https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 04 May 2026 02:03:51 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1571570 Wed, 16 Apr 2014 07:03:59 +0000 Smurfette 1571570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: yay!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1571554 Wed, 16 Apr 2014 06:46:38 +0000 heartonastring 1571554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: Nine month regression was a tough one for us...it occurred simultaneously with a cold and learning to crawl. There was one night she was awake from 2:30 to 6:30 straight. And then she crawled one day and it just stopped and she went back to STTN. </p> <p>I hope it's over for you now and that E continues to have good nights like she did last night :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1571547 Wed, 16 Apr 2014 06:40:54 +0000 looch 1571547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: I am glad last night was good, and I totally understand the fact that your inlaws don't protect the day time sleep...my parents were much the same way, they didn't understand why I willing put myself into jail, until they kept my son overnight and realized that they did much better when he had good day time sleep. Of course, as soon as your daughter realizes that she will be spending the night at your inlaws, she'll sleep through and your inlaws will be all "see, I told you it doesn't matter."</p> <p>You can't win dear! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1571478 Wed, 16 Apr 2014 05:00:50 +0000 Cherrybee 1571478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: Oh Lordy!! :happy: It might help her sleep but it would do nothing for me, haha! The slightest little snuffle wakes me up!! I didn't sleep a wink when she was in our room!! But it's worth considering if she gets really distressed again - because that's so sad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1571474 Wed, 16 Apr 2014 04:28:30 +0000 Kemma 1571474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just a thought but can you set up some sort of bed for yourself in E's nursery? She might not sleep well in bed with you but she might be comforted by your presence, perhaps?</p> <p>Hope it passes soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1571466 Wed, 16 Apr 2014 03:51:50 +0000 Cherrybee 1571466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@loveisstrange: I keep repeating - C got through this. C is cute. C got through this. C is still cute! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1571463 Wed, 16 Apr 2014 03:50:38 +0000 Cherrybee 1571463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@loveisstrange: Oh, [your name]. We are having such a time of it!! This 9 month wonder week/sleep regression/teething/trying to crawl combo is the pits. My kid is a beast right now!! Refusing to eat but screaming for food, refusing to sleep but crying from exhaustion. She rolls about in her cot like a mad thing, getting her legs stuck between the bars and her face wedged up in the corner! Activities keep her happy for 30-60 seconds before she's full on crying again. She wants something but once she's got it she doesn't want it any more. She pulls these furious faces and slams her arms down by her side - and makes this frustrated growl-scream! I think she might be possessed!! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1571461 Wed, 16 Apr 2014 03:44:12 +0000 loveisstrange 1571461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was going to say 9 month sleep regression too. It was a bad one for us. :( Glad last night was better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1571456 Wed, 16 Apr 2014 03:34:45 +0000 Pumuckl 1571456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: Yay, glad to hear you got catch up on some sleep! Sure hope this was it and you're all good now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1571449 Wed, 16 Apr 2014 03:23:54 +0000 Cherrybee 1571449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumuckl: Aaw, thanks for following up with this hysterical, tired mama!!! </p> <p>Miraculously, our night was amazing! We put her down at 6.45pm, after her bath, and she slept through until 4am; at 4am, she let out a huge scream - then soothed herself back to sleep straight away. Then she went through until 6.20am!</p> <p>I have no idea if this was a one-off or if it spells the end of the poor sleeping period but I'm really, really hoping it's the latter!! </p> <p> @redsmarties: Thank you!! That means a lot! </p> <p>@looch: E has a lovey - it's a rabbit with a little blanket attached. I watch her on the monitor, rubbing it between her fingers and snuggling it - so cute! The set up at my inlaws' is great. She has her own room with a cot, black out blinds etc. I have to say, though, they're not good at prioritising her naps - they take her here, there and everywhere and say she can sleep in the car/pushchair. They're constantly surprised when she doesn't (!) and then suggest she wasn't tired enough. I've spoken to them about it but they think I'm ridiculous - they thought I was stupid for staying home during mat leave to protect the nap schedule. :meh: The trips out and about have been great for her social development though - she loves people and has little stranger anxiety, which has really helped her settle into nursery so.... swings and roundabouts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1571443 Wed, 16 Apr 2014 02:40:06 +0000 Pumuckl 1571443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: How did your night go? Hope you all got some rest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1571326 Tue, 15 Apr 2014 22:30:38 +0000 Sunshine710 1571326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At 9 months we did the extinction method and it worked in 1 night. At 9 months my DS was too smart for the progressive waiting and it only made him angry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1571321 Tue, 15 Apr 2014 22:20:57 +0000 daniellemybelle 1571321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs! Crap sleep sucks so much.