https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 01:56:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body/page/2#post-2006181 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 00:46:14 +0000 Sapphiresun 2006181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, I feel ya. I gained 40lbs due to fertility treatments while trying to get pregnant, then only 16 while I was pregnant. Lost all the pregnancy weight in six weeks, but gained it all back plus an additional 10 lbs while on maternity leave. So now I'm 65 lbs heavier than I was, and I was already probably 20 lbs heavier than I like to be... </p> <p>Last night we went out for new year's and DH put on a dress shirt. After we got home and had fun times his shirt was laying on a nearby chair, so I thought it would be cute to put it on. Except... I couldn't do it up. I' officially a larger men's size than my 6' tall husband. Womp womp... mood killer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body/page/2#post-2006180 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 00:43:38 +0000 beckysue 2006180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygurl: walled you back :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body/page/2#post-2006179 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 00:38:04 +0000 badwolf 2006179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have been struggling with this a lot, although I'm only 18 weeks with my first. I used to be pretty thin and athletic until after college, when I couldn't afford to take 20 hours of dance classes a week and my PCOS and hypothyroid caught up with a vengeance. I've been struggling for years to lose the weight I packed on, and had been stuck at a plateau for over a year before I got pregnant. I didn't gain any weight the first 14 weeks but now I've started gaining and I'm having such a hard time coping. I hate being overweight, especially when the rest of my family and my in-laws are all thin. I've cried I don't know how many times over bad pictures, numbers on the scale, and abject terror of gaining a ton of weight and never being able to lose it. I hate, hate, hate being overweight and I am petrified that I'll never get my real body back :( Maybe I can join the group after I deliver in June? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body/page/2#post-2005249 Thu, 01 Jan 2015 13:14:18 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 2005249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spaniellove: I feel like that sometimes, like I only carried D for 7 months, what's my excuse? </p> <p>@sandy: :heart: </p> <p>I'm right there with you guys. I'm 5lbs bigger than ibwas the morning before I had DS1. I also normally have a good self image until I see a photo. One of our friends saw pics from my sister's wedding (when I was in college) and thought the pic of me was someone else, because I was so thin I was unrecognizable, apparently. Sigh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body/page/2#post-2005194 Thu, 01 Jan 2015 12:37:06 +0000 jhd 2005194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: that's very helpful. thanks for sharing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body/page/2#post-2005164 Thu, 01 Jan 2015 11:52:59 +0000 blackbird 2005164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: @Cherrybee: Bahahaha good :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body/page/2#post-2005161 Thu, 01 Jan 2015 11:50:25 +0000 Cherrybee 2005161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: That was really helpful! Thank you! I looooooove working out (I don't believe it yet but as least Im trying haha!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body/page/2#post-2005145 Thu, 01 Jan 2015 11:31:13 +0000 artsyfartsy 2005145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: I find that very helpful!! Thank you so much! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body/page/2#post-2005115 Thu, 01 Jan 2015 10:39:11 +0000 blackbird 2005115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just wanted to chime in with some support and advice that I've used in the past. A lot of body transformation is due to mental training and goal setting-studies show that the more mental training you do, the more likely you are to achieve your goals (EVEN if you work out less!!!!) I've used these methods from a book with great success in the past (I had a lot to lose after E, and I'll be doing it again this year). They may seem cheesy but they help!</p> <p>Set a goal. Write it down.<br /> Set measurable goals (weight, fat %, waist measurement)<br /> Set big goals-don't shortchange yourself<br /> Set realistic deadlines (no lose 10 pounds in a week silly business)<br /> Long term and short term goals<br /> -One month, 3 month, 1 week, daily. Small achievements keep you motivated<br /> Carry a goal card-it's a constant reminder to stay on track<br /> Establish emotional reasons for reaching your goal-wanting to be healthier, imagining yourself healthier, running around with your kids, feeling good in X outfit, etc.