https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 15 May 2026 02:42:08 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shynesswith-an-attitude#post-2610344 Thu, 25 Aug 2016 06:38:45 +0000 Bao 2610344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkElephant: I guess she has an attitude problem when she's just with me too, so I actually don't really know if it's just shyness :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shynesswith-an-attitude#post-2610226 Wed, 24 Aug 2016 19:55:02 +0000 PinkElephant 2610226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bao: DD1 went through a short-lived phase of telling other people that she didn't like them/"you're not my best friend". She picked it up from the little girl upstairs, who is the same age, which tells me maybe that attitude is just something kids experiment with as a bit of a power trip around this age.</p> <p>My take on handling this specific situation that you described is that it is okay to not want to play with someone at a given time, but that she cannot be rude about it. So she can choose to stay in the room with the visitor and parallel play (but she needs to stop the attitude), or she can take her attitude to another room. </p> <p>This is the tactic I am using to deal with my VERY moody newly four year old's hysterical emotional outbursts over (what I view as) very small things. It's fine for her to feel her feelings, but her sister and I don't need to be stressed out/upset by them. She can go to her room, or the bathroom, or wherever, and yell/cry/stomp it out, but she may not throw a fit/be nasty in front of other people. I'll physically escort her out of the room, and close the baby gate/door behind me if I have to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shynesswith-an-attitude#post-2610172 Wed, 24 Aug 2016 18:20:18 +0000 Bao 2610172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My oldest is turning 4 this week, and I don't know if this is normal for her age (I'm thinking no) or what, but I'm running out of ideas. If we run into someone we don't see a lot, or a stranger says hi, or a kid in the park wants to play my LO is shy, BUT half the time also gets mean. Today for example, we had friends stop over randomly. She was crying, then got an attitude and mean, turned bossy etc etc etc. It happens more than I think it should and I think her behavior is unnecessary. Does anyone go through this with their LO? How can I help change this type of behavior? Shyness is one thing, the attitude/rudeness isn't ok with me. Help! </p>