https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 26 May 2026 13:23:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-tell-my-boss-about-pregnancy#post-535712 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 23:47:49 +0000 SweetMamaM 535712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @marionberry: - it totally depends on your relationship with your boss. If I knew it was going to affect my attendance at work, I'd tell the person that scheduled substitutes and probably my two closest work colleagues, but not my boss... not til we knew everything was all good. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-tell-my-boss-about-pregnancy#post-535527 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 21:17:47 +0000 marionberry 535527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it depends on your relationship with your boss and when you feel ready. I'm close with my boss and told him as soon as we even started seeing the RE because I knew I would have lots of appointments I needed to miss work for. I also told him when it worked and asked him to keep it a secret until we're ready for the rest of the office to know. It has worked out great for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-tell-my-boss-about-pregnancy#post-534290 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 13:50:24 +0000 ladyfingers 534290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think you're under any obligation to at all. However, I had a similar situation -- bleeding/spotting for 2 weeks between 6-8 weeks pregnant -- and while it wasn't "necessary," it made me feel better to go into the doctor, which resulted in 3 weekly visits. I felt better telling my boss what was going on, but I also work in a very small, close-knit office and my boss has two kids and 100% understands how fragile pregnancies are. I felt like for me personally, I needed to tell her just so somebody would know what was going on with me. And that if something did go wrong, she would know and I'd have that support. Nobody else had to know, and nobody did know until I told the office at 12 weeks. And she was great, and it was a big relief knowing that she knew. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-tell-my-boss-about-pregnancy#post-534061 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 12:44:11 +0000 Modern Daisy 534061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't. Don't feel bad, people go to the dr. all the time and it's not always pre-planned. It's still cold and flu season! Honestly I think work should be the last to know unless there's a reason they absolutely have to know early, like if you're exposed to something dangerous to the baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-tell-my-boss-about-pregnancy#post-534024 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 12:34:03 +0000 littlek 534024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a lot of spotting during my first trimester, breakthrough bleeding around the time I would get my period and one really scary spotting episode, where I left the office crying. I personally waited to tell my boss till 2nd trimester and just made up excuses for my drs appt. Hang in there and I hope you are okay. Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-tell-my-boss-about-pregnancy#post-534017 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 12:31:51 +0000 littlek 534017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't tell until you are ready. Just say you have an unexpected something. Is your boss a male or female? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-tell-my-boss-about-pregnancy#post-533926 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 12:09:32 +0000 Alivoo01 533926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Doctor appointments are personal business, worse case is she asks for verification (aka a doctor's note). I wouldn't tell until you're ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-tell-my-boss-about-pregnancy#post-533910 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 12:06:12 +0000 cascademom 533910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: In the case of early pregnancy, it's okay not to tell especially if you're worrying about the outcome. I fretted a lot in those early weeks and through most of my pregnancy. Once you've got a confirmation that everything's okay and are past 14 weeks, then I would tell. After I told my boss, I just gave him ann email with all of my upcoming appointments on it. It worked well for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-tell-my-boss-about-pregnancy#post-533897 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 12:01:34 +0000 rachiecakes 533897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: I'm the minority, but I work in a super small office and if one person is out, it's a pretty big deal. I was a nervous wreck trying to schedule in appointments in the beginning and for me, it's was better to save myself the anxiety and just tell my immediate supervisor and one co-worker (the one that I'm friendly with and would have to cover for me if I was out). It took a huge weight off of me and they were super helpful &amp; supportive. I asked them not to say anything until 14 weeks when I told everyone and they were great about keeping my little secret. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-tell-my-boss-about-pregnancy#post-533886 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 11:57:54 +0000 Foodnerd81 533886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would only tell your boss if they were someone you would want to tell if something happened. I felt a little flaky too, when I was out for a long appointment, but I ultimately felt more comfortable with the lying than telling early. I didn't tell until after we got the results of the first ultrasound, so about 13 weeks. (last week). She acted like she didn't suspect, but I don't know if she was lying :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-tell-my-boss-about-pregnancy#post-533862 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 11:50:28 +0000 Adira 533862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Between weeks 7 and 9 of my pregnancy, I was out SIX TIMES for appointments (though one was for the dentist!). I just told my boss I had an appointment each time and left it at that. I thought for sure that he must've known what was going on, but when I finally DID tell him at 15 weeks, he had no idea!</p> <p>So my advice is not to tell your boss until you're ready, whether she speculates or not! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-tell-my-boss-about-pregnancy#post-533814 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 11:31:19 +0000 mlm2934 533814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: yea that's kinda what I've been thinking - if I just stay mum she won't ask, but will probably start to suspect, and while I hate feeling dishonest, I guess there isn't anything wrong with a few weeks of speculation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-tell-my-boss-about-pregnancy#post-533812 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 11:30:36 +0000 Smurfette 533812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't. I would just saw that you have to go to the doctor, if she says you just went, just say they need to re-run some tests. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-tell-my-boss-about-pregnancy#post-533809 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 11:29:47 +0000 cascademom 533809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd wait. I had some spotting in the beginning of my pregnancy. I had a late in the day appointment when it bothered me so much. I didn't tell my boss about it. He just went along with it. With my unexpected appointment, I got a pregnancy confirmation with an internal ultrasound. The next week, I went for my 8 weeks appointment. I didn't tell my boss I was pregnant until I was 13 weeks after that ultrasound. He already suspected, but kept quiet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-tell-my-boss-about-pregnancy#post-533806 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 11:29:33 +0000 Mrsbells 533806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: I think 5 weeks is a bit early to tell them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-tell-my-boss-about-pregnancy#post-533799 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 11:26:29 +0000 2PeasinaPod 533799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agreed...the only thing you should tell her is that you have an unexpected medical issue that you need to be seen for. If you're not comfortable telling her about it, you don't have to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-tell-my-boss-about-pregnancy#post-533793 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 11:25:16 +0000 tororojo 533793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't! Your medical issues are your business. But if you think you should, go for it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-tell-my-boss-about-pregnancy#post-533787 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 11:24:01 +0000 mlm2934 533787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I'm on the verge of my second unexpected dr visit in a week due to spotting. I may not have to go in, but I have a feeling my dr will want me to again. I'm only 5 weeks along. Should I tell my boss what's going on? I don't want to seem flaky or her to think I'm lying about unexpected appts. </p>