https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 12:32:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sketchy-neighbor-situation-long#post-177220 Sat, 02 Jun 2012 22:18:03 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 177220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: That's the plan. I am usually very non confrontational, so I just hope he gets it now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sketchy-neighbor-situation-long#post-177212 Sat, 02 Jun 2012 21:56:32 +0000 mediagirl 177212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow. It sounds like he's begging for someone to help him get what he needs but he does not sound dangerous. Yet. I would just keep an eye on him and call the police if you feel threatened at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sketchy-neighbor-situation-long#post-177206 Sat, 02 Jun 2012 21:44:43 +0000 daniellemybelle 177206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know what the best thing is to do, but if I were you, I would 100% ignore him if he tried to talk to me again. If he got very agitated, I would turn and say, "I'm sorry to be rude but you are making me uncomfortable and I have asked you to not bother us. If you continue to do so, I will have to call the police." And then I'd be ready to call the police! Even if he doesn't threaten you, if he is harassing you, they will come and talk to him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sketchy-neighbor-situation-long#post-177202 Sat, 02 Jun 2012 21:37:09 +0000 chopsuey 177202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Omg!! So scary and creepy. I hope he stops bothering you. And definitely get an alarm installed! Especially sInce your husband is going to be traveling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sketchy-neighbor-situation-long#post-177189 Sat, 02 Jun 2012 21:21:04 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 177189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We/I would definitely call the cops if we feel threatened in any way. Hopefully it won't get to that point. Even if the alcoholism weren't an issue, it's creepy to know someone is watching your comings and goings so intently. We may look into a security system ...</p> <p>@MamaCate: I think we'll probably speak to one or both when they return. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sketchy-neighbor-situation-long#post-177184 Sat, 02 Jun 2012 21:15:50 +0000 MamaCate 177184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yuck!i think you handled it really well and let him know where you stand without being over the line. My only thought as far as advice is that it might be helpful to ally yourself with the mom and sister. It sounds like they are aware ther is an issue and maybe trying to limit this guy's ability to harm himself. If he sees you chatting with the mom or sis,.he hopefully would figure out whose 'side' you are on. Then maybe he can bug someone else... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sketchy-neighbor-situation-long#post-177178 Sat, 02 Jun 2012 21:07:12 +0000 brownie 177178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If its an issue, call the cops. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sketchy-neighbor-situation-long#post-177168 Sat, 02 Jun 2012 20:48:38 +0000 Mrs. Pen 177168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh my gosh! That is so disconcerting given the fact that you have a little one, and I would be a little worried about your husband leaving too.. I'm so sorry!! I hope the situation gets better... but it's tricky for sure. Sorry I don't have any advice though, I'm soo bad with confrontation. Our neighbors dog pooped in our yard and I was SO mad but couldn't actually go ask him not to let his dog loose. lol I know this is totally different haha. just ignore that anecdote lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sketchy-neighbor-situation-long#post-177167 Sat, 02 Jun 2012 20:48:16 +0000 mrsjyw 177167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this!! You guys were so nice to even offer that first trip! DH and I wouldn't have!</p> <p>I think you were right in what you said and I hope he leaves you alone... otherwise, I'd get ready to call the cops... NO JOKE. Might seem like too much, but there's no way I'm letting someone like that get in the way of my baby and my safety esp while DH is gone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sketchy-neighbor-situation-long#post-177163 Sat, 02 Jun 2012 20:41:24 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 177163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So we were leaving our house to go have lunch and run some errands a couple of days ago and our neighbor, who was sitting in a lawn chair at the entrance to his garage, calls out to my husband to see if he can take him up the street to a nearby shopping center because his car is broken down. My husband doesn't know this guy at all -- we just moved in -- but he tries to be nice and tells him that maybe he can later when we get back if it's just for a quick errand. </p> <p>Sure enough, when we get back a few hours later, the guy is still sitting there, expecting to be driven up to the shopping center. So I head inside with Baby Y and Papa Y takes this guy up the street. Well, he got back a little while later and it turns out the guy wanted to go to the liquor store. Apparently he was shaking the entire trip, and the kicker was that he had some open cuts that were bleeding. He literally bled on our upholstery. He lives with his mom (who we had met before) but she had gone out of town with this guy's sister and presumably took the keys to her own car with her. I had heard the sister shouting at someone in the driveway earlier that day (something along the lines of "I can't help you if you won't help yourself!" and on and on) which made no sense at the time, but of course, now it did.</p> <p>This evening, sure enough, the dude was out in his chair again as we went to go have dinner, and he calls out that he needs to go up the street again. Papa Y tells him that we can't right now and we don't know when we'll be back. We were desperately hoping he wouldn't be out there when we got back, but of course, he was. So the dude is all amped up and ready to go and SHAKING. I told Papa Y to use the baby as an excuse -- got to give him a bath, put him to bed, etc. Neighbor asks how long this will take, clearly not getting the hint (not that I expect an alcoholic in withdrawal to get it, really) so Papa Y tells him to ask another neighbor, since there are other folks out and about. The guy whines that he doesn't "know" any of them. Papa Y tells him, "And we don't know you either!" </p> <p>At this point I'm fed up and the Mama Bear in me comes out, and I tell him "You're making us uncomfortable, we have a little one to look after here, please don't ask again." And after that, we went in. Lo and behold, we went upstairs and I looked out the window to see that he had gone and talked another neighbor into it.</p> <p>Papa Y is going out of town again for the next few days, so I am really, really hoping this guy doesn't bug us. Our houses are too close together for us to come and go without him noticing, especially since he sits in the same spot for most of the day. And obviously addiction is a powerful thing, and who knows what kind of drunk he is. Hopefully just a sad sack, but if he's a mean drunk, now he has an ax to grind with us.</p> <p>I'd love to hear if if anyone has any advice, but mostly I'm just venting :( Our new 'hood is actually very quiet and nice, but of course we had to move in next to this guy. </p>