https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 24 May 2026 19:17:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-and-mommy-guilt#post-494419 Thu, 10 Jan 2013 15:28:17 +0000 autumn865 494419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kiddosc: this is us exactly! My goal is to keep the two night feedings but to reduce the wakings. She had become so dependent on DH and I to rock her to sleep anytime she wakes up. We finally got bedtime to a good time around 7:30-8pm but it would take us at least an hour of taking turns rocking her to fall asleep and she would still like clockwork be up in an hour and then the next hour and the next! It was getting crazy!<br /> @MerryC: that is what I tried to tell myself because when she got inconsolable with the checks she cried herself to sleep anyways in our arms </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-and-mommy-guilt#post-493970 Thu, 10 Jan 2013 13:29:09 +0000 BelugaBean 493970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, we started nights last Thursday night and naps on Monday and I still feel bad if she cries over 10 minutes. However, we went from nursing to sleep with about six wake ups a night to 33 minutes of crying to fall asleep and four to five wake ups to no crying and a couple of wake ups where she just fusses for a minute (in a week). She's sleeping around 6:30-7(or 7:30) every night too. Naps are still hard but seem to be getting better. </p> <p>Here's the thread I started just so you can see more of my progress and others that have posted on it. She's a little under six months for reference. </p> <p><a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-questions" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-questions</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-and-mommy-guilt#post-493941 Thu, 10 Jan 2013 13:19:27 +0000 twinmama 493941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Now that they are both asleep, I'm feeling better :) I guess I feel sad for them more than guilt, maybe? They seem to respond well so far to the timed checks, thank goodness. I'm not ready to night train yet, but I'm sure hoping that if we can get naps in better shape, nights will get better too.</p> <p>@sotomorrow: This exactly. I don't mind rocking them to sleep when they go peacefully. But lately when I try to rock/relax them down to sleep, they are just wiggly and fight it and cry anyway, regardless of the timing. And they're both crashing at the same time lately, so one ends up crying while it takes forever to get the other down anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-and-mommy-guilt#post-493899 Thu, 10 Jan 2013 13:06:17 +0000 Rubies 493899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I sleep trained my LO and while I hated hearing her cry, I didn't feel guilty. I strongly felt as though LO had developed really poor sleeping habits and demands and I really needed to help teach her to learn on to sleep on her own. What helped, also, was that I never denied her any feeds throughout the night - I just needed her to get longer stretches of sleep on her own and not in my arms. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-and-mommy-guilt#post-493890 Thu, 10 Jan 2013 13:03:05 +0000 sunny 493890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is 4.5 months and we just started sleep training this week! It's tough to hear them cry for an hour (she did this twice!!!) but after nearly a week of the routine she is doing great and last night she only cried for about 30 seconds! This makes me so happy that she is sleeping more and I have more free time to do things around the house or for myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-and-mommy-guilt#post-493860 Thu, 10 Jan 2013 12:55:35 +0000 sotomorrow 493860@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What helped me with mommy guilt when sleep training at 4.5 months was:<br /> LO would cry and cry ANYWAY when we were trying everything to get her to sleep without training. And she would be so tired and crabby when she was awake. </p> <p>I say give sleep training a week. Are you using white noise and a bedtime routine so that your LO knows bedtime is coming? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-and-mommy-guilt#post-493851 Thu, 10 Jan 2013 12:52:18 +0000 kiddosc 493851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was exactly our sleep situation too. He slept great until 12 weeks and then things slowly started going downhill and we developed bad habits until 4.5 months when he was waking up every 45min-1 hour and no one was sleeping. We used the Ferber method and he responded to us checking in on him, but it was still so so hard. </p> <p>Honestly, he's not sleeping straight through the night, and still wakes and fusses when it's not time for a feeding most nights... BUT, we are leaps and bounds ahead of where we were. Sleep training made putting him down initially for the night a breeze and drastically reduced his number of night wake ups, down to 2-3 from 10. When he did wake up he was a million times easier to put back down. We had previously been fighting him for up to an hour, and now he would either fuss for a few min and put himself back to sleep or only require a short intervention from us. </p> <p>I know it's not always recommended to sleep train so early, but it wasn't healthy for everyone in the house not to sleep. I'm personally very glad that we went ahead and did it. It really is in your LO's best interest to learn how to sleep well. And it's not helping anyone in the house for everyone to be sleep deprived. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-and-mommy-guilt#post-493776 Thu, 10 Jan 2013 12:33:48 +0000 Mrsbells 493776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well I dont know how well sleep training works at 4.5 months, hopefully others who have done it can chime in with their advice </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-and-mommy-guilt#post-493772 Thu, 10 Jan 2013 12:32:55 +0000 Mrsbells 493772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumn865: How old is she? Oh never mind i missed that </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-and-mommy-guilt#post-493770 Thu, 10 Jan 2013 12:31:31 +0000 twinmama 493770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ME</p> <p>My kids are 5.5 months, which I've read is a pretty good time to sleep train. I am attempting to nap train, and both my kids are screaming right now. I feel horrible, but my son especially needs to learn more sleep independence. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-and-mommy-guilt#post-493709 Thu, 10 Jan 2013 12:12:46 +0000 autumn865 493709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just need some reassurance from my fellow bees! As I have posted before we have been having really significant sleep issues with my four and a half month LO. It has been a steady decline since three months reaching an all time terrible sleeping about a month ago where she wakes up every hour. Needless to say no one was getting any sleep and we were all pretty miserable. </p> <p>I researched various sleep training methods and we tried two nights of Ferber but the checks seemed to irritate her even further and sent her into absolute hysterics. She was just not soothed by simply our presence and voice. Last night we tried without checks with some success. She cried for 24 minutes before falling asleep. She was up 15 minutes later and cried 12 minutes before falling asleep for three and a half hours before her first feeding. This was the longest span she has slept since November. I suppose although our first night wasn't "that bad" I'm still feeling a little guilty for trying this method before the recommended 6 months. Anyone else feeling mommy guilt while sleep training? </p>