https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 19:44:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-do-i-just-throw-in-the-towel#post-2265455 Mon, 17 Aug 2015 19:04:26 +0000 Foodnerd81 2265455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After all this drama, we've been doing the one chance then you go in the crib. She mostly seemed to accept this and wouldn't cry much when we put her in, but insisted she wanted to sleep in the bed. </p> <p>Tonight, I asked her where she wants to sleep and she CHOSE the crib. And went down no problem in there. So... I guess she sleeps in the crib again- which is fine but sheesh. What a drama queen! </p> <p>On the fairly rare occasion that she wakes up crying during the night, Dh or I go in and settle her and lay down with her in the bed. Once she is asleep we either stay or go back to our own bed and that's been working ok. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-do-i-just-throw-in-the-towel#post-2263730 Fri, 14 Aug 2015 14:16:00 +0000 Foodnerd81 2263730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@birdofafeather: yeah the bed has been there since she was born so she is used to that. And the cribs not going anywhere either since eventually the baby will be sleeping in it and there is nowhere else to put it. </p> <p>So my new plan as of tonight is ask where she wants to sleep. She always says big bed. Tell her she gets one chance and if she gets out that tells me she wants to sleep in the crib (she understands this concept in terms of take off your Sunhat, you are telling me you want to leave the park). If she gets out, crib. No more threats or bribes. When she is ready she will stay in the crib. </p> <p>I really wish our video monitor could be adjusted remotely though. I am shifting it back and forth with every bed and crib move. First world problems. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-do-i-just-throw-in-the-towel#post-2263700 Fri, 14 Aug 2015 13:31:45 +0000 Cherrybee 2263700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a similar situation to you - E used to scream for 1.5 hrs in the crib every night. We switched to a floor bed and now she throws herself about the room, trashes the place, squeals delightedly and flings her bed around the floor about for 45 mins but eventually she climbs onto her bed, lies down and goes to sleep. It takes half the time and she's not unhappy..... We keep her bedroom door closed though..... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-do-i-just-throw-in-the-towel#post-2263485 Fri, 14 Aug 2015 10:00:47 +0000 birdofafeather 2263485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i would totally put her back in the crib if she's sleeping in it and there is no rush! leave the bed so she gets used to it and then try again in a couple months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-do-i-just-throw-in-the-towel#post-2263311 Fri, 14 Aug 2015 07:38:14 +0000 Mamaof2 2263311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: I would put her back in the crib.<br /> I tried moving DS into a toddler bed when I was pregnant, mainly for me as my stomach was getting to big to reach over and get him in the crib - it was disastrous! We put him back in the crib and all was well again. It was about 8 months later when we moved him again and it went much better </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-do-i-just-throw-in-the-towel#post-2263250 Fri, 14 Aug 2015 06:30:29 +0000 Foodnerd81 2263250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@noelani: yeah she hasn't climbed out yet, just was screaming her head off and refusing to sleep in the crib. We would have a couple nights a week where Dh or I had sleep in the bed in the room with her to get her to sleep. And she stopped waking up at 4:30 for the most part when we switched. </p> <p>But now she seems to be back to being ok with the crib. She resists for a few minutes then goes to sleep. I guess we will give her a choice at night but if she gets up once, into the crib. </p> <p>@MamaCate: totally guilty of trying a million things at once and hoping something sticks. It's hard to be consistent when it seems like something isn't working at all! But we have been pretty consistent (most nights but not all) with three tries of getting back in bed then crib. Then if she screams for ten minutes or more she can get back in the bed (uh, not the best example to set). It's just the last few nights she actually went to sleep instead of screaming. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-do-i-just-throw-in-the-towel#post-2263235 Fri, 14 Aug 2015 06:04:59 +0000 illumina 2263235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If she's sleeping okay in the crib still I would leave her. I totally agree with the pp who said it will take until the child is ready. Hence why S is still in her crib and we haven't thought about potty training yet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-do-i-just-throw-in-the-towel#post-2263187 Fri, 14 Aug 2015 00:10:51 +0000 noelani 2263187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I posted a similar plea for help tonight too! </p> <p>Our situations are a little different bc DS was jumping out of the crib, but the bedtime battle is killing me and @78H2O mentioned in her response to my post that some parents lower the crib mattress all the way to the floor as a means of prolonging time in the crib. I think we're going to try that tomorrow night, so hopefully other responders are right that it's best to give up on the big kid bed until our kiddos are ready!</p> <p>In the meantime I'm following your post in the hope that someone will recommend a magical solution... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-do-i-just-throw-in-the-towel#post-2263169 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 23:09:06 +0000 MamaCate 2263169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: No direct experience with this but one of the things I remember from the sleep books I read for my LO who seemingly never slept was that it takes a while to implement a new approach. It sounds like you are trying a lot of things to get something to stick, and I don't know what your timelines have been. But it might help to pick one approach, try for a week or two, and then reevaluate how it is working and try something else if needed? Good luck! Sleep is such a nightmare when it is not working! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-do-i-just-throw-in-the-towel#post-2263120 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 21:39:49 +0000 rosegold 2263120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: oh man sleep troubles. i was really bad about consistency and am still paying for it two years later. try few things, like you are, and STICK with what you feel is best or will work best. good luck!