https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 24 May 2026 07:01:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-at-4-months#post-2007327 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 20:50:06 +0000 BabyTsMom 2007327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkin Pie: it took three days. just the first night was hard (40min). the second and third days were shorter and we didn't have to do our checks at all. I think we got lucky with the timing and his own readiness. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-at-4-months#post-2006953 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 15:56:16 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 2006953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyTsMom: how long did it take to sleep train? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-at-4-months#post-2006761 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 13:20:19 +0000 jape14 2006761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@knittylady: it went wayyy better than I expected! We still had a lot of wake ups, but pretty minimal crying. My husband did the checks (we did a modified Ferber with 1/3/5 intervals) and the longest crying interval was 10-15 minutes, earlier in the night. For most of the wake ups, he got himself back to sleep before the first check or shortly thereafter. The most encouraging thing was the two MOTN feedings that were only 10-15 minutes long (typically he is a big time comfort nurser and MOTN feedings usually take forever) and he went back down very easily. </p> <p>We haven't swaddled consistently for a few weeks now - he's been in the Merlin suit for about a month, but that wasn't really working much anyway, so we just put him in a sleep sack last night. He's getting to be pretty good about thumb sucking/soothing with a lovey, so we thought having his arms free to do that would be a net gain even with the startle factor. (He won't take a pacifier.)</p> <p>Hope it helps! I will say that our LO 1) was already showing some signs of being able to self-soothe (on a long car trip last week where we couldn't rock him or nurse him every time he woke up, he started sucking his thumb and holding his lovey), 2) is definitely a tension releaser, so his crying doesn't typiclaly escalate, and 3) was starting to not be soothed by the swaddle/Merlin suit, rocking, so we figured taking those things away wouldn't make much of a difference. We had his 4-month check up today and our ped said she completely agrees with our decision to start now.</p> <p>Obviously I am no expert and I think we still have some long nights ahead, but hope this helps you in some way! If nothing else, at least we are in the same boat :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-at-4-months#post-2006754 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 13:12:54 +0000 BabyTsMom 2006754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkin Pie: we did the same, using the convertible Woombie. took about a week or two.<br /> As far as sleep training, we did our routine (bath/wash, feed, book, cuddles) then put him down and started counting until our first check. We did a modified Ferber. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-at-4-months#post-2006680 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 12:01:12 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 2006680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyTsMom: how did you swaddle wean? I'm trying to swaddle wean also and started with leaving the non dominant arm out. I only do it for the later naps in the day. I don't know if it's helping. How long did it take you to swaddle wean? </p> <p>When you sleep trained to fall asleep, did you just put him in the crib and walk away? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-at-4-months#post-2006533 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 10:20:48 +0000 BabyTsMom 2006533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@knittylady: I swaddle weaned about two weeks prior to training. It made me feel better that he had his hands out during sleep training, though I don't know if it helped or not.<br /> @Pumpkin Pie: we only trained to go to bed. By the time we trained, he was down to one feeding, and a few weeks later he dropped that too. All on his own. Depending on the source, babies technically may need motn feedings till 6-9 months or even longer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-at-4-months#post-2006343 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 08:03:32 +0000 knittylady 2006343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also what to do about swaddling?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-at-4-months#post-2006336 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 07:53:03 +0000 knittylady 2006336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erind425: how did it go last night?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-at-4-months#post-2006332 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 07:50:21 +0000 jape14 2006332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@knittylady: we just started last night using a modified Ferber. My DS will be four months tomorrow, but has pretty clearly been going through the 4m sleep regression for the past 2-3 weeks. Everyone in our house needs more sleep! The other approach we considered is the Baby Whisperer, but DS gets easily overstimulated so we thought the whole PU/PD approach wasn't the best idea.</p> <p>We aren't trying to get DS to STTN or drop night feedings, just trying to get him to fall asleep more on his own and reduce the number of night wakings to something more reasonable than the 5+ we have been dealing with for the past 2+ weeks. It's too early to say how it's going (and I don't want to jinx anything), but just wanted you to know you aren't alone! We had planned to wait a few more weeks, but the MOTN wake ups were becoming unsustainable and making everyone cranky during the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-at-4-months#post-2006321 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 07:37:49 +0000 illumina 2006321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We sleep trained at 3.5 months using CIO to get her to fall asleep by herself. She was already STTN at this point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-at-4-months#post-2006307 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 07:32:39 +0000 knittylady 2006307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pancakes: same! Right now its up and down from when we put him down around 7 till we head to bed around nine.. I want my evenings back!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-at-4-months#post-2006238 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 03:36:10 +0000 Pancakes 2006238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkin Pie: I'm mostly thinking about getting baby to fall asleep on her own although if she wanted to sleep longer stretches while she's at it, I would have no complaints! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-at-4-months#post-2006178 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 00:33:16 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 2006178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When people talk about sleep training, do they mean sttn or teaching baby to fall sleep on their own? I need help with both! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-at-4-months#post-2006132 Thu, 01 Jan 2015 23:10:12 +0000 Pancakes 2006132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@knittylady: wondering about this too. I think we waited until at least six months with DD1 but I'm planning to go for it at 4 months with DD2. We all need more sleep! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-at-4-months#post-2006108 Thu, 01 Jan 2015 22:52:29 +0000 BabyTsMom 2006108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@knittylady: we sleep trained at 3.5 months, so a little earlier than you're asking. but anyway, we used the Ferber method but with our own set times ( I think 7 min, 10, 12, 15 or something like that). It went well! As background, LO did pretty well as a newborn when I nursed pretty much to sleep. But around 3 months, that stopped working and we soon found ourselves spending upwards of an hour or two going in and out of his room, trying to get him to fall asleep. The goal had been to sleep train at 4 months. But one night, at 3.5 months, as we were doing this in-and-out thing, we looked at each other and said well, we might as well start now because nothing else is working! So that's what happened.<br /> I was one of those that thought my LO was going to scream for hours and hours. He cried (albeit, hard) for 40 minutes the first night. It was really hard. The subsequent nights were not difficult. He's now 7.5 months and for the most part things have been really great at night. Naps have gotten better overall too but still a challenge sometimes (like today,.....omg). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-at-4-months#post-2006039 Thu, 01 Jan 2015 22:00:03 +0000 knittylady 2006039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you did how did it go? What method? Anything!! </p>