</p> <p>If she's been a good sleeper until now, and can fall asleep awake, I bet she's just going through a regression &amp; it will improve on its own at some point. But it doesn't help you now! When we were going through our horrible 4 month regression, and folks kept saying it would pass, but I was like, What am I supposed to do until then?!? So I would not fault you one bit for attempting sleep training.</p> <p>I'll also say that I let go of the idea that we needed good naps in order to sleep train. I am sure that the fact that she wasn't napping well did not help our sleep training (we got off to a very rough start &amp; there was a lot of crying) but once we got it all sorted, LO is sleeping much better &amp; her naps are great now too. Weissbluth also says "sleep begets sleep" so you could look at it the opposite way - grit your teeth &amp; sleep train with the hopes that her nighttime sleep improves, and she may start taking better naps. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1571017 Tue, 15 Apr 2014 19:15:18 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 1571017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice, but I'd fly over to help in a second if I could! Poor mama, poor E. Hope it gets better soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1569960 Tue, 15 Apr 2014 12:02:54 +0000 looch 1569960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: If it were me, I would try to get the set up at my inlaws to be almost exactly like what it is at home, or have them come to my home on those days (which I realize is a tough sell). If they aren't willing to come to your house, can they do more to implement a schedule at their home, is the environment satisfactory?</p> <p>You're also at the point where you could introduce a lovey (a sleep aid basically). We had luck with the Glo Worm, which is a stuffed toy that played music and his face lit up a bit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1569952 Tue, 15 Apr 2014 11:59:16 +0000 catlady 1569952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is only 6 months but we have been going through similar things recently. One thing that helped us when we originally sleep trained at 5 months was to get rid of the pacifier completely at night. She needed it replaced over and over again and it got crazy for awhile. Sleep training helped her be able to fall back asleep without it, so that was invaluable. Now she is waking every so often because she rolls over and gets stuck, or sometimes she just seems to miss us and get really upset about it. These days, we are basically just letting her fuss a few minutes but we "rescue" her if she starts crying too loudly or too long. Sometimes able to fall back asleep on her tummy and sometimes she stays upset, and that's when we go in. Not sure how helpful that is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1569856 Tue, 15 Apr 2014 11:20:22 +0000 Cherrybee 1569856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: It is, yeah. Mon - Weds inlaws and Thurs-Fri nursery. She has always been a poor daytime sleeper, taking 30 minute catnaps - we took up to 5 a day when she was home with me. She needs absolute silence, darkness and hwr dummy replacing over and over. She sleeps poorly at my inlaws' and almost not at all at nursery. </p> <p>That said, I've been back at work for 9 weeks now and this has been a recent development. She woke up coughing five times a night for the last five weeks but always went back to sleep. This is new... and nightmarish! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1569816 Tue, 15 Apr 2014 11:08:21 +0000 looch 1569816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't believe in a schedule of regressions (my son was an all around poor sleeper from the moment he entered this world) so, I am not of the wait and see camp in terms of implementing a fix.</p> <p>I am a strong believer in the fact that the quality of day time naps affect night sleep, so I very clearly protected day time sleep. What's the care schedule again? IIRC, it's part time nursery and part time with your inlaws? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1569762 Tue, 15 Apr 2014 10:42:12 +0000 danda 1569762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I recall that my July baby is just a few weeks older than yours? We're in the throes of 9 month sleep regression as well - just popping in to say I commiserate with you, and thanks for posting so that I can follow and read everyone else's suggestions! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1569352 Tue, 15 Apr 2014 08:18:44 +0000 Cherrybee 1569352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: I'm scared to do earplugs with her asthma.... I'm scared if she cries to hard it could trigger an attack. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1569348 Tue, 15 Apr 2014 08:17:46 +0000 Cherrybee 1569348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumuckl: Well that's what I would do!!! It's what I DID when I was off on maternity leave with her! Our bathroom is teeny tiny (the space between the bath and the toilet is only just big enough for a baby to sit in!!) and I guess he didn't want to have explosive diarrhea next to the baby..... but even so - I need my sleep!!