https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Jul 2026 16:07:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-help-2#post-2201395 Sun, 07 Jun 2015 14:15:50 +0000 lady grey 2201395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: Sounds like your LO has a strong sleep association with nursing. Def try having her nurse at the beginning of her bedtime routine, not the last thing. </p> <p>Are you using a specific sleep training guide? In my experience it makes the process much smoother (and shorter) to be extremely consistent with the way you do CIO. We used the Sleep Easy Solution book. It worked realy well or my LO, and I believe they don't ever have let your kid cry more then one hour.</p> <p>Also I really think 9 mo is too young to go to only one nap...unless she is on three and dropping to two? I couldn't tell. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-help-2#post-2201334 Sun, 07 Jun 2015 11:19:32 +0000 regberadaisy 2201334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She slept from 8pm - 5:20am! :shocked: </p> <p>Super cranky today though which is not the norm for her. Methinks a tooth is cutting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-help-2#post-2201054 Sat, 06 Jun 2015 17:41:42 +0000 regberadaisy 2201054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: @hilsy85: @blackbird: @jape14: @Little Misters Mom: @ScarletBegonia: @Zbug: @BabyTsMom: @Kemma:<br /> Thanks all! I'm not opposed to sleep training. But I have a cap of how long i can endure her screaming her head off. For me it's about 45-60minutes. Every time I've done it she can go that long. There has been the odd times where she will fall alseep before then but be up in the next 10 minutes screaming again.</p> <p>You might all be right that she can't get through the first sleep cycle by herself. But she has done it before on occasion. It's rare but it's happened a handful of times where her first sleep stretch was about 4 hours.</p> <p>Today I tried dropping her morning nap. She fell asleep in the backpack for half an hour. I tried to get her through the rest of the day without a nap but she fell asleep nursing around 5. I gave her ibuprofen at bedtime in case it's teething. We are doing a early bedtime.</p> <p>I am still nursing to sleep tonight because I just don't want to shake too many things up at once.</p> <p>As for co sleeping. I have tried that too and she's not a fan. Because I'm so close to her she wants to be held by me so she just keeps screaming until I do. So then not only am i not sleeping but DH isn't either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-help-2#post-2200841 Sat, 06 Jun 2015 07:01:22 +0000 hilsy85 2200841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ScarletBegonia: yep I agree. </p> <p>The conditions that she falls asleep under should be the same as when she wakes up--otherwise it can be extremely disorienting. If you give her motrin before bed, then you can know that teething isn't keeping her up. I would for sure sleep train, but that's me! The good news is that it seems her major problem is going to sleep at the beginning of the night--I personally think that's the easiest part to sleep train for because they're most tired and it's not the MOTN for you, so you have more willpower. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-help-2#post-2200838 Sat, 06 Jun 2015 06:56:39 +0000 blackbird 2200838@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds like she can't fall sleep or stay asleep on her own and relies on the boob to do so. Object permanence and all. Maybe a new bedtime routine is in order for her to learn some new ways to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-help-2#post-2200833 Sat, 06 Jun 2015 06:49:09 +0000 jape14 2200833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is very similar to what we had going on before we sleep trained. I would nurse DS to sleep, put him down, and then 30-40 minutes later he'd be up again screaming. Because I was putting him down asleep he couldn't fall asleep on his own and had no clue what to do when he woke up after one sleep cycle. We very minorly switched the bedtime routine - I would nurse him almost to sleep, then put him in his sleep sack after (effectively waking him up), then sing his bedtime song as a sleep cue, hand him the lovey and put him in the crib. With this routine plus three nights of by-the-book Ferber, he has been falling asleep on his own every night since (we started at 4mo and now he's 9mo). Once we did that he was also able to fall asleep own for naps (staying asleep for a legit long nap is another story) - seriously life-changing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-help-2#post-2200831 Sat, 06 Jun 2015 06:41:30 +0000 Little Misters Mom 2200831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Obviously personal, but sleep training was life changing for us. The key is 100% commitment and consistency, no ten minute rescues. There's lots of good information on the boards about various techniques. But it does sound like she hasn't learned to fall back asleep on her own when she wakes during the night. Even if you don't decide to sleep train, Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Marc Weissbluth gives so much insight into basic sleep patterns and might help you identify what's going on. