https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 12:53:24 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/3#post-1964929 Sun, 30 Nov 2014 23:19:13 +0000 catomd00 1964929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkin Pie: your baby's sleep is very natural for her age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/3#post-1964771 Sun, 30 Nov 2014 20:35:55 +0000 Suzanne44 1964771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkin Pie: could be what they call an extinction burst. Night 9 was almost as bad as night 1 for us. Hang in there, may just be a rough night here and there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/3#post-1964650 Sun, 30 Nov 2014 17:45:41 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 1964650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aaaand I think I spoke too soon. She woke up 3 times last night. :crying: I don't know why sleep doesn't happen naturally for some babies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/3#post-1964635 Sun, 30 Nov 2014 16:46:29 +0000 Suzanne44 1964635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkin Pie: That's great news! You must be a little more rested with those nice stretches at night! Wishing you continued success! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/3#post-1964021 Sat, 29 Nov 2014 19:49:39 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 1964021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OK. I think theres been some success with the CIO. I can now put her down drowsy but awake, and at night we've had a couple 6 hour stretches. I am REALLY REALLY hoping this continues and only gets better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/3#post-1962196 Wed, 26 Nov 2014 20:36:26 +0000 ScarletBegonia 1962196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkin Pie: at that age short naps are totally normal! I tried everythig to extend my son's naps past 45 minutes but in the end the only thing that did it was him turning 6 months. If I were you, since it seems you're having good success with bedtime, I would keep on with CIO for nighttime and for naps, just let her do her thing. They will lengthen eventually, and if she knows how to put herself to sleep it should happen sooner rather than later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/3#post-1962183 Wed, 26 Nov 2014 20:21:03 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 1962183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What do you do when your babies wake up after a 30 min nap? I tried to rock her back to sleep but she refuses!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/3#post-1961985 Wed, 26 Nov 2014 17:29:36 +0000 Suzanne44 1961985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkin Pie: That's awesome! Glad it went well. If you read the nap posts, waking up after one sleep cycle is pretty normal. I waited until my LO stopped fussing before naps to let her fuss between sleep cycles and it seems to have worked. It might just take patience and time or for her to just get older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/3#post-1961891 Wed, 26 Nov 2014 16:23:55 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 1961891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was strangely easy last night. Just some fussing and then 2 good stretches of sleep. She only woke up once after 5 hours. Her naps are still only 30 mins though but putting her down hasn't been terrible. I'm waiting until this trial period to determine if it's working. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/3#post-1960687 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 23:16:18 +0000 Suzanne44 1960687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkin Pie: Will your husband be home to help you with the bedtime training? I would say if you are going to do it, to give it at the very least 3 or 4 days. You should see improvement, even if it's gradual. For us it improved daily but only in 10 minute increments. It is very tough on you though. If your husband could listen and you could put headphones on or something or even leave the house, it will be easier on you. It will be very hard and your husband will likely have to hold you back. If you are doing straight CIO, occupy yourself with something to take your mind off it.</p> <p>ETA: I am going to bed now. Good luck! Stay strong and give me update when you have time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/3#post-1960683 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 23:08:21 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 1960683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Husband is feeding her now and then we'll put her down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/3#post-1960679 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 23:07:46 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 1960679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Suzanne44: I'm going to take your advice. My husband thinks we should try to CIO for 3 days and then give up if it doesn't help. He says 3 days won't hurt her. I'm so emotional. I cant decide. What do you think? Give it a try for 3 days? She is 10 weeks. My poor baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/3#post-1960676 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 23:03:16 +0000 Suzanne44 1960676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkin Pie: I don't think she will cry all night. Everything I have read has suggested naps are harder than bedtime. And if she is only taking 30 min naps she is probably extremely overtired. I will give advice based on what happened for me, but I am no expert so take what you want. I would do bedtime, and naps, but help her back to sleep after the initial 30 mins during nap time even if it means holding her. If it was me doing it.</p> <p>How long until bedtime? