https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 08:28:04 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291856 Wed, 12 Sep 2012 10:55:52 +0000 mrskc 291856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Yes! Agreed! </p> <p>I'm sorry she said that to you. I've heard it a couple of times from friends, who've never been pregnant before, that I'm big. One time my sister said, "Gosh, you're getting big" to me "jokingly". I told her to never tell a pregnant woman she's big. She tried to laugh it off and act like she was joking with me. I try to not let it bother me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291804 Wed, 12 Sep 2012 10:27:15 +0000 dc yoga bee 291804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: AMEN! </p> <p>So sorry that happened to you :( You DON'T look fat, and I'm an internet stranger with no reason to flatter or lie to ya! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291745 Wed, 12 Sep 2012 09:39:19 +0000 Adira 291745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think when people say rude and insensitive things like this, we should call them out on it. Most people just don't realize how hurtful they are being, and if we don't point it out to them, they'll just do it to the next pregnant lady they see.</p> <p>When I announced to my parents and grandparents, my grandmother's first response was "I was wondering because you seem bigger!" I said "Are you calling me fat, grandma? Because that's just rude!" I know she didn't MEAN to be insulting, but she was, so I pointed it out! She wouldn't have said anything about my size if she didn't know I was pregnant, so why is it okay to comment on my size now that she does know?</p> <p>If someone ever tells me I'm looking big, I think I'll be tempted to respond with "So do you - what's your excuse?" regardless of whether it's true or not. It's just rude to comment on someone's size, period, pregnant or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291720 Wed, 12 Sep 2012 09:22:26 +0000 chopsuey 291720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm Korean and have heard comments about my weight my entire life!<br /> I got a lot of "are you having twins" when I was pregnant with Lo. I just told people, no, I just ate a lot and am really fat. Hah</p> <p>Most of the large and in charge and fat comments come out Of my mouth. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291710 Wed, 12 Sep 2012 09:15:06 +0000 sorrycharlie 291710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ugh, never okay to call anyone fat, pregnant or not! people are so rude.</p> <p>I've gotten a few comments along the lines of, "whoa you popped!" "you finally got big!" "holy belly!" but what's offended me the most is when people (including family members and a friend) told me I'm "starving the baby."</p> <p>I've measured small all along, but I've been throwing up DAILY since 6 weeks, and I'm 38 weeks now! I mean c'mon, I'd LOVE to be able to eat something other than basic carbs - I'm not purposefully friggin' starving my child. I bawled when I got home after my friend said that. I already had mom-guilt enough that my baby is measuring 3 weeks small, so why tell me I'm starving her? Stupid, stupid people. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291669 Wed, 12 Sep 2012 08:41:29 +0000 littlebug 291669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Seriously, what is it about pregnancy and people losing their filters and manners? It is unbelievable what people say to and around pregnant women without thinking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291661 Wed, 12 Sep 2012 08:37:48 +0000 photojane 291661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i can't get over what people think it's okay to say to pregnant woman! i'm sorry you guys!</p> <p>@jessiejo17: a couple years ago when my niece was much younger she asked me when my baby was coming out.... i wasn't pregnant. :( haha</p> <p>i think i might've taken it differently if she simply said, "you're not very big yet!" or "you're not as big as i thought you'd be!" but instead she essentially said "you just look fat, not pregnant." i think my sensitivity is in part because of the hormones, but whatever... don't call a pregnant lady fat even if you mean well! ha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291653 Wed, 12 Sep 2012 08:32:45 +0000 LuLu Mom 291653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry, an adult should know better! </p> <p> My 5 year old niece asked if I was going to sit in the hot tub with her this weekend at my mom and dads and I said "no not today after I have the baby then I'll sit with you" and she's like "is it because you are embarrassed of your fat belly?" I laughed it off but my mom jumped at her and said "it's not a fat belly it's a baby belly." I have tried my best to shake off comments since people don't seem to know how they come across! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291643 Wed, 12 Sep 2012 08:23:18 +0000 mrsjyw 291643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i really don't get the no filter thing that ppl seem to have when it comes to all things pregnancy/babies/kids.</p> <p>i did hear that same comment and still do now.... while it's their way of "complimenting" me that i'm "small" i think it's rude either way... as a first time mom, it doesn't feel good to hear "are you sure there's even a baby in there?"... CMON! I've gained 27 lbs!!! just because i'm not carrying it the way ppl expect me to... UGH.</p> <p>HUGGS. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291638 Wed, 12 Sep 2012 08:20:25 +0000 ladyfingers 291638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@photojane: How mean! People just don't think. If it's any consolation, you totally look PREGNANT from your pictures! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291451 Tue, 11 Sep 2012 23:17:45 +0000 blackbird 291451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, that is rude. I think some people think it's a complement...like, "you're not near as big as I thought you'd be!" but in a weird way. But i think it's a pretty common one. Nearly all my friends have told me, "oh people just told me they thought I was gaining a little weight until i announced my pregnancy". I'm about 11 weeks now and I definitely think I just look kind of fat. Unfortunately, those first few months are so ambiguous sometimes! </p> <p>I haven't told my mom yet, but when i was about 6 weeks along or so, she told me i was "meaty". One, not cool, but two, meaty?! Kind of funny :P I think it's 100% ok to say something if people make comments. I have a lot of....tactless coworkers and I often just say, "rude" to them when they say rude shit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291418 Tue, 11 Sep 2012 21:46:13 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 291418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry she said that to you. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291410 Tue, 11 Sep 2012 21:32:28 +0000 Tidybee 291410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My aunt also made a comment as well. She asked my husband what he thought of me getting fat. My jaw dropped, and i said - well I'm not fat, I'm pregnant. I've stopped trying to be nice to people. When people tell me how big I'm getting, I say - well i'm not supposed to be getting smaller, or that's what happens when you grow another human being. What we and our bodies are doing is amazing and I refuse to let anyone make me feel badly for it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291397 Tue, 11 Sep 2012 21:09:34 +0000 prettylizy 291397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, these people should be punched for saying these things. Hugs all around ladies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291386 Tue, 11 Sep 2012 20:44:17 +0000 Mrs. Pen 291386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chrispygal: seriously that makes me almost cry just reading that!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291359 Tue, 11 Sep 2012 20:15:04 +0000 photojane 291359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chrispygal: OH GOSH! that's crazy. i definitely would've cried! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291356 Tue, 11 Sep 2012 20:13:53 +0000 photojane 291356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: i've gained about 4-5 pounds, but it seems to be all in my belly so far. i guess i'm just in that weird phase in my pregnancy where my belly is not big or small. i just want to look pregnant not huge! ha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291353 Tue, 11 Sep 2012 20:12:56 +0000 hilsy85 291353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry :( It sounds liek she meant it as a compliment (in some weird way?). One of my old co workers told me I was "getting chunky and getting wide on the bottom" when I was about 22 weeks. I was like, Gee, thanks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291349 Tue, 11 Sep 2012 20:11:43 +0000 chrispygal 291349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it's ever ok, even at the very end. DH's uncle said "hi fatty" when he saw me at the family July 4th cookout. I was scheduled for a c-section the next day and so swelled up, it was gross. It took everything I had NOT to burst into tears. I felt so huge and gross anyway. I didn't need that comment.</p> <p>In the earlier months I just felt fat, not pregnant. Wearing babydoll/empire waist tops helped me feel better. </p> <p>The only other thing I can tell you, is that once you have your baby, it will all be worth it. :) Keep your chin up! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291347 Tue, 11 Sep 2012 20:10:42 +0000 MamaMoose 291347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 29 weeks and my co workers STILL tell me all the time that I don't even look pregnant, I just look like I ate a big lunch. Honestly it really doesn't bother me at all. But it's probably easy for me to let the comments roll off my back because I've only gained 8lbs and it's all in my belly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291344 Tue, 11 Sep 2012 20:07:40 +0000 Mrs. Stroller 291344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh I'm sorry! I remember feeling so fat at 18w at my BIL's wedding, I was so self conscious. I think she was probably trying to give you a compliment, like you don't look like you've gained any weight yet. Don't let it get you down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291336 Tue, 11 Sep 2012 20:02:20 +0000 photojane 291336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBehr: oh gosh. i can't imagine that daily. i am not looking forward to that at all! i know i'll be getting that from her around christmas time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291335 Tue, 11 Sep 2012 20:01:41 +0000 photojane 291335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'm 18 weeks, so i know i'm not rounded out just yet, but still! at least pretend i look cute and pregnant, right? haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291331 Tue, 11 Sep 2012 19:58:42 +0000 Mrs. Pen 291331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>aww sorry :(:(</p> <p>One of the first comments was from my great aunt too, and she said I was looking chunky. ugh. thanks a lot. I was 19 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291329 Tue, 11 Sep 2012 19:57:26 +0000 MamaBehr 291329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worked as a high school teacher during both of my pregnancies. During my first pregnancy the students would CONSTANTLY say "Miss, you are big!" And I don't mean once a week, a day, I mean once a period I would hear this. And it really started to bother mean, because guess what.... A woman who is 9 months pregnant IS going to be big (that and I ended up giving birth to a 9lb 6oz baby girl.... so I was slightly larger than the average pregnant lady, but still!?) Good luck. It is AMAZING what people think is ok to say to someone who is pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-its-okay-to-call-someone-fat-if-theyre-pregnant#post-291322 Tue, 11 Sep 2012 19:53:40 +0000 photojane 291322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i had my first rude pregnancy comment tonight, and i can't get it off my mind. i don't know if it's the hormones or it's because it's something i've been self-conscious about, but i can't seem to shake it. it's so weird because i never spend time worrying about people's opinions of me... i almost always feel good about myself. </p> <p>tonight we went to dinner with my aunt, and her first comment to me was, "wow! you don't even look pregnant... you just look like you ate way too much already!" uh.... so, i'm fat? thanks. i've been dying for that perfect round obviously pregnant belly, and i've been worried that maybe i just look even fatter than normal. my family has reassured me that i do, in fact, look pregnant, but my aunt's comment really threw me off. whether i look pregnant or not... why is it suddenly okay to tell me i look fat? not what this hormonal preggy needs to hear!</p> <p>i know i'm not alone. people don't seem to filter themselves anymore. what kind of comments have you gotten and how do you deal with them? </p>