https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 15:43:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-just-told-me-he-only-wants-one-child#post-601482 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 15:16:01 +0000 T.H.O.U. 601482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry. I do think its one of those things though to talk about what the deeper issue is that is causing him to feel that way. Let him express without jumping in and trying to "prove his statements wrong" (I do this a lot). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-just-told-me-he-only-wants-one-child#post-601433 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 15:07:28 +0000 sorrycharlie 601433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel for you - we just had this same issue in my house. We originally agreed on 2-3 (he wanted 4), then he changed his mind to 1 with no warning. </p> <p>I finally got my husband to actually talk about it, where before it was just "sorry, I only want one." he finally admitted that he felt like things were so crazy with our LO and we didn't have any us time - he thought with a second or third baby, we'd *never* have us time again. Which I had to reassure him wouldn't happen, we talked about ways to create time for ourselves as a couple, etc.</p> <p>Maybe you could ask him specifically if he's worried about finances causing lack of adventure? Too many children to worry about? If he has a specific worry, you could help to explore that, maybe? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-just-told-me-he-only-wants-one-child#post-601431 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 15:07:22 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 601431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH wants 2 or 4. I just want one. I have a straimed relationsjip with my sibling and always resented him once he was here and talking. I wanted a sibling badly until I had one. I don't want my future first.and favorite to feel the same way. DH is the oldest of five and is close and supportive of his siblings. He dreams of duplocating that with our family, but I am not convinced. Unless.I get baby fever again we will likely have one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-just-told-me-he-only-wants-one-child#post-601311 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 14:52:06 +0000 purrpletulips 601311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Give him time. Although DH and I had discussed children and timing and everything, when I got pregnant with DD he panicked that there was so much we didn't get to do before having kids. He has since rethought those emotions and now that DS is here he is saying he wants a total of 5 (um, I'm done at 2). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-just-told-me-he-only-wants-one-child#post-601269 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 14:44:49 +0000 Mrs. Fox 601269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I always said if I had a boy I'd try for another and if I had a girl I'd stop. But now that I think about it, I can't remember DH mentioning an ideal family size. </p> <p>Maybe his opinion will change over time... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-just-told-me-he-only-wants-one-child#post-601231 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 14:37:59 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 601231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My best advice is to give it time. My partner was one and done until magically he wasn't. I didn't push or even bring it up much until he started bringing it up, then I cautiously gave my thoughts. Of course, it may be that your SO always will feel this way, but so much changes over time as you see your child evolving from baby to toddler to child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-just-told-me-he-only-wants-one-child#post-601224 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 14:36:29 +0000 mrbee 601224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's very common for men to reduce their dream family size after the first of the first child!! Many come around over time though...</p> <p>Did you guys discuss family size before? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-just-told-me-he-only-wants-one-child#post-601210 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 14:34:58 +0000 Rubies 601210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry! I am wondering if perhaps for NOW your husband feels this way...Maybe months from now (6 months? 12 months?) he might feel differently? I know that when LO was a year old my husband was JUST getting used to the idea of thinking of another baby...<br /> I wish you luck...don't give up hope... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-just-told-me-he-only-wants-one-child#post-601185 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 14:31:56 +0000 Mrs. Fox 601185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is coming up to a year and I've gotten hit with baby fever really bad recently. I finally sat down with DH last night and told him that I'd like to start trying soon. He told me that he loves our life the way it is now and doesn't want a second child. He says he would have to give up too much of his dreams, that we'll end up being boring old suburbanites with no sense of adventure if we have two, and that he feels our family is complete.</p> <p> I'm so sad! I'm an only child and while I didn't mind it, I would love to given my DS a sibling. I love being a mom and the idea that I'll never get to have another child is just terrible. I just feel so sad -- I guess I'm mourning the loss of the family I thought I would have.</p> <p>Has anyone else been at odds with their SO about family size? Is it unrealistic to hope he changes his mind? </p>