https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 02:07:04 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1971443 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 18:52:40 +0000 winter_wonder 1971443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Super obnoxious! My BIL also used to send lists for our niece (we never asked for it). I always made it a point to get something off the list...he's stopped sending them. But, we still get the same bs about us being a terrible aunt/uncle. Spare me the guilt trip!!! Ugh, i feel your pain. I absolutely dread holidays when people act like this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1971426 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 18:39:44 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1971426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:bummed: :shocked: smh she is too much!</p> <p>I'd let her know that you will gift them something you pick, so if she wants them to have those gifts she needs to put them back on her shopping list. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1971073 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 14:51:05 +0000 Anya 1971073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like @ShootingStar: idea!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1971060 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 14:45:29 +0000 alohaorchid 1971060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: haha this book is awesome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1971059 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 14:45:16 +0000 alohaorchid 1971059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@simplyfelicity: Yup, that's the one! I'm still not over that anger towards her so this just adds fuel to the fire! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1971052 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 14:43:01 +0000 simplyfelicity 1971052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alohaorchid: Oh my freaking goodness. I would totally not play into her games. It's not punishing the kids because it's not like they would know. I totally agree with @shootingstar: and say, "DH, didn't know I had already bought them different gifts." (Sorry but not sorry.) Is this the same SIL who was freaked out at the thought of your dogs being around for Christmas? So, you can't have your dogs but you can be bossed around by her in regards to gift giving? HELL NAW. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970940 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 14:03:12 +0000 NurseDMB 1970940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just went back and read your original post about her - your SIL sounds absolutely insane. Literally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970904 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 13:46:10 +0000 PurplePumps 1970904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd still tell her we got something else, and that DH was not aware. Either way I wouldn't be spending that kind of money on the kids. Have you just addressed it with her head on? I mean until you have confirmed you are coming, I don't know why she would tell the kids that. If she had really ticked me off, I'd probably had responded with "oh, thanks for the suggestions, does this mean are we on speaking terms again since you have ignored me for the last 2 months? Or did you just want to try to tell me what to buy your kids?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970886 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 13:36:15 +0000 Sunshine1810 1970886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow she is really rude! I would never suggest such expensive gifts. I agree with others that you should get them something different. I would also tell her that you already bought their gifts just to avoid the conflict. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970869 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 13:29:55 +0000 hilary 1970869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Annoying and rude. </p> <p>I have an Amazon wish list for my LO but that's only there in case someone wants suggestions. And has plenty of books and small things &lt;$20 so people don't feel obligated to spend much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970776 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 12:53:25 +0000 MOMTOLITTLEB 1970776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't imagine sending a text like that! My son has 3 aunts and my only hope is they get him a little something because I appreciate the gesture of giving to kids. I've selected thoughtful gifts for my own 2 nephews. I would never suggest anything unless asked and in that case I'd say something in the $20-$30 range. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970758 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 12:48:41 +0000 MrsSCB 1970758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, how obnoxious! My SIL gets on my nerves, too, and I understand the delicate balance of trying to figure out how to not give into her demands and respect your H's relationship with her. I would try to have a calm conversation with him about the fact that he shouldn't give into these kind of things, especially after the way she acted over Thanksgiving, because it just reinforces that behavior. Does this stuff bother him as well? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970732 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 12:42:09 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1970732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alohaorchid: ew! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970718 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 12:39:28 +0000 mrs. bird 1970718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i would send this book to the family, it's a very sweet story, but it would be rather poignant<br /> <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Gift-Nothing-Patrick-McDonnell/dp/031611488X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&#038;ie=UTF8&#038;qid=1417714622&#038;sr=1-1&#038;keywords=the+gift+of+nothing" rel="nofollow">http://www.amazon.com/Gift-Nothing-Patrick-McDonnell/dp/031611488X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&#038;ie=UTF8&#038;qid=1417714622&#038;sr=1-1&#038;keywords=the+gift+of+nothing</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970711 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 12:36:41 +0000 jetsa 1970711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: exactly! The only people I'll send links to are those that ask. My family loves Amazon wish lists and asks for them so I make them but no one else sees them </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970706 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 12:34:53 +0000 LuLu Mom 1970706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would respond and say "thanks for the suggestions, we will keep them in mind when shopping" and get something else you know they will like. My sister does this and it pisses me off, I will pick out gifts for my niece and nephew thank you very much. do not send me links! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970678 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 12:20:46 +0000 alohaorchid 1970678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@plantains: that pretty much sums up how I feel!</p> <p>I just snapped at my husband through text and basically let it all out how I feel about his sister.... I said she feels like a giant black cloud raining all over everything and it makes me not want to spend time with the kids. This probably won't end well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970670 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 12:16:59 +0000 cheert16 1970670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alohaorchid: I am a total jerk and would just ignore what she said they wanted and get them something different just to spite her. The kids will be happy no matter what!!<br /> Urg- I am super annoyed about this FOR you!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970668 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 12:16:13 +0000 plantains 1970668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This would make me insane with rage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970664 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 12:14:36 +0000 blackbird 1970664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bahahaha homegirl is TRIPPING </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970636 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 12:04:34 +0000 alohaorchid 1970636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jetsa: That's exactly what I thought, I'm sure the kids will be happy with whatever we get them, and they get so many gifts that they will just be excited anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970634 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 12:02:54 +0000 jetsa 1970634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alohaorchid: I'm spiteful enough that there's no way I'd buy them what she requested. The kids aren't going to care </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970630 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 12:00:04 +0000 alohaorchid 1970630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cait: Nope, not at all. This is just how she is with everything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970629 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 11:59:41 +0000 alohaorchid 1970629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: ooh good idea!!</p> <p>It's horrible but I actually thought that we should get them different gifts and if she says anything just pass it off as we forgot about the message/the store was sold out/we found gifts we liked more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970624 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 11:59:03 +0000 cait 1970624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is your SIL having financial troubles or something? I keep thinking of Christmas Vacation when Clark ends up with his BIL's family's Christmas list. :silly: (Although Eddie seemed more pleasant than your SIL...) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970622 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 11:58:23 +0000 ShootingStar 1970622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ha, if it was me I'd make DH text her again and say "whoops, sorry we've already gotten gifts for them." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970611 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 11:50:45 +0000 alohaorchid 1970611@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks ladies! I just needed somewhere to vent. This woman can get anger out of me like no one else.</p> <p>Now I feel like even when the kids open their gifts I'm going to get mad all over again just thinking about her demanding what we get them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970609 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 11:49:32 +0000 jetsa 1970609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alohaorchid: gah I'm sorry she sounds horrible. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970607 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 11:48:34 +0000 youboots 1970607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @mamaof2 "thanks for your suggestions, but we will be selecting their gifts, we will be sure to ask if we need ideas in the future." Dude, so sorry you are dealing with this. Boo. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-annoyed-with-sil-again#post-1970606 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 11:48:31 +0000 alohaorchid 1970606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@keepcalmcarrie: That is exactly what I said to my husband! </p> <p>@jetsa: I didn't even respond to her, my husband just said sure.</p> <p>I feel my blood pressure rising just thinking about spending Christmas with her. </p>