https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 28 May 2026 22:50:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleepy-time-is-not-going-well-o#post-39205 Wed, 21 Dec 2011 13:52:37 +0000 BabyLove 39205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am pretty sure I'd give up a lot of my possessions to have my LO sleep for 11 hours straight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleepy-time-is-not-going-well-o#post-39034 Wed, 21 Dec 2011 11:19:28 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 39034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mavrick went through a wakeful period at 3.5-4 months. We started sleep training him right after that. And it worked! He sleeps 11 hours straight now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleepy-time-is-not-going-well-o#post-39028 Wed, 21 Dec 2011 11:15:18 +0000 BabyLove 39028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi :) </p> <p>Thanks again for the suggestions. I tried bedtime earlier last night. At 7pm. Here's my new problem (maybe Mr. and Mrs. Bee can chime in on this issue?)- my husband didn't cooperate at all! He was such a butthead (I'm keeping it clean but I was annoyed). We discussed how bedtime would go. It appeared we were on the same page. We fed her, snuggled a bit with music playing and I put her down. Then she began whinning and he scooped her up and rocked her. This happened 3 times. I eventually fell asleep and was sooooo annoyed with him when I woke to find that he ended up getting her to sleep and putting her on a pillow in the living room while he played video games. How is that at all helpful?</p> <p>I discussed it with our daycare provider and she's going to 'play around with' her nap times. She's become good at picking up on her tired cues and she's better (than my husband especially) at keeping it consistent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleepy-time-is-not-going-well-o#post-38824 Tue, 20 Dec 2011 23:22:58 +0000 Mrs. Bee 38824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i think moving up bedtime a lot earlier will help. Anywhere from 6:00 - 8:00 is a good bedtime. for some babies even 5:30pm works well. </p> <p>4:30am is when all people have a strong shift in their sleep cycle, so that's why your LO is waking up at that time. she probably doesn't know how to put herself back to sleep without a crutch (eg a feeding or you rocking her to sleep).</p> <p>if she's not getting good naps in the daytime, that can definitely be affecting her night time sleep. it's a cycle.</p> <p>try moving her bedtime up and putting her down drowsy but awake for a little while (maybe even let her cry 5-10 min), and see if that makes a difference. babies can separate daytime sleep and night time sleep so you can definitely work on her night time sleep without working on her daytime sleep. maybe if he night time sleep improves, she'll be better rested and her daytime sleep will improve! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleepy-time-is-not-going-well-o#post-38815 Tue, 20 Dec 2011 23:09:51 +0000 sunshine44 38815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@venice, I'm struggling with something similar. my 4.5 month old sleeps well from 7-11/12ish every night. Then she wakes every 1-2 hours but I can usually wait for a feed after 3 hours or so. This continues until 630am when she is up for the day.<br /> @mrbee, ive become consumed with LO's poor sleeping habits but cant find the courage to CIO and train her because i feel like she is just too young. what can i do to get over that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleepy-time-is-not-going-well-o#post-38552 Tue, 20 Dec 2011 16:52:59 +0000 mrbee 38552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Charlie was sleeptrained at 4.5 months, and it went soooooo well. We probably could've done it a bit earlier even. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleepy-time-is-not-going-well-o#post-38549 Tue, 20 Dec 2011 16:51:27 +0000 venice4504 38549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At 4 months I personally think they're too young to CIO. A night time routine (and it doesn't have to be a lot, just consistent) has helped us a lot. We used to put our son to bed around 9 and then I moved it to 8:30 and now we're at somewhere between 7-7:30 and he's doing amazingly well. He'll sleep until around 2-3am (so about 7 hours straight) which is "through the night" at this stage (most people consider a 5 hour stretch at night "through the night). We will feed and get him back to sleep. Ours is having problems with doing another long stretch after his night feeding though.</p> <p>I know for us it stinks to have to do a feeding about 3 hours after we go to sleep but there would just be no way we could keep him up any longer at night to afford us a long stretch of our own sleep. Mrs. Bee has posted on another thread about some really helpful things but honestly even she's noted that a lot of it is just what they baby's style is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleepy-time-is-not-going-well-o#post-38527 Tue, 20 Dec 2011 16:32:46 +0000 BabyLove 38527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you, I guess we'll just have to kinda experiment to see what routine she best responds to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleepy-time-is-not-going-well-o#post-38307 Tue, 20 Dec 2011 13:58:23 +0000 mommacommaphd 38307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like the infamous 4 month wakeful period.</p> <p>My daughter when through this and it really only resolved when we sleep trained around 7 months.</p> <p>My best advice- get a pre sleep routine in place and just stick with it.</p> <p>When she wakes, you don't have to let her cry it out, but maybe don't actually pick her up- just pat her back and shush her.</p> <p>It's hard and I know a lot of people are anti-cry it out, but that really was the only solution that worked for us. But as I said, we didn't do it until she was 7 months old (mainly because I was going to be starting a new job and would be totally useless without sleep).</p> <p>Also- while daycare might not be able to help with training her for naps, that doesn't mean you can't do it for bed time. Try putting her down drowsy but awake and doing the patting shushing thing without picking her up.</p> <p>It's all so variable, but that's what worked for us.</p> <p>Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleepy-time-is-not-going-well-o#post-38283 Tue, 20 Dec 2011 13:44:32 +0000 BabyLove 38283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm having a lil difficulty with my 4 month old. I'm not sure if it's just age appropriate. Or if she's possibly teething, growing, etc. But she's not falling asleep the way she used to. And she's not staying asleep as long as she used to. And she is most definitely not a good napper, but she really has never been. So to sum up- my LO isn't really loving the sleep the way her mommy does! </p> <p>The specifics- she used to sleep from 9:30 (a lot later than she probably should of gone to sleep) until 6;30am. Now we're trying to get her to sleep at around 8:30 but she just won't do it. My hubs has always rocked her (against others advice). So she's become reliant on it. And now even with him rocking her, she wakes up a few times before she finally stays asleep. And now she wakes at 4:30. I'm wondering if she's not actually hungry but just can't get herself back to sleep. I don't know how to approach the situation. </p> <p>I just read Mrs.Bee's post from a few months ago. it gave me great info. For instance- I totally misread her overtired cues as her just being tired. That would explain why she's been having such a hard time falling asleep at night lately! But, she's gone from a great sleeper to one that wakes after 6 hours. She takes a bunch of little cat naps but I'd obviously like her to sleep better during the day too. I'm not sure if that's all related? We've never really tried allowing her to "cry it out". We have let her whine for awhile, then it becomes a full blown cry and we cave. I'm not even sure if we should be letting her cry as she's only 4 months old. </p> <p>It's difficult especially because she's at daycare. And while our daycare provider is amazing, she does have other children to watch and I doubt she'd be able to provide all that individualized attention that it would take to get my LO "trained". </p> <p>Anyway, thanks for reading- any suggestions? </p>