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1569304 Tue, 15 Apr 2014 07:59:26 +0000 Pumuckl 1569304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: Wow, that is def. the 9 month regression though. Ours would scream also if he was left alone at that point. The screaming bloody murder only lasted for about a week though. So maybe there is an end in sight? Sure hope so :goodluck: :heart:<br /> About the sleep-ins: Can't your hubs take her to the bathroom with him though? Assuming she can sit? This is what we did... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1569297 Tue, 15 Apr 2014 07:57:23 +0000 blackbird 1569297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pick up ear plugs? When E was getting up a lot a month or two ago--and nothing was wrong, she just wanted to play and didn't like that we left her--i put earplugs in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1569287 Tue, 15 Apr 2014 07:53:07 +0000 lawbee11 1569287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: After our LO got her first daycare cold her sleep went to crap. I can totally relate to wanting to cry every day out of sheer exhaustion. It's so, so rough getting no sleep then having to go into work. We finally sleep trained (again!) a week and a half ago and it seems to be working well (she still gets up to nurse 1-2 times/night, but it's SO much better than 4 times/night).</p> <p>We did a sort of combo of Ferber and extinction. We would let her cry for 15 min, then DH would do an initial check. He wouldn't pick her up but would just pat her and tell her we love her then walk out. Then we did extinction from there. If at any point she sounded like she was in distress or was really just screaming DH would go in, pick her up and rock her for a min but then put her back down. For us the biggest hurdle was just getting her to fall asleep without nursing. </p> <p>I think 9 months is around the time separation anxiety starts, so that may have something to do with it as well. Does she cry when you drop her off at daycare? Or just at night?</p> <p>Re: the rolling onto the tummy. We had this issue a few months ago and it was very frustrating. At first I would rescue her every time but it got to the point where I was going into her room a dozen times a night to flip her. So then I decided I would flip her once and if she rolled back over onto her tummy she'd have to figure it out. Now she sleeps on her tummy and prefers it that way. ((HUGS)) I know how much baby sleep sucks. I hope it gets better for you soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1569280 Tue, 15 Apr 2014 07:50:20 +0000 Cherrybee 1569280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumuckl: She wont sleep in our bed, never has done. In fact, in the early hours of this morning, I brought her into our bed but as soon as I lay her down she started crying because she wanted to sit up. So I sat her up but a few minutes later she started crying because she wanted to clamber over me.... etc..... </p> <p>@Silva: We live in a tiny terraced house. If she's screaming, we're all awake. And my husband works Saturday mornings so we take it in turns to have a lie in every other Sunday. The last two my-lie-in-sundays, DH has woken me up super early because he needs the toilet and DD screams if left at the moment. We talked about it and he got really defensive, "What do you WANT me to do? oh, I'm not allowed to go to the toilet now??". We're both just really tired and fighting a lot. :sad: </p> <p>Someone get on a plane and come rescue me!!! Haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1569264 Tue, 15 Apr 2014 07:43:28 +0000 Pumuckl 1569264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: Ahhh poor you! 9 month regression was THE WORST ever. The only thing that helped for us was letting him sleep in our bed after the night wake-up. He wouldn't sleep otherwise but just about hit the sheets in our bed and was out. And just as quickly as it had appeared it was gone again! :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1569254 Tue, 15 Apr 2014 07:39:29 +0000 Silva 1569254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: I'm so sorry. It's terrible. I started getting headaches then too. Can you and your husband split up the nights somehow? Take turns sleeping in on weekends? You could try something like the sleep lady shuffle to manage them? Unfortunately whenever my kid is "going through something" a there is nothing we can do but hold on. Yours might respond differently! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1569241 Tue, 15 Apr 2014 07:35:16 +0000 Cherrybee 1569241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: I'm not sure I have another 3-4 weeks left in me. I'm so tired. My migraines are back - daily - and I just want to cry constantly. :crying: :crying: </p> <p>PITY FEST! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1569235 Tue, 15 Apr 2014 07:32:50 +0000 Silva 1569235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: it lasted 3-4 weeks for us (and we hit it a bit late). We tried to deal with the wake ups after maybe two weeks and it was terrible. Didn't work at all, resulted in everyone crying a lot. We had to wait it out.<br /> On the other side of it, however, she is only waking up once and sleeping like a champ. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-training-help-please#post-1569226 Tue, 15 Apr 2014 07:28:17 +0000 Smurfette 1569226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: If it has only been going on for a couple nights I would wait it out. She might get over it fast. It is 2-3 weeks and not getting any better then I would sleep train. </p>