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/3#post-1960672 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 22:58:39 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 1960672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Suzanne44: she fell asleep only once and it was for the usual 30 mins and when she won't up she cries harder than usual. I wonder if there are others who used CIO and their babies cried all night. I read that probably around 1-1.5 hrs crying was the average but I really think my LO might cry all night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/3#post-1960665 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 22:54:41 +0000 Suzanne44 1960665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkin Pie: First night 1 hour 15 minutes. I do think you will have better luck with bedtime vs naptime. Did she fall asleep at naptime? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/2#post-1960657 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 22:48:18 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 1960657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Suzanne44: I've bean doing it today for naps and plan to do it for bedtime. My baby cries hysterically. She cried for over an hour, and I'm scared of how long she'll cry tonight. How long did your LO end up crying? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/2#post-1960643 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 22:31:36 +0000 Suzanne44 1960643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkin Pie: We started with progressive waiting (CIO with timed checks) but after the first night switched to straight CIO. It is heartbreaking and sucks so bad. Are you doing it right now or what do you mean by tried? Did you try a nap again or bedtime?</p> <p>I just know it does eventually work and gets progressively better, although it takes some longer than others. Just like everyone differs at how fast they learn something. Consistency is key. Ferber says if you keep trying but always "rescue", then all the crying is for nothing because they didn't actually get to fall asleep on their own. But it's ridiculously hard and I can say 2 weeks later that it was worth it for the changes that have been made, even though she was a pretty good sleeper to begin with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/2#post-1960592 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 21:30:56 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 1960592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, I decided to try CIO again because I borrowef the mom on call book and it said to try it with babies older than 2 weeks. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/2#post-1960589 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 21:29:09 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 1960589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Suzanne44: what method did you use with your 12.5 week old? I tried CIO today (again) and it is breaking my heart. If they end up falling asleep from the exhaustion of crying, what address they learning? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/2#post-1958437 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 15:23:10 +0000 Suzanne44 1958437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkin Pie: I too am sorry it's rough for you. I echo what @BabyTsMom said above.</p> <p>How I got through it was splitting the evening/night in to two shifts. I went to bed super early and my husband held our son during the evening. My only job from like 7-midnight or 1 was to nurse and go back to sleep. Hubby took care of everything else. I had the second part of the shift, where babies naturally wake more often, and dozed off and on with my son until it was time to get up. The days I handled by settling into a very comfy recliner with my baby and a good book to keep my mind off of everything I was obsessing over. I had success putting my first to sleep and then transferring him to the swing and leaving it on high with white noise for a short while. I was opposed to trying any sort of crying method with my first, but as he got older, I wanted a quicker fix (originally planned on doing The Sleep Lady Shuffle) and didn't want to try the gentle methods for 2 weeks at a time. So what got me through the last bit, was deciding on a day that we would start and making sure everything was researched and ready to go for that day. Second time around, I had a much better sleeper to begin with, so I always had in my head that I would let her learn to fall asleep on her own at 3.5 months because a friend had done it then with success. I wasn't out of options with my second like I was with my first, but I knew things would get worse around the 4 month sleep regression so I wanted to have her trained before then. </p> <p>If your heart is set on training now, go for it, but make sure you are ready to be consistent and you have some support because it could be really hard. I think any method will work as long as you are consistent. Also a big difference between learning to fall asleep on her own and sleeping through the night. I am happy to be a shoulder to lean on, if/when you decide to do it, but I can only speak of the experiences I had with my 6 month old, my 12.5 week old and actually someone else's 4 month old that I helped with.</p> <p>I'm here if you need me! Hugs to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/2#post-1958395 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 15:04:46 +0000 Suzanne44 1958395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyTsMom: Two naps a day is pretty sweet when you only have one child. Usually enough time to go do something at lunch and have the evening free as well. Plus two times for yourself during the day! Something to look forward to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/2#post-1958312 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 14:32:29 +0000 BabyTsMom 1958312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkin Pie: I'm sorry you're having such a tough time. It probably doesn't help that people tell u it gets better. (it does,but there are setbacks too so it overall sucks still sometimes). If you feel that you're truly at the end of your rope, you might consider sleep training. I believe someone linked to Mrs. high heels' experience. She did it at 6 weeks. You ultimately have to do what's right for you, not what others tell you. The only thing I could say is when you decide on the training method, stick to it and be consistent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/2#post-1958183 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 13:48:01 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 1958183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Suzanne44: She was on time. She sleeps in her crib, and I just stopped holding her for naps last week because I just couldnt do it anymore. I was beginning to feel sharp pains in my wrist. She'll be 2.5 months soon, so I'm REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY hoping the improvement comes soon. I've been waiting about 5-10 mins before picking her up to see if she will settle, and she never settles! Its especially hard to wait those few minutes in the middle of the night when you just want the crying to stop.