https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 14 Jun 2026 02:52:04 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2135074 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 11:09:53 +0000 daniellemybelle 2135074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm really sorry. &lt;3</p> <p>Even though your ex is not your daughter's biological father, because he is her father figure AND the father of your son, I am wondering if it is possible to co-parent with him in some way? There may be resources in your city/state that can help you with mediation. I know things are raw right now, but perhaps there is a way for your son and daughter to still see him and know that they are loved by him, even if the relationship has changed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2135011 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 10:35:11 +0000 simplyfelicity 2135011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just wanted to wish you continued hope and strength. You are an amazing mama and your kids will be ok because they have you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2134160 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 13:51:13 +0000 snowjewelz 2134160@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleblessings: Even though DS is too young to know? Maybe he is affected by yours and DD's moods? I am so sorry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2134147 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 13:44:01 +0000 littleblessings 2134147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: they have started having randoms panic attacks. Hyperventilating and all. No I don't have help with childcare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2134063 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 13:06:42 +0000 snowjewelz 2134063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry!! I hope the kids are doing okay. Do you have help with childcare? </p> <p>I also was googling childrens book for single parents... Maybe that will help DD understand? </p> <p><a href="http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/12/top-childrens-books-for-single-parents/" rel="nofollow">http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/12/top-childrens-books-for-single-parents/</a></p> <p>Hugs! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133649 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 07:58:38 +0000 edelweiss 2133649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i am so sorry that you all are going through this. it must be heartbreaking. i agree with others on trying to keep a routine while also allowing space for them to express their feelings and to acknowledge the confusion/sadness/anger they may be going through. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133643 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 07:41:50 +0000 irene 2133643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am really really really sorry my dear... my heart sank for you. Sigh. It makes me mad at this guy. How could he leave you because you didn't charge your DD's biological father child support? And how could he leave you when you guys have a biological child together?</p> <p>And actually, may I ask why you don't charge that previous guy child support? And do you want to think about charging this guy child support for the son you guys have together? Having children is so expensive I wanted you to have all the financial help .... and they are legally required to pay for it...</p> <p>I am very very sorry.... did you guys talk about the situation with the kids before or is he really gone for good, like move out of the country and will never see you guys ever again kinda deal? I wonder if you can arrange a situation where he can spend time with your daughter and son. It is possible even though you guys are not together?</p> <p>If all of the above is not feasible.... do you have family or friends around and can you have them come over and visit more often to fill the void for now? I would talk to your daughter, that daddy and mommy decides that we can no longer be friends, and it is better for daddy to not come over anymore. Like people getting divorced... it is hard but it will be possible. I am so sorry you are going through this. You are a very strong woman. Hugs.</p> <p>Regardless though, I would say don't jump into another relationship for a while just because you want to fill the void for your children.... best best wishes my dear friend xoxo </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133642 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 07:40:50 +0000 littleblessings 2133642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you guys. The support means a lot. My LOs can tell something's up. DD is just going about her business. DS started having random panic attacks last night. The only way to prevent them is to hold him. Its really rough </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133639 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 07:34:36 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2133639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thinking of you... This must be difficult to deal with all the emotions between your own loss, as well as those of your LOs. :goodluck: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133627 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 07:24:02 +0000 mrsjyw 2133627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133616 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 07:02:55 +0000 Mrs. Taco 2133616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry! I hope that he plans to see DS and will also have the desire to see DD. Otherwise the only "advice" I can think is to surround her with love and loving family/friends. Again, my thoughts are with you. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133599 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 06:12:09 +0000 regberadaisy 2133599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so so sorry. :heart: </p> <p>The only thing I can think of is showing her extra love and attention. From you, grandparents, aunts/uncles, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133580 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 00:40:36 +0000 MrsMccarthy 2133580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so so sorry honey. Hugs </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133534 Sun, 05 Apr 2015 21:57:39 +0000 lady grey 2133534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry you're dealing with this :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133490 Sun, 05 Apr 2015 20:41:28 +0000 Mama Bird 2133490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm very sorry. If a man would leave over that, maybe it's for the better that he's gone. I don't suppose your daughter is old enough to understand any of that though... just try to help her through it, maybe find her a kids' book about separations or something - I wish I could recommend something, I'm sure they must exist...</p> <p>For what it's worth, one of my grandmas and my mother in law both raised two kids on their own after their husbands left. It wasn't all sunshine and rainbows, and there was some resentment of one parent or the other :( But they all grew up and turned out pretty well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133463 Sun, 05 Apr 2015 20:04:29 +0000 travelgirl1 2133463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice but big hugs. I'm so sorry :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133441 Sun, 05 Apr 2015 19:33:37 +0000 Mrs. Milk 2133441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just echoing - no advice but lots of ❤️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133439 Sun, 05 Apr 2015 19:31:19 +0000 avivoca 2133439@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133425 Sun, 05 Apr 2015 18:58:44 +0000 mamimami 2133425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry :( Stay strong. You never know how things will shake out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133416 Sun, 05 Apr 2015 18:33:59 +0000 simplyfelicity 2133416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleblessings: I am so sorry. Wishing you strength and hope for the days ahead. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133403 Sun, 05 Apr 2015 17:53:30 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2133403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sounds so tough. Hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133374 Sun, 05 Apr 2015 16:21:07 +0000 twodoghouse 2133374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleblessings: I'm so sorry. Sending you and your LOs love. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133322 Sun, 05 Apr 2015 13:14:44 +0000 BSB 2133322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. Thinking of you and your LOs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133319 Sun, 05 Apr 2015 13:01:29 +0000 autumnlove 2133319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133268 Sun, 05 Apr 2015 10:20:36 +0000 Blueberry 2133268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs! I am so sorry! These things are never easy :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133265 Sun, 05 Apr 2015 10:12:04 +0000 MrsSCB 2133265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry, that's really rough. Has he said what he plans to do about the kids? If he'll still be spending time with your DS, is it possible he'll want to/be able to spend time with both of them? It would seem so harsh if he were to cut your daughter off altogether :-( Big hugs to you, I know this is a difficult situation &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133263 Sun, 05 Apr 2015 10:06:58 +0000 Mrs. Microscope 2133263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So many hugs! :crying: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133235 Sun, 05 Apr 2015 07:56:21 +0000 littleblessings 2133235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HLK208: no he isn't in the picture for our safety. I was actually dumped because o wasn't charging that guy for child support. It's court ordered that I didn't. So N left me for it.</p> <p>The only this is I don't have just her. We had a son together. Luckily DS isn't old enough to understand anything that's going on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133233 Sun, 05 Apr 2015 07:44:36 +0000 cmomma17 2133233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleblessings: I'm very sorry :( I don't have great advice unfortunately, but I'm sure there must be resources out there somewhere. You will get through this. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/single-again-need-some-advice-for-the-kids#post-2133225 Sun, 05 Apr 2015 07:04:34 +0000 rachiecakes 2133225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleblessings: I'm so sorry :(<br /> Maybe give her special mom time? Take her to the park, make pizza with her, little things to keep her mind off of what's missing?<br /> Big hugs :heart: </p>