<br /> Write your goals positively-not "I hate working out", but "I feel stronger when I do this". Turn negatives into positives because negatives are poisonous<br /> Visit goals twice a day-out of sight is out of mind</p> <p>Just throwing it out there if anyone finds it helpful :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body/page/2#post-2005109 Thu, 01 Jan 2015 10:29:06 +0000 erwoo 2005109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel the same way too. I often wear dark color clothes now b/c I just don't like the way I look with lighter clothing. But, I have two beautiful (and wild, of course) boys and they are all worth every single pound that I gained trying to have them, having them, and taking care of them. I often feel I need to eat a full meal to keep up with them. *Hugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body/page/2#post-2005095 Thu, 01 Jan 2015 10:14:46 +0000 Cherrybee 2005095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been thinking about this thread..... I didn't post previously because I don't hate my body, not really. I'm 42lb overweight and I don't exactly love how I look but I only get depressed about it when I'm dressing up to go out and as I do that so infrequently it doesn't really matter. What I do hate though is how unhealthy I feel. I get so tired just walking up the stairs. I had some tests done recently and my cholesterol is a little raised, my blood sugar is borderline...... I owe it to E to take better care if myself. But its so, so hard......... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body/page/2#post-2004853 Wed, 31 Dec 2014 21:45:47 +0000 singingbee 2004853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@78h2o: thank you for posting this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body/page/2#post-2004845 Wed, 31 Dec 2014 21:40:30 +0000 knittylady 2004845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygurl: hahha I am! Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body/page/2#post-2004839 Wed, 31 Dec 2014 21:37:22 +0000 swurlygurl 2004839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@knittylady: are you the one who just added me on fb? If so I added you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body/page/2#post-2004825 Wed, 31 Dec 2014 21:24:45 +0000 knittylady 2004825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygurl: I'd be inter ested too! I don't have any other mom friends and this kind of body transformation is so beyond what my friends can relate to.. :bummed: </p> <p>I also find that I'm thinner in my head than in reality. Walking by mirrors and big shop windows sends me spiraling. Ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body/page/2#post-2004808 Wed, 31 Dec 2014 21:04:16 +0000 daniellemybelle 2004808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I so get this. I feel this exact way too. It sucks. I'm sorry &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body/page/2#post-2004619 Wed, 31 Dec 2014 17:45:09 +0000 artsyfartsy 2004619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sandy: I can't imagine how difficult that must be. I'm so sorry </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body/page/2#post-2004617 Wed, 31 Dec 2014 17:44:28 +0000 artsyfartsy 2004617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spaniellove: Aww mama. Don't think that. He is not broken. He's beautiful and so are you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body/page/2#post-2004144 Wed, 31 Dec 2014 12:28:55 +0000 spaniellove 2004144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is probably really wrong, but I know the message is often "your body is amazing because it made this beautiful baby"...while all I can think is "but I made a broken baby, so where does that leave me?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body/page/2#post-2004097 Wed, 31 Dec 2014 12:12:20 +0000 sandy 2004097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm also so embarrassed of my body. I'm a gainer - I gained 50lbs with my first (and fortunately lost it all through BF) and gained about 40lbs with my second pregnancy. Of course my mind was no where near weight loss the entire time I had Ava and even after we lost her I wasn't thinking about it. But now I'm at almost 7 weeks PP with no baby but all the baby weight. And it's so stupid but I'm extra self conscious what other people think bc I have a 3 year old and I feel like they're judging me for being a mom that just let herself go with motherhood when in fact I just had a baby. So unimportant and so stupid but I let myself feel bad about it when I'm around other fit moms with tiny babies while I'm still in my maternity clothes with no infant. It just sucks feeling bad about yourself and bad about your body. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body/page/2#post-2004057 Wed, 31 Dec 2014 11:54:07 +0000 Chuckles 2004057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygirl: so glad it's not just me! ETA: isn't that pretty much the theme of most hellobee threads :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body/page/2#post-2004026 Wed, 31 Dec 2014 11:45:49 +0000 MrsMccarthy 2004026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The initial 6 months or so PP were so hard for me. I have always been naturally thin and since having my son I have had a muffin top even when I got my weight down I was 20 pounds over what I like for myself. What helped me was adjusting my expectations for myself. I was nursing for the majority of the time and I had to make sure not to do any crazy dieting. I now have a attitude that I'm going to embrace what I can about this new body and make it the best and healthiest it can be with new standards. It takes a lot less for me to feel good about my body now and I'm hoping that will help me when I have this baby in March and have to deal with chubby summer arms. Our bodies I'd an amazing thing for us and for our families by having these babies. It's too bad they have to change but its pretty miraculous that they can do what they did. Go easy on yourself and start slow. Love your body because it gave you T! i think you are on the right track. