https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 09:52:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-vent#post-559589 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 01:50:34 +0000 sylvie_b 559589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ew, that's so annoying. :( i'm so sorry lady....i hope your shower is nothing but wonderful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-vent#post-559258 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 19:10:25 +0000 swedishfish 559258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's funny/sad that it's more important to your aunt that your cousin is at your shower than making sure YOU are at your shower. It's none of their business why you don't want your shower closer to your due date. If you want to explain, keep it short and simple. Did you let your mom know about your cousin's message? Maybe she could help mediate the situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-vent#post-559241 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 18:58:13 +0000 mrsmate 559241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry! Your cousin is out of line. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-vent#post-559238 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 18:54:21 +0000 lomom 559238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like to keep the peace, especially considering I barely see them. Honestly, we could move the date out but I'm due in May and really want to have the shower before I get too big and uncomfortable. I've also got high blood pressure and other risk factors for pre-e so I'm really scared I could wind up on bed rest. I'm just very much wanting to have the shower and get everything squared away in case I do wind up on bedrest or being induced early. My mom is also over 3 hours away so I don't want to be that far from the hospital at 36 weeks or later. My mom didn't really get into all this with my aunt (I asked her not to share the medical info) so I don't really want to share with my cousin either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-vent#post-559237 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 18:54:10 +0000 MrsH 559237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry. What a pain. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-vent#post-559227 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 18:43:48 +0000 NerdBee 559227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. Sorry that you have to deal with that. Your aunt sounds like a piece of work.</p> <p>Do you like your cousin and want to maintain a good relationship? If so, I would explain to her why you chose the date you did and that it had nothing to do with her. If not, then ignore would be the easiest thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-vent#post-559225 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 18:42:11 +0000 Smurfette 559225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry!! It is always a pain trying to find a date that works for everyone. Since it is family I would just write her back and explain to her why you had to choose that day. Say something that you hope she can work it out so that she can end up making it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-vent#post-559222 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 18:38:45 +0000 aprk 559222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, what a pain. With people like that who tend to make a stink over nothing, I'd either make one short, sweet statement about needing to coordinate schedules for yourself and the host, and then move on. Or, just ignore it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shower-vent#post-559219 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 18:36:09 +0000 lomom 559219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom and I have gone back and forth on shower dates, trying to work around my tax season schedule and her schedule without getting too close to my due date. </p> <p>My mom mentioned to my aunt that she was thinking of a couple of dates and my aunt told her that she couldn't do it on one of the dates because that's my cousin's kid's birthday party. She shot down another date, saying that my cousin was working, then told my mom which day it had to be because of various scheduling conflicts for my cousins. </p> <p>Well, I have a training at work that day that I can't miss so my mom told her that date wouldnt work. My mom and I picked a date that works for her and I and fits in with my due date.</p> <p>Now my cousin messaged me on Facebook accusing me of intentionally picking a date she couldn't be there. Wtf? </p> <p>I'm kind of thinking of ignoring the message but I don't want her to get the wrong idea. This aunt is quite petty and I'm sure she told my cousin that we chose that date so she couldn't come. She does stupid stuff like that. She loooooves to stir the pot. She tried to tell some of my relatives that LO was an oops. </p> <p>Ugh. So frustrating. </p>