https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 08 Jun 2026 06:16:54 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-frustrated-2#post-1862047 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 14:03:34 +0000 immabeetoo 1862047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Emsmems: I am sure there will be crying but in my opinion that's kinder than just cutting off all together. Maybe set a certain time that you will not nurse before? Remember the first night will probably be the hardest! My son always takes three days to adjust to changes like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-frustrated-2#post-1862041 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 14:00:15 +0000 gotkimchi 1862041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Emsmems: I did try reducing nursing and we started at 10 min and got down to 4, but anything less then that and she would cry when I put her down anyways! So then we ignored but I am happy I did that because I felt confident that she couldn't be starving. I was up nursing ALL NIGHT and I work 12 hr shifts as well in the medical field so I could not go on :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-frustrated-2#post-1862039 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 13:54:43 +0000 Emsmems 1862039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jess1483: I was afraid of that (teaching him to cry longer by giving in). I'll try separating nursing more too. </p> <p>@scg00387: I was leaning toward trying to cut back on nursing too. I just think that's going to lead to more crying, but I don't know unless I try. I have the no cry sleep solution book, I need to pull it out and read it! Duh! </p> <p>@gotkimchi: I was also wondering if I should do that. Day I won't nurse before x time. I need to think about this further! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-frustrated-2#post-1862018 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 13:06:59 +0000 gotkimchi 1862018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Emsmems: I gave dh the monitor and he kept it until 2 for a few nights and now lo has only been getting up once around 3. I think it was easier for him not to go in. So we basically ignored anythjng before 2am because we knew she wasn't hungry/wet ect. After 2 nights she sleeps right through until 3 when I feed. She probably woke up for about 20 mins a few times those 2 nights although dh said it was 45 min once. But I agree either go in and feed or ignore but don't go in after 30 min! I nurse at all wakeups because it's the fastest/most reliable way to get all if us back to sleep quickly. When she's done nursong I put her down and if she complains after that I ignore. I sound mean but I swear she's a happy camper and it's not as bad as it sounds! But I truly don't think she'll sleep the whole night until we totally wean or dad sleeps on the couch with the monitor all night.</p> <p>Eta. I did try "gently weaning" a few night feedings first by cutting back 30sec-1 min every night but that just made her pissed </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-frustrated-2#post-1862016 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 13:01:01 +0000 immabeetoo 1862016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also I personally think kids appetites wane and wax, so just because he sttn once sdoesnt mean he isn't hungry. I would guess you'll have an easier time slowly cutting back feeds than just cold turkey so he can adjust some of his caloric intake back to daytime. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-frustrated-2#post-1862015 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 12:59:47 +0000 immabeetoo 1862015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>CIO isn't the only option. Have you tried offering water? We did no cry sleep solution; for us it was weaning off rocking to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-frustrated-2#post-1862012 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 12:55:16 +0000 Jess1483 1862012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Emsmems: baby sleep is so frustrating. Hugs. I have two suggestions. First, when he wakes up, either dried to feed right away, and go right away, or decide not to feed, and don't cave. When you go in to feed after 45 minutes, you teach him to cry for 45 minutes an mommy will come. And yes, nursing probably is too close to bedtime. Can you separate it by at least 20 minutes?</p> <p>CIO is probably the fastest way to solve the problem, but I would start with these. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-frustrated-2#post-1862009 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 12:44:24 +0000 Emsmems 1862009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok, so I think DS is in the "9month" sleep regression at 8 months. The last week of sleep has been TERRIBLE! Wakeups every hour or 2 and he will only settle by nursing (or DH will bring a bottle in and he'll sometimes eat from that, sometimes just screams until I come in and nurse him). He doesn't eat that much most of the time, but he'll SCREAM if I try to just hold him or rock him. Admittedly, we've always dealt with all wake ups by just nursing, but we were at one to 2 wakeups a night, usually midnight and 4 or just once around 2-3 am.</p> <p>I can't deal with all these wake ups and then go work a 12 hour shift. I have to do something! </p> <p>My thoughts: we probably need to get away from nursing at every wake up. But how? I know he CAN go all night without eating, he has STTN twice in his life, but I would be happy to nurse him just once all night, not 7-8 times (like last night). </p> <p>Do we CIO? Do I go in, not feed him, then put him down and let him cry? Ugh, I just don't know. But the last couple nights he wakes up within an hour of going to bed so I KNOW he's not hungry and we tried just letting him cry and gave up and went in and nursed after 45 min. He goes to bed awake but does nurse before going to bed. (We nurse, read a book, then go to bed). So no nursing to sleep, but is it still too close to going down to bed? </p> <p>Any ideas? DH and I are on our last straw. I keep thinking I'll get a sleep consultant, and then don't, but I'm considering it again. I don't know what else to do! </p>