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body#post-2003999 Wed, 31 Dec 2014 11:39:12 +0000 swurlygurl 2003999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chuckles: Hahaha, omg, that happens to me all the time - it's both hilarious and mortifying </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body#post-2003996 Wed, 31 Dec 2014 11:37:40 +0000 Ash 2003996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh mama! I know so many of us have felt this way but it's something I'd never wish upon anybody. First off, look at baby T and how beautiful of a little human YOUR body created. Growing a baby really takes a toll on our bodies - it will never be the same but look how worth it it is. You're beautiful! Cherish the pictures your mom took - it was T's 1st Christmas! And give yourself a little bit of a break. Embrace your new body! &lt;3 and be kind to yourself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body#post-2003956 Wed, 31 Dec 2014 11:19:28 +0000 Chuckles 2003956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally understand, too. Our LO's monitor takes screen shots every so often, so when you turn the screen on, it briefly shows the last shot taken. Well, the other night I turned it on and was like, who is that person with the giant ass bending over my child's crib? Oh, awesome, that's me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body#post-2003923 Wed, 31 Dec 2014 11:04:41 +0000 swurlygurl 2003923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: @tinyperson: Walled you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body#post-2003922 Wed, 31 Dec 2014 11:02:39 +0000 tinyperson 2003922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygurl: I'd love to join the FB group too...I've put on some serious holiday weight, and I was nowhere near where I wanted to be before that! I hate pictures of myself, which makes me feel bad because I want to have pictures of LO and I together :(</p> <p>ETA: I carry my weight in my stomach, so now that LO is 2 and I've put more weight on, I'm dreading getting the "are you pregnant?" questions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body#post-2003909 Wed, 31 Dec 2014 10:56:01 +0000 Ifyoulikepinacoladas 2003909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: the way I see it, when you leave hospital you take two new things home. A baby and a body. Both are complete strangers and it takes time to get to know and look after them. My body was never the same after DD was born, and I went through the classic stages of grief. Acceptance arrived 3 years after she was born? I actively reframed how I felt about my body at that point - instead of how does it look, I retrained myself to ask what can it do? If I wasn't happy with the second question I stepped up the healthy lifestyle another notch. Shifting from 'punishing myself' to 'nurturing myself' with good food choices and exercise I enjoy made all the difference, especially when I was at my body hating worst through recurrent miscarriage struggles. Be kind to yourself mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body#post-2003900 Wed, 31 Dec 2014 10:50:58 +0000 artsyfartsy 2003900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: I could have written your post exactly!<br /> @swurlygurl: yes I would love to!!<br /> @MrsRcCar: Thank you! I definitely need to change and I'm ready to. Yes I want to look back on pictures with my baby and not think about how humungo I was!<br /> @Mamasig: I feel the same. I related so much to what you wrote.<br /> @jhd: Same here. :(<br /> @Littlebit: Hahahaha!!! Yes!!<br /> @beckysue: Definitely. It's hard to make time for yourself. I feel guilty even when I do.<br /> @photojane: Thank you!! :)<br /> @Canoli: Omg yes. Pants are this way for me too. I hate it.<br /> @T.H.O.U.: :(<br /> @Mama Bird: Exactly. Why wear nice clothes? Mamas have to be prepared! Lol<br /> @snowjewelz: Lol!!<br /> @avivoca: Thank you. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-embarrassed-of-my-body#post-2003892 Wed, 31 Dec 2014 10:46:11 +0000 autumn865 2003892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I cometely sly get what you're feeling! After DD1 I gained 50+ pounds. Most of it came off but when I got pregnant with current DD2 I was still up 10-15 pounds. At 35 weeks I've gained 30ish (don't look at the scale anymore) I'm worried about getting the weight off completely this time but at the same time I try to tell myself that my body is amazing and created two babies which is no small thing. When I was at my lowest weight in college I was also probably at my least healthy (poor diet etc) so I try to tell myself it's not a number it's being healthy. I also grew up in a house with a mother with a really really poor self image. Growing up I would constant hear her put herself down about how she looked or her weight. Growing up I never saw my mom as overweight or not pretty I saw her as mom and I remember even as a kid wishing she would think better of herself. It has always been my goal to have a more positive self image for my daughters same because that's important for them to see forming their own self images. </p>