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-do-i-just-throw-in-the-towel#post-2263118 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 21:36:49 +0000 Foodnerd81 2263118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladybee: totally agree with the being ready thing- and that's what our ped said about potty training (though we are not broaching that yet!). But what's confusing me is that she seems to want the big bed so badly. I want her in the crib for a few more months but was letting her lead. So now I'm just confused. I guess since she so often does make sense these days it's throwing me more than usual when she makes no sense at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-do-i-just-throw-in-the-towel#post-2263056 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 20:35:18 +0000 ladybee 2263056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: I read something once that said you can start childhood transitions (big bed, potty training, etc.) whenever but it's not going to work until your child is ready. If you start early, you'll still finish when they are ready. </p> <p>I know I didn't word that well but if she's not ready, she's not ready and forcing it will only make hell for you all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-do-i-just-throw-in-the-towel#post-2263032 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 20:11:47 +0000 Foodnerd81 2263032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: @travellingbee: we did try a couple nights with no chances. Didn't seem to make a big difference. And I'm a crazy person who keeps thinking, ok she really gets it this time! </p> <p>I'm thinking maybe the gate idea might work? Or fixing the door knob and putting a cover on it. She doesn't mind the closed door usually. </p> <p>I'm just wondering if she just isn't ready. I don't know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-do-i-just-throw-in-the-towel#post-2263012 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 19:57:44 +0000 travellingbee 2263012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: I agree with this. If it doesn't help Id go back to crib for a while... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-do-i-just-throw-in-the-towel#post-2263008 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 19:55:05 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 2263008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, I might give up for a few months and try again. K is taking about 45 minutes to fall asleep in her bed, and that alone is really trying. I can't imagine the battle that you're going through.<br /> But everyone else seems to have awesome ideas, so that might be the place to start! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-do-i-just-throw-in-the-towel#post-2263002 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 19:50:14 +0000 Truth Bombs 2263002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would first try not giving her the second chance. So if she gets out of bed even one time she goes in the crib, no second chance. Try it for a few nights and see if it clicks for her. I'm not at all comfortable with the idea of a lock on my child's door so I would go back to the crib full time before I did that as an option. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-do-i-just-throw-in-the-towel#post-2262992 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 19:41:52 +0000 ShootingStar 2262992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd either fix the door or get one of those monkey locks. Then I'd give her 10 or 20 minutes. DS gets really upset when we leave the room but only for a couple minutes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-do-i-just-throw-in-the-towel#post-2262984 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 19:34:24 +0000 charlotte 2262984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had two great weeks in the big boy bed and then everything turned HORRIBLE. Over 20 nap and bedtime escapes, skipping naps altogether, coming in our room at midnight, 3/4/5am every day.... My husband did a LOT but sometimes if he worked late etc it was up to me to take LO back to bed. When I hit third tri it became ridiculously frustrating and uncomfortable...standing for over an hour to take him back or sit-stand-sit-stand as he got in and out. </p> <p>So. We gave up! We actually had bought a second convertible crib anyway because we weren't ready to do a full or twin and "toddler beds" use the crib mattress anyway. And he always loved his crib so we wanted it to be similar. </p> <p>He was sad for one night about no more big boy bed and then starting the next night went back to perfect sleep. </p> <p>Locking him in was not an option for us because we had never had to sleep train and I felt too bad about letting him scream for us to the point of giving up for the first time ever at age 2.5</p> <p>I feel like he's justtttt starting to understand consequences better and the next time we try he will know what we mean when we say "if you get out then bye bye big boy bed". At least I hope!</p> <p>Disclaimer is he's never tried to climb out of his crib before so I don't have that to worry about in all of this (yet?). Some of our fam members and friends apparently think we are weird for giving up on it but we are all happy we did for now. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-do-i-just-throw-in-the-towel#post-2262952 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 19:05:59 +0000 Jess1483 2262952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Yep. He'd stand at the gate for a few minutes and then give up and go to bed. He can hear and see us, too, but it wasn't a huge deal. We don't have the door closed. He was about 22 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-do-i-just-throw-in-the-towel#post-2262950 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 19:04:31 +0000 Foodnerd81 2262950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jess1483: so he would climb back into his bed after coming to the door and screaming? Her room is close to the kitchen so if the door is open at all she can see me in there cooking and cleaning. But her doorknob doesn't latch and we haven't fixed it yet. I just catch picture her getting back into the bed, even though she is capable of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-do-i-just-throw-in-the-towel#post-2262947 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 19:00:51 +0000 Jess1483 2262947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is when we put up the baby gate. Screamed about 20 minutes, gave in, and has done well in the big boy bed ever since. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-do-i-just-throw-in-the-towel#post-2262944 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 18:58:25 +0000 Foodnerd81 2262944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As you may recall, we started letting C sleep in her big bed about two weeks ago, just before she turned two. She's been sleeping terribly in the crib, waking up at night, needing us to lay in the bed with her until she fell asleep then we would move her to the crib. So we gave in and let her do the big bed. First night was fine. After that, she started this game of getting up and coming out of her room multiple times a night. We offered rewards. We talked about it. Nothing worked, so we started giving her a couple chances then she got put in the crib. Usually she would scream in the crib for several minutes then we would go back in, and give her one more chance in the bed and she would stay and fall asleep. Once she was asleep she would sleep through until around 7, which is awesome for her. </p> <p>The last three nights we've played this charade but she screams in the crib for a few minutes then falls asleep, sleeps through and wakes up around 7. </p> <p>so we just say F it and go back to the crib? She is still napping in there anyway. Baby 2 will be here in December but will be in our room for a while anyway, then they will share. </p> <p>I don't really understand why this is so hard for her! But the nightly battles have to stop- I have zero patience left by bedtime and info it solo most nights. I'm done. </p>