https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 21:11:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/skipping-the-shower#post-106666 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 12:44:48 +0000 lemondrop 106666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a small family one, it was really nice! I usually hate attention like that, but it was low key and a nice celebration and chance for relatives to see the bump. </p> <p>We really tried to keep excess baby stuff to a minimum. It would have been much more expensive if we hadn't had it, as we got quite a few of our bigger items (swing, stroller, car seat) from the shower, so financially it was well worth it too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/skipping-the-shower#post-106643 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 12:26:01 +0000 mrsjazz 106643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom and sister wanted to throw us a shower. Could we have gone without a shower? Yes. A baby only needs the basics--we wouldn't have been able to afford everything we received at the shower, though.</p> <p>Not everyone brought presents to the shower. But it was a lovely celebration of us and our new arrival--my best friend flew in, so did my MIL. The last time everyone from both sides of our families were gathered together was for our wedding, so even if there had been no gifts, I still would've loved it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/skipping-the-shower#post-106642 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 12:25:17 +0000 Modern Daisy 106642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I was also really stressed at my bridal shower! I remember I was sweating while opening gifts because I was so worked up and trying to talk to 30 people at once while keeping everyone interested and saying something unique about each gift. Regardless though I would still want a baby shower just to keep costs down, lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/skipping-the-shower#post-106637 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 12:22:19 +0000 Modern Daisy 106637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm totally going to have a shower. We will depend on it in order to get all of the baby gear since that stuff is so expensive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/skipping-the-shower#post-106623 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 12:17:02 +0000 mrstilly 106623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't like being the center of attention at all, but loved having my shower and being around my family to celebrate. I think it's fine to skip a shower if no one is jumping to throw you one, or if you really don't want to have one, but if there are family who want to celebrate with you, I'd do it. </p> <p>I LOVE registries. I like being able to pick out specific brands, features or models of things and try to be price-conscious. You can register for only what you want/need and if you get other stuff you can return it or donate it if you won't use it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/skipping-the-shower#post-106283 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 08:29:03 +0000 Mrsbells 106283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we skipped a baby shower. Mainly because we plan to throw a big formal party after the baby is born when we do her baby dedication at church. This is common among my friends and usually people bring a gift card or check to such a party. I prefer people coming to celebrate with us once the baby is actually here, plus I dont like registries and didnt want people to just buy me random brands that I wouldnt use. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/skipping-the-shower#post-106278 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 08:25:33 +0000 regberadaisy 106278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Beyond2:<br /> I think if you and your husband do not want a baby shower, then skip it. If you have the finances to cover all the items absolutely necessary for the baby coming, more power to you!</p> <p>---<br /> Honestly, I look at a baby shower as a celebration. You're celebrating the new life that will soon be in this world, the addition of the family. It's a happy time! Not gonna lie, the gifts sure are appreciated. Yea, there's enough $$ in our savings to buy all the stuff ourselves. But having family and friends help us out by gifting the stuff is greatly appreciated.<br /> Heck, some of the guests barely bought guests that covered their plate at the shower. Who cares? There were people not invited that still sent gifts. People just love celebrating new babies!<br /> Besides which many of our family and friends would still have gotten us those items with or without a baby shower. At least THEY got a free meal out of it for their gift! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/skipping-the-shower#post-106226 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 07:57:33 +0000 LuLu Mom 106226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There is no way either of our families would let us skip having a shower, and I just keep thinking about all the free items that would be so helpful to our bank account!! I'm excited, and I have attended so many, I'm glad it's my turn :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/skipping-the-shower#post-106173 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 06:37:51 +0000 Andrea 106173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: my thoughts exactly. :-) i still received plenty of gifts but i felt like people really wanted to give me something vs. attending a shower and being "forced" into it. of course, that doesn't mean that everyone attending a shower would feel that way but some people might! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/skipping-the-shower#post-106169 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 06:31:45 +0000 hilsy85 106169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also kind of don't want a shower..my bridal shower was kind of stressful for me and I felt like I spent the whole time running around making sure people were enjoying themselves...I don't want to feel like I have to ddo that at the baby shower too! I'm thinking about doing a sip n' see after the baby is born... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/skipping-the-shower#post-106140 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 03:30:40 +0000 looch 106140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Of course you can skip it, they're not mandatory and nothing is going to happen to your kid if they didn't have one.</p> <p>Honestly, the whole free loot stuff is really offputting. If you make the decision to have a child, you do that biologically and financially. If someone wants to buy you a gift, that's fantastic and no one should turn it down, but I am the parent and we can afford everything we bought. If we couldn't afford it, we don't buy it, period. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/skipping-the-shower#post-106111 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 23:44:41 +0000 tequiero21 106111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have skipped it, but my bro and sil insisted and threw me one... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/skipping-the-shower#post-106088 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 22:35:17 +0000 calsmom 106088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friends are throwing me a shower after the baby arrives. We'll be heading back to my hometown, and we will all be meeting there a few months after little dude is born. There is no way we would've made it work otherwise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/skipping-the-shower#post-105690 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 18:56:27 +0000 banana 105690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I loved my shower! Not only did we get some awesome gifts, but it was such a great occassion to get all of my friends together to celebrate something so special! It was tons of fun. I love going to baby showers in general. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/skipping-the-shower#post-105680 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 18:54:19 +0000 mrs. wagon 105680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could have never skipped our shower-- we got so much stuff and our friends are all so incredibly generous. Lots of them had never been to a baby shower before and they wanted to just totally drown us in presents. It was a huge money saver for us. We also had so many visitors at the hospital that all the nurses were joking about it! It was a nonstop stream of Asians. Haha. </p> <p>I don't know if we'll have a shower for this second one, because I'm not sure who would throw us one. My only close friend left that lives nearby isn't a mom yet so not sure she'd want to throw me one. We don't need much for this second baby though so I think we'll be fine without one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/skipping-the-shower#post-105641 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 18:42:34 +0000 chopsuey 105641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't skip ours. DH and I love free loot! We definitely would have survived without, but would have had to buy everything on our own :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/skipping-the-shower#post-105604 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 18:30:31 +0000 heffalump 105604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way would I skip it. We got so much stuff, we could never afford to buy all of that by ourselves. You could just register for the things you really need /want. Or ask for a diaper shower. You'll always need diapers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/skipping-the-shower#post-105600 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 18:29:42 +0000 Andrea 105600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I skipped it because I didn't want to hassle anybody. No regrets about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/skipping-the-shower#post-105596 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 18:28:15 +0000 Beyond2 105596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're trying to keep things pretty minimalistic in regards to raising our baby. I've been asked by family over and over if I want a baby shower and I'm seriously thinking I do not. Did anyone else skip the shower? If you did have one, could you have gone without it and still raise your baby just fine? </p>