https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 08:37:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sil-losing-baby-at-23-weeks#post-2242784 Wed, 22 Jul 2015 09:57:21 +0000 raintreebee 2242784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me, I think a massage or pedi would feel like it's kind of trivializing the loss, and I wouldn't feel like going to indulge myself for quite some time. I don't even think I'd be up for going to a restaurant. What about a gift basket from dean &amp; deluca or something like that? Something they can enjoy in the privacy of their home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sil-losing-baby-at-23-weeks#post-2242679 Wed, 22 Jul 2015 08:55:50 +0000 Alivoo01 2242679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your SIL's loss. Man, 23 weeks. Sigh. My heart breaks for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sil-losing-baby-at-23-weeks#post-2242610 Wed, 22 Jul 2015 07:56:13 +0000 LulaBee 2242610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry for them. I lost a baby at 23 weeks last year. She will probably still have to go through labor and delivery... I really appreciated a massage gift certificate- used it about a month or two later. Send food or wine, just tell them you love them. Use the baby's name around them. Her life has been changed forever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sil-losing-baby-at-23-weeks#post-2242599 Wed, 22 Jul 2015 07:46:29 +0000 NorthStar 2242599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you ladies! I think that I might send a gift card to one of the restaurants they like and a nice card with a note to let them know that we are here for them if or when they are ready. Unfortunately, we live a few hours away, so it's not easy to just run over there and drop off some meals... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sil-losing-baby-at-23-weeks#post-2242586 Wed, 22 Jul 2015 07:29:38 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2242586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NorthStar: Oh how sad! I probably wouldn't get her a massage. I went through a miscarriage much earlier than your SIL (9 weeks), but it really affected the way I felt about my body. I wouldn't have wanted a stranger touching me for a LONG time. And all that quiet and relaxing music might have felt overwhelming during the grieving process.</p> <p>I think anything you send or do will be appreciated. I had a friend send me an Amazon gift card with a little note, which was lovely. Food was great too! And another friend took me to a terrible chick flick (just nothing about babies!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sil-losing-baby-at-23-weeks#post-2242546 Wed, 22 Jul 2015 06:06:12 +0000 Adira 2242546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your SIL and family. How heartbreaking. :( Maybe bring her some comfort food (lasagna, casserole, chocolate, etc.)? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sil-losing-baby-at-23-weeks#post-2242508 Tue, 21 Jul 2015 22:58:34 +0000 xInfinity 2242508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This same thing happened to me a couple years ago (I was 21 weeks though). Went in for my ultrasound and got blindsided. No heartbeat.</p> <p>Everybody is different but for me, I needed space and time to process everything. I appreciated the texts and emails from everybody saying they were thinking of us and there if I wanted to talk. Offer your support but don't push yourself on her/them. I did NOT want to be around anybody but DH that first week afterward. The people that sent actual cards or flowers really meant a lot because it felt like they were acknowledging our huge loss. I think anything you do to show your love and support will be appreciated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sil-losing-baby-at-23-weeks#post-2242338 Tue, 21 Jul 2015 18:57:12 +0000 winter_wonder 2242338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think a massage, pedicure, or manicure would be a really nice gesture. How sad :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sil-losing-baby-at-23-weeks#post-2242334 Tue, 21 Jul 2015 18:46:08 +0000 NorthStar 2242334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister in law went in for her ultrasound today and there was no heartbeat :crying: it's so terribly devastating. I would like to send them something, but not sure what. Possibly a massage for her or something to pamper herself. Any ideas?</p> <p>We are going through infertility ourselves, but they don't know yet, so I'm just unsure how much to say at this time - just that we are there for them with whatever they need. </p>