little harder to let her soothe herself back to sleep before responding and only intervene if she cried. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-be-waiting-for-crying#post-732540 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 09:07:53 +0000 MaisyMay 732540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@charlotte: Not a fail. This parenting thing is hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-be-waiting-for-crying#post-732503 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 08:36:50 +0000 loveisstrange 732503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO was 10lbs8oz at birth and still ate every 2-3 hours for the first couple months. It, honestly, has nothing to do with weight. It has everything to do with the fact that they grow at an enormous rate for the first 6 months or so, so the frequent feedings are necessary.</p> <p>If he's hungry, feed him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-be-waiting-for-crying#post-732487 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 08:17:28 +0000 chrispygal 732487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO was born on the bigger side (8lbs 12oz) and she could go 3 hours between feedings, sometimes 4. She was losing weight so the doctors had me wake her to feed her, and that kept on until she was about 6 weeks or so. After that, I let her tell me when she was ready to eat at night and would wait for her to cry. By 9 weeks I decided to use a paci in the middle of the night to see if she wanted to be soothed, or fed. The paci worked and we had no night feedings after this point. She definitely let me know when she was ready to eat, as will your little guy. My daughter is not a big crier either, but she definitely let me know the difference. Every baby is different, so trust your instincts. I think as long as the doctor's are happy with his weight gain, do not worry about waking him to feed. I'd personally wait for the crying and think that my actions around this time helped get my daughter to sleep through the night by 13 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-be-waiting-for-crying#post-732474 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 07:56:33 +0000 Beehive 732474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read that you should wait for 5-10 minutes before tending to a fussing baby overnight - that way you'll know whether they're just fussing because they're transitioning between sleep cycles, or whether they are really awake and there is something they actually need. I've found that guideline helpful - sometimes LO will fuss/cry for a minute or so, and then stop, and watching him on the video monitor he's probably still asleep (or at least mostly asleep). Of course, if he's crying like he's in distress, I'll go to him right away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-be-waiting-for-crying#post-732462 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 07:33:27 +0000 dagret 732462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>L still eats every 2 hrs and he's 3 months old. </p> <p>I let him get into a full on wail till I get him. The only exception is if I know he has a poopy diaper. He pooped in his sleep last night and it was so loud I could hear it without the monitor! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-be-waiting-for-crying#post-732458 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 07:29:03 +0000 NovBaby1112 732458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did exactly what you were doing for the longest time. Dd is not much of a crier and only wakes up fussing (except during a growth spurt of wonder week- then she wails!) I just always thought since she is up and fussing/making noises, she would eventually cry, so I usually would go to her right away and nurse her so she would go back to sleep. Then I started just letting her fuss a bit and she ended up putting herself back to sleep (who knows if she was even actually awake to begin with or not). Now she just wakes up 1x a night to feed. So I would maybe just give lo a little bit more time before going to him and see if he falls back asleep. Of course if he starts crying, he is prob hungry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-be-waiting-for-crying#post-732418 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 06:15:28 +0000 chopsuey 732418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I let my son fuss a bit before I get him. Most of the time he goes back to sleep.<br /> He usually fusses for 5-15 mins when I put him down drowsy for naps too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-be-waiting-for-crying#post-732416 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 06:09:44 +0000 charlotte 732416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you all for the reassurance! I am blind without my contacts so I usually hear the fuss and grunting but don't see his face. Last night I looked closely and his eyes were closed! It just happened again. I think I've been waking him up the last couple wks! Fail! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-be-waiting-for-crying#post-732408 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 05:13:39 +0000 blackbird 732408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ha, I had this experience at 215 this morning! She eats every 3-4 hours and was making all kinds of noises at 2.5 hours. We gave her five minutes and she fell back asleep until 10 minutes ago! We feed on a schedule pretty heavily-otherwise I find I want to give a bottle for everything. And I know she can go 3 hours</p> <p>A sleep book I read said babies will cry lot and whimper when transitioning between sleep cycles and I'll be damned if that isn't it most of the time </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-be-waiting-for-crying#post-732405 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 05:09:07 +0000 Penny Lane 732405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my LO wasn't much of a crier at 6 weeks either (now, let it be known, he is the king of all criers) and i would always make sure he was definitely awake before i picked him up. and if he went back to sleep we would celebrate ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-be-waiting-for-crying#post-732398 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 04:32:06 +0000 Smurfette 732398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just count your lucky stars, I have a cryier, a very loud and often one. If she goes back to sleep, I would go back to sleep too. Mine makes all kind of noises in her sleep as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-be-waiting-for-crying#post-732388 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 03:46:32 +0000 photojane 732388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At 6 weeks our LO was still in our room, but I've never picked her up from her bed unless she was actually crying. She used to wiggle &amp; make tons of noises in her sleep. If I picked her up &amp; fed her every time she stirred I'd be up all night &amp; she'd be enormous! haha. Little babies are such active sleepers... they will open and close their eyes, move around, whimper, talk, snore, etc. She's almost 10 weeks now, and though she's less active in her aleep and STTN, she still randomly opens her eyes, whimpers, and then goes back to sleep. My LO isn't much of a crier either, but I do go to her immediately if she actually starts crying (which means she's actually awake, alert, and upset). She definitely wasn't sleeping through the night yet at 6 weeks, so I wouldn't worry about that either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-be-waiting-for-crying#post-732384 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 02:29:51 +0000 charlotte 732384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is nearly six weeks now and still not a crier. He will do one solitary wail on occasion,usually for a slow bottle warmer :)</p> <p>He eats every 2-3:30 hrs now. some people have made me feel like he shouldbe doing longer stretches especially because he is over 11 pounds. From my reading its normal?</p> <p>Anyway, my REAL q is how long do you let a baby this age FUSS at night? I do not mean CIO. I just heard fussing and saw open eyes on the monitor. I went and popped a bottle in the warmer, went to his room, and he was back to sleep! Should I be letting him get to more of a cry? I'm wondering if I'm interrupting his self soothing and shortening his feeding cycles? Or is it too early and I should continue running in there to meet needs ASAP (which for me has meant " I think you're awake, you will be hungry, I'm making a bottle so you don't have to wait, and then I will pick you up at the first loud fuss." Starting to think I should give him a little time..? </p>