https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 07:10:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-4#post-2777176 Tue, 03 Oct 2017 11:36:33 +0000 MsBAM 2777176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: sooo today he got up early so I laid him in bed next to me fully awake thinking I’d just get a couple mins to wake up. He fell asleep ON HIS OWN! This is surely a one time thing.... lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-4#post-2776994 Mon, 02 Oct 2017 17:50:55 +0000 MsBAM 2776994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrswin: I agree 100%. Was thinking of starting it this weekend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-4#post-2776970 Mon, 02 Oct 2017 16:00:01 +0000 mrswin 2776970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsBAM: Please make sure whenever you start sleep training you are going to be able to stick with it, recruit your partner or a friend to support you, the worst thing you can do is be inconsistent, it's not fair to the little one </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-4#post-2776969 Mon, 02 Oct 2017 15:58:39 +0000 mrswin 2776969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsBAM: I did Ferber checks with my LO and it worked great. I was uncomfortable with the intervals suggested in the book at the beginning so we ended up doing 2mins, 5mins and then 8 mins, we never had to go beyond 4 checks and she got the hang of it pretty quicks.</p> <p>I never picked her up during the check, just went in and rubbed her tummy and told her its night time, mommy loves you </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-4#post-2776950 Mon, 02 Oct 2017 15:14:16 +0000 MsBAM 2776950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: @sweetiepie: I think I’m gonna do the Ferber method first to see how he reacts. If he gets more upset with the checks then I’ll switch to extinction. I’ve been reading about sleep training for weeks now lol. Do I have to follow the timed intervals for Ferber method precisely? Plus I’m still feeding at night so can I still feed him and just put him down drowsy without interfering with the sleep training? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-4#post-2776946 Mon, 02 Oct 2017 14:57:19 +0000 looch 2776946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: yes, exactly. What I thought were sleep cues were overtired cues. And once I realized that I had a too long wake time between morning wake up and the first nap, things improved dramatically. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-4#post-2776925 Mon, 02 Oct 2017 14:02:35 +0000 SweetiePie 2776925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Yeah I didn’t really rely on him too much for extinction either. There isn’t much to say about it. Haha.<br /> But when I read about max awake time and ideal bedtime it was such an eye opener and made such a tremendous difference. I had no idea all the screaming for the first 4 weeks was from over tiredness. 🤦🏻‍♀️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-4#post-2776924 Mon, 02 Oct 2017 13:55:50 +0000 looch 2776924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: It has been so long, I probably didn't even read the extinction piece from Weissbluth! He has some great info on sleep myths, that is what I largely took away from his book. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-4#post-2776916 Mon, 02 Oct 2017 13:39:04 +0000 SweetiePie 2776916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: yes very good advice. Definitely be prepared and educated on the methods before diving in. Also highly recommend weissbluth.<br /> He pretty much is the advocate for extinction. </p> <p>Here is a great comparison of the two. Just an overview.<br /> <a href="https://www.preciouslittlesleep.com/ferber-weissbluth-cry-it-out-smackdown/" rel="nofollow">https://www.preciouslittlesleep.com/ferber-weissbluth-cry-it-out-smackdown/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-4#post-2776914 Mon, 02 Oct 2017 13:36:45 +0000 SweetiePie 2776914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsBAM: We did formal training for bedtime first but I guess in a sense we did naps from the beginning. I had PPD and in a weird way it helped because...I pretty much refused to hold him for naps lol. Eventually I was ok with it during a leap or illness but pretty much early on I put him down drowsy but awake. And I just kept going in over and over and replacing his paci and rubbing his head but rarely picking up.. I’d say by 8-10 weeks he was napping like a champ 1.5-2 hours and maybe I’d have to replace his paci once or twice per nap but he went back to sleep. By 3 months for sure (maybe sooner it’s hard to remember) he would just nap without having to replace paci. </p> <p>I did read at one point that you should do one at a time and usually bedtime is better to start with. Because if you do both and they aren’t getting good sleep for either night or naps it will cause a vicious over tired cycle. I also found that night sleep was always easier to achieve than daytime.<br /> But again, babies are different. You might need some trial and error but just keep the trials as consistent as possible for reasonable amounts of time. Like don’t give up day one or make big changes day one. Give it 2-3 days of PURE CONSISTENCY. Otherwise how will you know if something really works or not? </p> <p>You’ve got this. Like I said before, I’d rather endure a few hours of crying now than being in the same boat a year from now! For me, just “wait it out” and “it’s a season” didn’t fly. I couldn’t fathom holding for naps and nursing to sleep and waking multiple times a night for months or years. It was bad for my mental state. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-4#post-2776912 Mon, 02 Oct 2017 13:36:05 +0000 looch 2776912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the best thing you can do is to read up on what sleep training is, and understand a little bit about baby sleep BEFORE you do anything.</p> <p>I highly suggest reading Weissbluth. I read a ton about baby sleep but I did it way too late, when things were extremely desperate and I made decisions out of emotion and not fact. I would also recommend that you read Ferber and also something about extinction, not sure who the expert is on that method, perhaps another parent can chime in there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-4#post-2776907 Mon, 02 Oct 2017 13:25:02 +0000 MsBAM 2776907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: That’s ok no worries! Oh ok, that makes more sense. Timed checks. I’m gonna do it but just getting myself myself mentally prepared He said if we don’t put him down for naps he’s gonna start using us which I already knew lol. I’m just gonna start with bedtime though or did you do bedtime and naps at the same time? Send me strength to get through the guilt of letting him cry!!! Lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-4#post-2776904 Mon, 02 Oct 2017 13:13:41 +0000 SweetiePie 2776904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh gosh I’m so sorry I just realized I never replied to your last thread. Let me know if you still need it and I’ll go back!</p> <p>I think what he probably meant is to extend the checks every day. So first day consistently do 5 min checks. Next day to 7 min. And so forth. Basically Ferber method. </p> <p>Here is a simple explanation of why it’s supposed to work from BabyCenter:<br /> “He recommends following a warm, loving bedtime routine and then putting your baby in bed awake and leaving him (even if he cries) for gradually longer periods of time. Putting a child to bed awake, says Ferber, is crucial to teaching him successfully to go to sleep on his own.</p> <p>Parents are instructed to pat and comfort their baby after each predetermined period of time but not to pick up or feed their baby. This routine is called "progressive waiting."</p> <p>The suggested waiting time, which Ferber charts in his book, is based on how comfortable you are with the technique, how many days you've been using it, and how many times you've already checked on your child that night.</p> <p>The theory goes that after a few days to a week of gradually increasing the waiting time, most babies learn to fall asleep on their own, having realized that crying earns nothing more than a brief check from you.”</p> <p>But agree I never really got how that would work. We did extinction (no checks) because it really worked best for our son at 4/5 months. He just escalated with checks so we ripped the bandaid.<br /> You can always start out with checks and space them out IF it seems like checks work for your son. But if after a couple days you see no improvement or you realize that the checks make him more upset, you can explore extinction.<br /> It’s true that every baby is different and what works for some won’t work for others. Unfortunately so much with kids is trial and error! Good luck, you have lots of moms her to offer support with whatever you decide. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-4#post-2776898 Mon, 02 Oct 2017 13:06:28 +0000 MsBAM 2776898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi all,<br /> My 4mo old had his pediatrician appointment today and I asked about sleep training bc at this point, my LO won’t sleep for naps unless held and at night has to be nursed to sleep. I intended on doing CIO with checks. The pediatrician said to put him down and let him cry a little longer each day. Isn’t that counterproductive though? Won’t my LO learn that mommy will eventually come if I keep crying? </p>