</p> <p>How did you guys get through it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/2#post-1958172 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 13:44:32 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 1958172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Last night she woke up 2 hrs after put down, then 1 hr, then 3 hours. </p> <p>I know. The sleep deprivation makes me totally insane. I mean INSANE. I hear that 9 weeks is still young, and they need help sleeping, and that my LO's habits are normal for her age, and then I read about those parents who sleep trained at like 6 weeks, and I go crazy that I can't train my baby. Sleep deprivation is ugly, I tell ya. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/2#post-1958069 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 12:46:19 +0000 BabyTsMom 1958069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkin Pie: three hour stretches and 30 min naps are pretty normal for that age. I agree with everything @Suzanne44 wrote in her last comment. Of course,some 9 wk olds will sleep longer but try not to compare with others. That'll drive you nuts for sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/2#post-1958055 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 12:43:01 +0000 BabyTsMom 1958055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Suzanne44: ok, thanks! I do find myself slightly less obsessed as his sleep gets more regular, but it always gets me when something goes off, like if he has an off day with naps or can't fall asleep easily at night! I also think once we're at two naps, life will get even better! Haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/2#post-1958005 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 12:23:17 +0000 Suzanne44 1958005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkin Pie: 9 weeks! Was she early or on time? She is so young still. But it is so hard when you aren't getting much sleep yourself. It's tough figuring things out in the first few months, but honestly there is a big change in them once they get closer to 3 months of age. It's survival for the first 3 months for sure! Will she sleep on you, in a carrier or in a swing? I held both my babies for their naps at that age, just because they slept better and I wanted them to get their sleep. So I am sorry I don't have any answers for you. I can definitely commiserate with you! And tell you it does get easier. My first took a long time to stretch out the feeds at night. But at 3 months he started to go for a lot longer of stretches on his own. Where does she sleep at night? Do you give her a few minutes to see if she will settle? I jumped every time my first made a noise and I think he was still half asleep most of the time until I woke him up by picking him up. My second is also super noisy and a lot of the time I think she is awake but she is just moving around, passing gas and making sounds lol.</p> <p>Also, her sleep is normal for her age. Everything I have read and heard is that babies need a lot of help to sleep during the first 3 months especially. Some babies can do it on their own, but most need the assistance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/2#post-1957342 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 01:01:39 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 1957342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Suzanne44: she is 9 weeks and has sleep troubles. She will only take 30 min naps max. At night she has been going about 3 hours the past couple days so that's an improvement. I'm obsessing over how to get her to nap longer, and how to get her to fall asleep on her own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/2#post-1957337 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 00:35:00 +0000 Suzanne44 1957337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkin Pie: I get it! And if you are like me, you won't stop until it is resolved. Or at least better. How many weeks is your LO? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-3-month-old-is-she-ready/page/2#post-1957336 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 00:32:58 +0000 Suzanne44 1957336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyTsMom: Oh no, that's not good! Hopefully just a quick phase and will pass soon. Our LO's have a way of messing with us! I found that any sleep issues that came about because of teeth or milestones resolved themselves fairly quickly from 6 months on. And nothing ever got as bad for us as those first few months. I probably relaxed a lot more somewhere around 7 months. That was a month after we had sleep trained and things were going well. And then relaxed even more when we were down to just 2 naps because you could find time to do things and if a nap got pushed a little later because of lunch or something, it wouldn't mess with bedtime. Plus everything else was just that much more fun after 6 months and so much more to focus on than sleep. 6 months is when I really started enjoying the time I had with him, instead of waiting for the next thing to happen. We are very relaxed about his sleep now. He can sleep in one day, or stay up pretty late because of an outing and it doesn't mess with his sleep, as long as it's not an every day thing. Pretty easy to get back on track. I was one and done, until my boy being closer to a year, and then I thought why not go for it and have two close together. But now we are two and through! </p>