https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 23:51:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-and-bonding-with-the-2ndbaby#post-562371 Tue, 12 Feb 2013 15:32:59 +0000 Lozza 562371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I expect this to be the case for us, but I don't actually care. Neither does DH.<br /> I'll go back to work fairly early, so LO#2 will kind of necessarily get used to care from people who aren't me- including DH, grandparents, aunts/uncles, and eventually daycare providers, so I'm not really worrying about whether LO#2 will be ok being cared for by DH. And if DH doesn't really feel bonded to LO#2 at 6 weeks, or 12 weeks... I don't actually think it necessarily has any kind of longer-term repercussions. Eventually LO#2 will get more integrated into the family life, eating with us, playing with LO#1, talking, etc., and DH will bond with LO#2 through all that stuff. And by the time they're school age, I'm sure they'll have parental preferences that have zero to do with who they were most bonded to under age 1, you know?<br /> I expect to have the primary role with LO#2 for as long as I'm BFing, probably a year, but after that, we're all about the equal split. (And we'll make a conscious effort to make sure that DH starts doing a lot more bedtimes and wake-ups with LO#2 once I'm done BFing, just like he did with LO#1). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-and-bonding-with-the-2ndbaby#post-562269 Tue, 12 Feb 2013 14:39:48 +0000 sorrycharlie 562269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH has struggled to bond with DD#1 - took over a month, I'd say. I mean he loved her, but not til she's been more interactive have I noticed a big change in seeking her out, getting excited to see her, etc. I feel like bonding with #2 will be faster because he'll have done it before! At least, I hope. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-and-bonding-with-the-2ndbaby#post-562238 Tue, 12 Feb 2013 14:22:47 +0000 chopsuey 562238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My dh took a while to bond with DS. It took a good 6 weeks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-and-bonding-with-the-2ndbaby#post-562163 Tue, 12 Feb 2013 13:40:53 +0000 T-Mom 562163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt that DH took much longer to bond with my first (DD) than my second (DS). Maybe for us it's a gender thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-and-bonding-with-the-2ndbaby#post-562131 Tue, 12 Feb 2013 13:28:18 +0000 autumnlove 562131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Most of DH's male coworkers (they all took 3-4 weeks paternity leave) told him it took longer to bond with their 2nd child because they were so busy taking care of their older LOs.</p> <p>Was this this case for your SO? I want to make sure DH gets lots of quality time with the new baby before he goes back to work! </p>