https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 05:15:55 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-listen-to-my-husband-and-find-a-new-job#post-2126783 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 11:26:31 +0000 Mrs. Coral 2126783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't let interviews or the fear of the unknown stop you. Change is scary as shit. I left a well-paying job with a lot of growth potential and a huge hours requirement due to working with a toxic individual and crappy management. It was the best decision of my life. My marriage thrives because of my decision and my newborn will too. </p> <p>Do what will make you happy, regardless Of how scary it is. Once you conquer the scary, you will surprise and impress yourself with how strong you are! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-listen-to-my-husband-and-find-a-new-job#post-2126780 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 11:25:57 +0000 ElbieKay 2126780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely look around. Besides, a job with long hours and a stingy vacation policy is NOT a good job to have as a mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-listen-to-my-husband-and-find-a-new-job#post-2126773 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 11:21:51 +0000 blackbird 2126773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd at least look around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-listen-to-my-husband-and-find-a-new-job#post-2126764 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 11:11:29 +0000 Bluebonnet 2126764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was going to suggest the same thing as @Cole: and @T.H.O.U.: Use this time to see what else is out there. You'll either find out that things aren't so bad where you are OR you'll find a great new job. Either way, you have some peace of mind about your decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-listen-to-my-husband-and-find-a-new-job#post-2126569 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 09:34:35 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2126569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think maybe just do a compromise. Tell your husband you will start to look around and maybe do a few interviews. You never know whats out there. It could be a dream job, or it could be too big of a risk that you don't like it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-listen-to-my-husband-and-find-a-new-job#post-2126552 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 09:28:58 +0000 Cole 2126552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would vote that instead of looking at it as finding a new job you look at it as checking to see what else is out there. Get someone to help you with a resume, buy a fabulous new interview outfit. If you're still near your college they may be able to help with the resume and practice interview. Throw your hat into the ring and see what happens, worst case you stay where you are but know you made an informed decision, best case, you find an amazing new job that you love. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-listen-to-my-husband-and-find-a-new-job#post-2126524 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 09:15:59 +0000 babycanuck 2126524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Go for the new job. I've had so much regret not leaving a crappy environment despite me loving the actual work I do, and to be honest it's made me more and more miserable over time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-listen-to-my-husband-and-find-a-new-job#post-2126520 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 09:14:07 +0000 LindsayInNY 2126520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The fact that you're in Canada helps regarding leave time.</p> <p>FWIW, I changed jobs last May, when we were already seeing the RE for treatment. I'm due at the end of June, just over a year after starting here. Such is life sometimes. </p> <p>I'm kinda with your husband though. Reason one isn't a reason to stay there. Time off sucks, hours suck... Aside from liking the work, why are you staying there?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-listen-to-my-husband-and-find-a-new-job#post-2126416 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 08:08:41 +0000 Umbreon 2126416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2PeasinaPod: I'm in Canada. I think I have 6 months to qualify for maternity leave. And yes, I would have enough time, assuming I found a new job within a reasonable time frame. But I would hate to start a new job, work there for a few months and then get pregnant. I guess it probably happens all the time though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-listen-to-my-husband-and-find-a-new-job#post-2126412 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 08:07:01 +0000 Umbreon 2126412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ValentineMommy: It could... I mean, I feel like the company must see they're doing something wrong when all these people are quitting (people who have worked here for 20 years!) </p> <p>I tend to be optimistic and keep saying things are going to get better. But it almost seems like it's just getting worse. But it has to hit the all time low at some point... maybe it has now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-listen-to-my-husband-and-find-a-new-job#post-2126409 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 08:06:09 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2126409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not in your situation, but reading what you wrote above, I agree with your husband.</p> <p>Being scared of interviewing should not be a deterrent from finding a new job. Sometimes it takes leaving a company and going somewhere else to get paid the money that you deserve to be paid. </p> <p>And I'm failing to see how this will affect your TTC timeline. Are you in the US? If so, once you're somewhere a year, you have 12 weeks of unpaid leave that protects your job. If you're not looking to TTC until September, and assuming that you get pregnant right away (which isn't a guarantee), you'll have that year under your belt if you find a new job in the next 3 months. </p> <p>Being comfortable is never a great reason to stay in any job. I know that you said you enjoy what you do, but if the environment is toxic, it's only a matter of time before you become bitter and resentful.</p> <p>ETA: The best time to look for a new job is when you already have a job! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-listen-to-my-husband-and-find-a-new-job#post-2126403 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 08:02:43 +0000 ValentineMommy 2126403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Any chance the environment will change? I am always hesitant to leave a job, personally, for a lot of those same reasons. Plus, it's hard to find a good job! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-listen-to-my-husband-and-find-a-new-job#post-2126393 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 07:57:21 +0000 Umbreon 2126393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Recently there have been many changes at work (not really good changes). In the last 6 months or so, morale has gone completely down. Things were bad and then a co-worker who had worked here for 15 years quit. He was valuable and I thought things couldn't possibly get worse. Then they laid off a bunch of people. Since then there have been at least 5 more people who have quit. </p> <p>It's mostly because of someone who was hired less than a year ago, and all the changes she has made. It's almost felt like a big mess that's not getting cleaned up. Things just keep going down. The vacation/sick time sucks here (another reason my husband hates my job) and the work hours are on the longer side.</p> <p>My husband keeps urging me to find a new job. These are my reasons why I don't want to:</p> <p>1. Interviews scare me. The thought of learning a new job scares me. Meeting new people scares me. I'm comfortable here and I'm good at my job. What if I hate my new job? I got this job right out of college and have worked here for almost 5 years. I worked at one other place during school, and didn't like it nearly as much. </p> <p>2. I love the actual work we do. The environment sucks, but I love the product. I feel like I'm actually making a difference. With my kind of job, you can work with any type of work - insurance, financial, HR, medical, etc. And I actually love what I work on. I wouldn't feel the same way if I worked for a insurance office or something.</p> <p>3. I really want to start TTC soon. Our timeline is at the end of this year, but I'm hoping to try to get everything done with our house sooner, so we can start trying sooner. I'm thinking September ideally. I think that I should just tough it out so I can get the maternity leave when I want it without worrying or postponing our TTC plans and not feeling like I accepted a new job just to get pregnant right away.</p> <p>I guess what REALLY scares me though is the fact that all these people are quitting. The head office is not in my city so it's not completely out of the question that this office could close. We still have around 100 people working here, and they are hiring new people to replace those who leave. So that's at least a good sign...</p> <p>Reading the pros and cons, do I seem crazy for wanting to continue working here? I will not be a SAHM once we have kids, I will be a working mom. </p>