https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 19 Jul 2026 22:13:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/smiling-through-an-rbf#post-2571546 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 16:56:32 +0000 808love 2571546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A friend of mine worked through this and I think she has made a ton of friends since then.<br /> I also instinctively don't trust people with RBF. I think they are just thinking something negative to themselves to repeat it aloud later.<br /> I definitely am not the 'always smiling' person I used to be a few years ago. Good to know I can/should work on it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/smiling-through-an-rbf#post-2571299 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 11:01:44 +0000 mediagirl 2571299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: RDF? :shocked: </p> <p>I have a hard time with this because I prefer not to smile. I feel like when I smile it looks forced so I like having my face neutral. It's so hard. I have no advice. Just thought my response above was funny. ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/smiling-through-an-rbf#post-2571265 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 10:14:40 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2571265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: me too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/smiling-through-an-rbf#post-2571166 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 08:38:02 +0000 Cherrybee 2571166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm the opposite. I cant stop smiling at people. I think its a nervous thing - I smile at strangers in the street, I say random things to people. People think I'm weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/smiling-through-an-rbf#post-2571154 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 08:16:37 +0000 maddyz 2571154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am the other way, I always seam to look approachable and happy. I have to remind myself to put on the 'leave me the f alone' face when I am walking home late or other times I just want quiet. Everyone ALWAYS asks me for directions... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/smiling-through-an-rbf#post-2571073 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 04:36:42 +0000 mrbee 2571073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Boogs: Smiling is like exercise: I don't like doing it, but can't argue with the results! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/smiling-through-an-rbf#post-2571071 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 03:45:05 +0000 autumnleaves 2571071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There's a guy at work who always tells me I need to smile more and it pisses me off. Having RBF is hard! :wink:<br /> I am not sure if having RBF is a reason I try to compliment people more or tell them thank you, "I appreciate..." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/smiling-through-an-rbf#post-2571013 Mon, 20 Jun 2016 21:29:50 +0000 Boogs 2571013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha you sound like me! Are you enjoying all the smiling? If not, just be you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/smiling-through-an-rbf#post-2571011 Mon, 20 Jun 2016 21:28:08 +0000 yoursilverlining 2571011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Uh, yes - RBF here. RBF has its perks, like I avoided most of the intrusive, nasty comments people make to pregnant women and mothers, ha! </p> <p>At work I'm on video conferences every day and I spend the time reminding myself to smile, in order to appear neural and happy. :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/smiling-through-an-rbf#post-2571006 Mon, 20 Jun 2016 21:12:28 +0000 MrsB2012 2571006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have the biggest RBF, like @Mrs. Champagne: I really wish I was someone who just looked naturally happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/smiling-through-an-rbf#post-2570964 Mon, 20 Jun 2016 20:10:07 +0000 MrsSCB 2570964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On the other end of the spectrum, my husband once had someone he worked with who told him he smiled TOO much. You just can't win I guess! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/smiling-through-an-rbf#post-2570962 Mon, 20 Jun 2016 20:01:38 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2570962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man I always look so pissed! It feels so fake to be smiling. I wish I was someone who naturally looked happy or pleasant! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/smiling-through-an-rbf#post-2570956 Mon, 20 Jun 2016 19:39:11 +0000 travellingbee 2570956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I have the same issue and always forget to make myself smile. I feel foolish smiling all the time, but apparently it is more pleasant to others? IDK </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/smiling-through-an-rbf#post-2570947 Mon, 20 Jun 2016 19:16:56 +0000 mrbee 2570947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My "resting face" is not very friendly... it's basically a male RBF.</p> <p>Someone I work with told me that I should smile more, so that I was more approachable and so I didn't "look so serious all of the time." I was annoyed (although my RBF hid it, since I already look annoyed all of the time). But just to prove them wrong, I figured I'd smile more for a few days and see if anyone noticed.</p> <p>Well I have been smiling for 2 weeks straight now, and the results have been surprising (to me). All this smiling is actually working, ugh. I must be more approachable, because people are talking to me more and being much more warm towards me. I guess my RBF really was keeping people away. I'm an introvert, so maybe that was my goal all along - who knows.</p> <p>So now I'm going to try and keep this smiling thing up. Does this mean I have to smile through my RBF for the rest of my life? Does anyone else have to smile just to look vaguely friendly-ish? </p>