https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 10 May 2026 20:32:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-send-a-thank-you#post-961091 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 20:31:54 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 961091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah I can see how it could come off as a backhanded dig. But, I think you should acknowledge their attendance. </p> <p>@SweetMamaM: agrer. FB or an smile will suffice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-send-a-thank-you#post-961068 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 20:22:47 +0000 cavalierkcs 961068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I vote to send a thank you card. I feel like you can't go wrong by thanking someone for coming. We had several guests who traveled to our wedding but did not give us a gift and I wrote to thank them for "sharing in the happiness of our wedding day" or something to that effect </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-send-a-thank-you#post-961064 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 20:22:09 +0000 mrsbookworm 961064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would send a thank you for celebrating with you, I think it would be a nice gesture... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-send-a-thank-you#post-961058 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 20:20:06 +0000 avivoca 961058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would thank them for attending at least. I wouldn't see it as backhanded as long as your wording sounded sincere. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-send-a-thank-you#post-961047 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 20:17:50 +0000 SweetMamaM 961047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I said email or Facebook message saying that it was nice to see them... I wouldn't send them a formal thank you. I didn't for my wedding or hen night either if they didn't bring a gift. My thought process is that attendance is thanked in person both verbally and with favors, gifts are thanked after the fact. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-send-a-thank-you#post-960840 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 19:16:59 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 960840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been dealing with a similar situation - we had a shower last night where a few people attended, but didn't bring anything. I honestly want to write them a note to thank them for coming, because it was great to see them! I think I'm just struggling with the wording.<br /> But really...as long as you're genuine in your response, people shouldn't take it the wrong way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-send-a-thank-you#post-960823 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 19:12:51 +0000 kjpugs 960823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had two showers, both out of state. Per request (yeah, I know, some people think that's rude, sorry) 95% of gifts have been sent to us after being purchased from our registries online. But probably 1/3 of the people who attended our showers- maybe a bit more- did not give gifts. It's been nearly 3 weeks since the first shower and nearly 2 since the other. Do I wait a bit and see if those friends/family members send gifts and then write a thank you? Or send them a thank you now for coming? Really gift or not I would love to thank them for attending- it was great seeing everyone! But I remember when my SIL (we were not on great terms at the time) sent a thank you note to us... to thank us for the card we sent to congratulate them on their elopement. It seemed kind of backhanded like "thanks for getting us nothing." (She had sent a "we eloped" type email with her registry info in it! We didn't feel it was appropriate to give a gift since we weren't invited and we weren't on good terms.) I don't want the note to come off as snarky or backhanded.</p> <p>I asked twitter and got a big YES but my mom is saying um NO. So I'm conflicted! HELP! </p>