https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 06 Jun 2026 22:22:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-throw-in-the-towel#post-2007494 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 23:25:49 +0000 BabyBruins 2007494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CakeLady: I don't have advice, but totally in the same boat and it's killing me. j will be 7 months next week and he has started waking up at 4 am ready for the day. I end up feeding him and he goes back to sleep (after talking to himself for an hour) but then will sleep so late that the rest of our day is completely thrown off schedule. I am willing to do one night feed, but a 4 am "up for the day" is UNACCEPTABLE. I'm checking in with his ped this week to see if she has any ideas. If it's not better by the end of January, I'm hiring a sleep consultant.<br /> My older son responded wonderfully to sleep training, so the fact that this one is fighting me so much is hard to handle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-throw-in-the-towel#post-2007429 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 22:06:54 +0000 Kemma 2007429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CakeLady: fwiw my lo stopped resettling after her night feed at around six months and I spent the next 12-15 months feeding her to sleep and bedsharing once she woke up - both were saviours and I really believe my LO just needed nighttime calories and comfort. Miss A is now 26 months and is happy to put herself to bed and sleep all night - which I had very little input in!</p> <p>You're not alone and it will be ok! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-throw-in-the-towel#post-2007394 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 21:32:03 +0000 singingbee 2007394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CakeLady: we sleep trained and lo was sleeping through the night and then teeth happen, holidays happen, something will happen. Hang in there, momma! I will say that tonight she stood there 20 minutes before she finally sat down and went to sleep. No matter what you do, sometimes sleep is just hard for them and for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-throw-in-the-towel#post-2007391 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 21:27:03 +0000 CakeLady 2007391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: thanks, it's nice to be reminded that what's happening with DS is normal. I guess what I am trying to figure out is if I should keep trying/reading/researching to help him be a better sleeper, or just nurse/rock/co-sleep/send in DH/take the path of least resistance to help him sleep, even if it is really hard on me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-throw-in-the-towel#post-2007351 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 21:04:01 +0000 Kemma 2007351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice but just wanted to throw it out there that there will always be kids that need a bit more nighttime parenting and will wake through the night for awhile. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-throw-in-the-towel#post-2007154 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 18:51:57 +0000 .twist. 2007154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CakeLady: I ended up kind of doing it all at once. He was *ok* at falling asleep on his own, but not great, and he would sleep for about 2/3 hours and then we were up every single hour, to nurse or put a soother in.... It was so insane. So I did extinction for the entire night, bedtime and all night wake ups. It took 2 rough nights and then 1 kinda off night and ever since then he's been a fantastic sleeper! That was 13 months ago! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-throw-in-the-towel#post-2007142 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 18:40:25 +0000 CakeLady 2007142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: did you use extinction for motn wake ups too? Ferber worked well for bedtime, but we can't figure out what to do when he wakes up in the night, especially since I've still been feeding him once or twice (or more). Did you night wean first?</p> <p>@Cherrybee: I don't think i'll make it 17 months! Maybe we'll keep trying to work it out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-throw-in-the-towel#post-2007128 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 18:31:12 +0000 Cherrybee 2007128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry mama. :sad: </p> <p>FWIW, I never did sleep train (I wanted to it's just there was always a reason not to - wonder week, teething, cold) and my 17 month old still doesn't STTN. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-throw-in-the-towel#post-2007090 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 17:44:10 +0000 .twist. 2007090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. Sorry you're dealing with this! I went through some similar setbacks. L was getting up every.single.hour. It was a nightmare. </p> <p>We used the extinction method and had great success! So, personally, I would try sleep training again, maybe even a little more aggressively if you're comfortable with it. </p> <p>Alternately, I know a lot of ladies here have had success with milder forms of sleep training! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/should-i-throw-in-the-towel#post-2007062 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 17:17:27 +0000 CakeLady 2007062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is not a good sleeper and every time it seems like we are making a little progress we have a setback. He STTN for a few weeks around 3 mos. then he got a cold with terrible congestion that lasted a month - and by the end of it his sleep was totally messed up. So we sleep trained and it helped. Bed time was better and we he was down to one wake up. Then he got another cold, then the flu, then teething, then travel... He is 7mo and we are back to multiple night wakings and nursing 2-3 times a night. We tried sleep training (Ferber) a few nights ago and it helped for 3 nights. Now he is cutting 3 teeth and we are back to disaster town.</p> <p>I feel like I have tried everything, and nothing seems to stick. Should I just give up and accept his crappy sleep and do whatever it takes to get some rest? Or keep trying with the sleep training? Hold out hope for better sleep?</p> <p>Sorry for the novel... </p>