https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 18:46:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-mess-what-would-you-do#post-2594387 Thu, 28 Jul 2016 11:21:11 +0000 Mrs Spoon 2594387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>FWIW my DD's sleep went to crap around 2 despite her being a rockstar sleeper up till that point. And not much happened to change this besides moving to a toddler bed (which happened months after everything started going downhill). So all of this might have happened regardless of what's going on in your life. I say go for whatever you can do now to make the situation better cause it could change in a few weeks regardless of your move. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-mess-what-would-you-do#post-2594324 Thu, 28 Jul 2016 10:32:46 +0000 CakeLady 2594324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok ladies, you have given me the courage to try and fix it!<br /> Wish me luck. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-mess-what-would-you-do#post-2594244 Thu, 28 Jul 2016 09:45:41 +0000 Trailmix 2594244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd definitely do it now! If you've sleep trained in the past, it may only take 2-3 nights before he's back to where he was. Plus, it might actually help with the adjustments and the move if he's well-rested! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-mess-what-would-you-do#post-2594131 Thu, 28 Jul 2016 08:15:03 +0000 KayKay 2594131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree that the upcoming move might interfere with things, but you have awhile to go (and solo parenting at that!) before then. If it's not working for you, I'd try to set some boundaries now. </p> <p>I know that my DD1 (who is now 4) and DD2 is 1.75 and just starting this....they both started pulling stalling/crying shenanigans around 2ish. Wanting one more song (and one more song...and one more song...). Changing it up and requesting mom, then dad, then mom. Crying as soon as we put them in bed when they hadn't previously in a long time. And it sucks.</p> <p>With DD1 I would get really frustrated by wasting all that time and having to go back in there and deal with it. With DD2, I'm trying to have a better perspective (just a phase, doesn't last forever) but outlining boundaries that I can live with. So I sing her two songs, put her in her bed, rub her back while telling her that it's the last song, and then leave the room. She usually protests for a couple minutes and then goes to sleep.</p> <p>All that to say, I think it's normal around 2 to stall bedtime and nothing you did! They are so much more aware and interactive and know exactly what they are missing by going to bed :) So do whatever you need to get through this month, and (maybe) set some good boundaries for what to do once you have moved, too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-mess-what-would-you-do#post-2594118 Thu, 28 Jul 2016 08:01:18 +0000 FaithFertility 2594118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My advice is do what works for you until it doesn't! :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-mess-what-would-you-do#post-2594093 Thu, 28 Jul 2016 07:20:03 +0000 MrsSRS 2594093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah. If you had one or two weeks I'd say suffer through it, but 5? Probably worth a few rough nights of training. I'd do a bedtime routine that you'll be able to stick to during the tumult, then pop in and out with a calm "I love you. It's time for you to sleep and for mommy to do work." Maybe increasing times (5, 10, 15 minutes) Ferber style? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-mess-what-would-you-do#post-2594065 Wed, 27 Jul 2016 23:11:56 +0000 BabyTsMom 2594065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely try to do something about it now. I don't think I could survive 5 more weeks of what you describe, especially without a spouse to lean on! And, hopefully, it'll be like "they" say- once you do some sleep training, it's never as difficult the subsequent times. That's actually been our experience as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-mess-what-would-you-do#post-2594062 Wed, 27 Jul 2016 22:42:57 +0000 brownepiano 2594062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For our toddler, one week is enough to change his sleep habits. Since you still have 5 weeks, I would go for it! If you wait till after the move it might just be the same or worse. But if you do it now , you'll have the same boundaries to put in place after the move and it might help him adjust faster. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-mess-what-would-you-do#post-2594037 Wed, 27 Jul 2016 21:40:49 +0000 CakeLady 2594037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: thanks! That sounds like a good compromise. I don't want him to feel abandoned during this crazy time, but I also have a million things to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-mess-what-would-you-do#post-2594032 Wed, 27 Jul 2016 21:33:20 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2594032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Around age 2 my son started being horrible for falling asleep. He would scream for a long time. </p> <p>We started standing outside his door with it open a crack. We would say "we are right here!" And if he woke in the night we opened the door a crack and said the same thing. It was seriously lift changing. Learned to self smooth without screaming his head off (he's always been a good sleeper, but almost always cried for a few mins before drifting off). Now he just goes right to bed without crying we still say "we will be just outside the door!" But then we shut the door and leave and he is fine. </p> <p>Good luck! Sounds stressful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-mess-what-would-you-do#post-2594021 Wed, 27 Jul 2016 21:05:03 +0000 CakeLady 2594021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>(Oh man this turned into a novel, sorry and thanks if you decide to take the plunge and read).Well we've managed to undo all of the hard work we did to help DS (2 years old) be a decent sleeper (he's never been great but not the worst). Lots of travel, hand foot and mouth, plus lots of major change have sent his sleep right down the pooper. We are back to rocking to sleep and he wakes up every night and then sleeps in our bed. Tonight we are at over an hour of trying to get him to sleep plus 30 minute bedtime routine and he is in my bed and I am sitting with him in the dark.</p> <p>I want to fix it but here's the issue... We are moving across the country in a month AND DH has already moved to start his job, so it is just me. I know this is all very confusing and upsetting for him and there will be lots more change to come. If I do some sleep training I know it will get totally messed up very soon. However momming it on my own for 5 weeks with a 2 hour bedtime extravaganza is not sustainable for my mental health or managing life. It leaves me about 1 hour a day for chores, taking care of myself, prepping for the next day, and finishing the packing. </p> <p>So, would you do sleep training (or at least try to set some boundaries eg no rocking, just sitting in the room? Or would you just tough it out until after the move?</p> <p>(FWIW the reason we didn't go at the same time is childcare - current preschool goes until end of August, new preschool starts then, didn't want to create any more transitions.) </p>