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-help-2#post-2200797 Sat, 06 Jun 2015 01:22:38 +0000 ScarletBegonia 2200797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that one thing you may want to try is feeding her in a well-lit, non-nursery room (so that you don't feed to sleep) and then pop her in the crib and see what happens. You might find that since she hasn't woken up, she may not cry for as long and might wind down and be able to fall asleep on her own. As it stands now she is falling asleep in the most blissful way possible, and then waking up when she lands in the cold crib without a boob in her mouth - maybe that's why she is getting so hysterical. If you are dealing with 10-15min of crying anyway, maybe try it that way one night &amp; see what happens? We've never been able to bedshare and had gotten into the habit of feeding to sleep and the many night wakings that entailed. At 6 months we let him CIO extinction - on the longest night it took no more than 20 min. Good luck !!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-help-2#post-2200793 Sat, 06 Jun 2015 00:52:38 +0000 Zbug 2200793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yikes! I'm so sorry. How long has this been going on? My LO has never been a great sleeper, but I find that when things are really bad, that stage never lasts. 9 mo was really rough for us, so it could perhaps (hopefully!) just be a stage for yours as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-help-2#post-2200770 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 23:34:33 +0000 BabyTsMom 2200770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are you opposed to sleep training? It sounds like she isn't able to fall asleep on her own yet. If you're not ok with sleep training, then I would definitely consider co-sleeping! If she falls asleep right away after you pick her up, then maybe you'll all get more rest if you sleep in the same bed.</p> <p>As for the cause, other than not being able to fall asleep on her own, I think her bedtime of 7-7:15 is appropriate....But if she's not tired enough, then you can try pushing it a bit later and see what happens?<br /> How are naps- does she sleep on her own for naps? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-help-2#post-2200724 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 22:03:48 +0000 Kemma 2200724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is bedsharing an option for you? I know it's not for every family but if she's overtired it might be a good way to help her catch up on sleep and give you some breathing space to work out a plan of action.</p> <p>Or could you completely change up her bedtime routine or sleep space as a kind of "reset"? Maybe try a later bedtime or spend more time outside during the day?</p> <p>Hang in there and I hope it passes soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-help-2#post-2200709 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 21:52:43 +0000 regberadaisy 2200709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't even know where to begin.</p> <p>My 9m old has always been a bad sleeper. Up until about a week ago she was waking every 2-3 hours overnight. Sometimes even every 1.5 hours. In the past week overnight sleep has started getting a little better. But bedtime has gotten bad. Really bad. It takes almost until 11 before she will settle for the night. </p> <p>I nurse her to sleep around 7-715 and she will fall asleep really quickly but then fuss on and off for the next 30-40min. Every time I try to get up the slightest creak will wake her up. When I finally try to put her down she will immediately wake up screaming and crying. I have gotten to the breaking point that I will let her CIO for a bit. But all this achieves is giving me a 10-15 minute break while she screams at the top of her lungs crying. Getting more hysterical. Until I go in to rescue her and she will fall asleep almost immediately as soon as she's on the boob. Repeat and usually she won't stay asleep until 11pm. Wakeup can be around 2am or 4/500 am.</p> <p>There's a few things that I think can be happening or all at the same time.</p> <p>She's finally cutting her first tooth. I can feel it. She has literally been teething for like 6m. It's ridiculous.</p> <p>I think she might be trying to drop her morning nap. Her naps are a total different horror story. I'm not sure if I should help her drop that morning nap.</p> <p>She might be "overtired"? Need a earlier bedtime?</p> <p>Help sleep experts!!! This drawn out bedtime is so draining and exhausting because it leaves me absolutely no wind down time at night and I'm still going to bed after 11pm!!</p> <p>(Baby fever effectively squashed for the time being :silly: ) </p>