https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 14:53:55 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sibling-adjustments#post-2798339 Fri, 19 Jan 2018 16:03:22 +0000 Becky 2798339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2littlepumpkins: I love the response and it’s so true—I can’t recolve my life around the feelings of one of my kids. She would be in school so that would help. I would be going back to work full time which is the biggest thing holding us back from taking the plunge. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sibling-adjustments#post-2798332 Fri, 19 Jan 2018 15:52:11 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2798332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should do mostly what you want and just require the kids to adjust.</p> <p>I just had my third and when I first got pregnant I thought my now middle would be easier, but it turned out he has had a harder time. Although I still think as they get older he will be well suited to being the middle. All this to say you just don't know how they will react. My oldest who at first thought we had enough babies or should wait until our toddler is a big kid, LOVES the newborn. You just don't know until it happens sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sibling-adjustments#post-2798331 Fri, 19 Jan 2018 15:43:39 +0000 bhbee 2798331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is an interesting question - if this pregnancy sticks mine will be 6.5 and 3.5 when baby comes. I thought my oldest did pretty well with the first transition though. One big difference will be that your oldest will likely be in school full time by then. That’s a lot of time to focus on the baby when she’s not there - at least during mat leave, but on the flip side I can foresee witching hour being a mess when oldest wants my attention after school. I Sah since my second so may be a different dynamic, not really sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sibling-adjustments#post-2798305 Fri, 19 Jan 2018 14:32:27 +0000 Mamatimes3 2798305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No problem when the 3rd was added, though my age gap is smaller. My oldest was close to 4 when the youngest was born. He loved her from the start and was also very good when little brother was born. DS2 barely acknowledged her (he was 2). They all get along great now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sibling-adjustments#post-2798298 Fri, 19 Jan 2018 14:25:48 +0000 Becky 2798298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For those of you with 3 or more kids, how did subsequent added siblings affect your older children? I have no concern about DD2–she’d be a good middle sibling if we decided to add a third. Our oldest though didn’t adjust great to DD2 and I’m concerned how a baby would impact her. She’s be nice to the baby, but she is pretty possessive of my time. She’d be 6-7 if we had a third (still up in the air). </p>