https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 14:14:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-guest-list-question#post-761045 Sat, 04 May 2013 12:26:56 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 761045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know my mom will be asking for a list soon, and I have a few friends that live about an hour away. I'll be adding them to the list, though I will completely understand if they can't make it. I don't expect my family (who lives 5 hours away) to come though (but I will invite them). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-guest-list-question#post-761019 Sat, 04 May 2013 12:09:24 +0000 jh524 761019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: I hear ya! I asked them all for their address And felt a bit awkward. But Id rather invite than piss anyone off in the building because one got invited and not the rest. I live in a small town so I think it's better to be nice, ya know. I just hope they don't feel obligated to buy a gift because I sent them a invite. Eek.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-guest-list-question#post-761017 Sat, 04 May 2013 12:05:07 +0000 Foodnerd81 761017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jh524: I don't know, because that's the other issue I have! I'd be OK with inviting a couple of the people around here, who have asked me about a shower, but then, like you said, do I have to invite that girl and this girl... It kind of seems easier to not invite anyone in the group. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-guest-list-question#post-761011 Sat, 04 May 2013 11:54:32 +0000 jh524 761011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I had a dilemma yesterday....I work in a small building that has 6 women. I've become friend with two, in which we've gotten together outside of work. I only invited one to my shower and now I'm wondering if I should've invited them all to avoid the" why did she get invited and not the rest of us" or just any sore feelings. I would rather invite than not invite and upset anyone. Too add, my shower is 2.5 hours away from home so realistically most won't come anyways but isn't it the thought that counts?? I hope it doesn't seem gift grabby, no my intentions at all!! Why donyou think? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-guest-list-question#post-755455 Wed, 01 May 2013 19:29:20 +0000 heffalump 755455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only sent oot invites to people who asked for them. I hate seeming gift grabby. But my friends pretty much told me if they'd be able to come or not before I sent out the invites.... Guess they all assumed they were invited. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-guest-list-question#post-755447 Wed, 01 May 2013 19:23:51 +0000 matador84 755447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did because I felt like they would be hurt if they didn't get an invite at all. Some out of towners surprised me and did make it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-guest-list-question#post-755400 Wed, 01 May 2013 18:42:00 +0000 jh524 755400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep I agree with you all in just the invitation means I know you'd come if you could but I know you won't and that's okay. Out of towners, both a few hrs away or a state away, still got invites from me because its family or friends I'd want at my shower...not poking for gifts at all, just didn't want them to think I'd left them out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-guest-list-question#post-755277 Wed, 01 May 2013 17:04:33 +0000 Smurfette 755277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did, even though I knew they couldn't come. More of wanting them to feel included. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-guest-list-question#post-755219 Wed, 01 May 2013 16:28:49 +0000 Pepper 755219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I put my out of town friends on there, knowing they would probably not be able to come. I think they would have felt left out if I didn't invite them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-guest-list-question#post-755213 Wed, 01 May 2013 16:25:59 +0000 Foodnerd81 755213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Chen: It's a little weird, because I'm not having a shower near where I live, only one where I grew up/my family lives. But I've recently gone to or will be going to a few baby showers. I just feel like an invite to a shower I know they won't go to (why would they drive 4 hours to celebrate me when I live 5 minutes away from them?) would be like, hey, here's your chance to give me something! I mean, I know they can (and probably will) give me something anyway, but I don't want to make them. Or insult them. Eh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-guest-list-question#post-755206 Wed, 01 May 2013 16:22:04 +0000 dolphin 755206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would include so they don't feel left out when they see pics on facebook. :) I included everyone even those who I knew wont be able to make it. And honestly, I think most people WANT to send gift so don't feel bad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-guest-list-question#post-755199 Wed, 01 May 2013 16:18:37 +0000 .twist. 755199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did put a few of my closer out of town friends and family on the list. If they can't come, they can't come. I don't expect gifts, I just want to see them there. Whether it looks like a gift grab or not, I'm not sure, but it's definitely not my intention! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-guest-list-question#post-755195 Wed, 01 May 2013 16:15:33 +0000 Alivoo01 755195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I put everyone on my list. I didn't want anyone to feel excluded so just out of courtesy, I'm asking my hostesses to send everybody one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-guest-list-question#post-755191 Wed, 01 May 2013 16:10:42 +0000 Foodnerd81 755191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Did you invite out of town friends to your baby shower? I have a few who I know might travel, so I'm keeping them on the list (I traveled to one of their showers so while I don't expect her to, she might, and I want her to be invited). But others, where I went to their shower locally, I don't expect them to travel a few hours to go to mine, so I should just not put them on the invite list, right? I don't want to exclude, but at the same time, otherwise I feel like I'm just asking for gifts. What would you do?</p> <p>ETA: I'm not planning or hosting it, I was just asked for a guest list! </p>