https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 06:12:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-my-sisters-a-b-venting#post-36394 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 13:11:14 +0000 Clementine 36394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm really sorry to hear this! I hope she comes to her senses and realizes how crappy she's making you feel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-my-sisters-a-b-venting#post-36390 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 13:07:01 +0000 Boogs 36390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: I know, talk about putting you in a crappy position! </p> <p>I really like @artbee's suggestion about communicating with your brother and parents so you aren't left out of the loop so much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-my-sisters-a-b-venting#post-36273 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 09:23:12 +0000 heffalump 36273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with boogs, but I also think that just because you're unhappy with yourself doesn't give you the right to be mean to someone else, especially your sister. I would try to communicate with your brother and parents instead so you don't get left out of the loop. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-my-sisters-a-b-venting#post-36227 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 08:16:14 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 36227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Boogs: You know, I have to agree with you. And whenever this does happen and I'm able to take a step back and look at her actions, I actually do feel sorry for her for being so unhappy with her life. It makes me want to help her realize that things are only as bad as she makes them... but then again, I don't want to get hurt yet again. *sigh* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-my-sisters-a-b-venting#post-36188 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 01:54:35 +0000 Rosie Girl 36188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry. Family rivalry is tough..... Good luck tomorrow though!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-my-sisters-a-b-venting#post-36178 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 01:30:21 +0000 Rubies 36178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't imagine...I'm so sorry. Family is so important and it's unfortunate when things go awry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-my-sisters-a-b-venting#post-36170 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 01:03:21 +0000 Boogs 36170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry you have to deal with that!</p> <p>Sometimes I notice people are like that when they just aren't happy with themselves and their own lives. If anything, I feel sorry for them because they can't just chose to be happy with themselves and what they have. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-my-sisters-a-b-venting#post-36149 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 00:28:51 +0000 His Barista 36149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a twin sister and we have been having issues since her divorce finalized last year. Its weirding when a sister becomes so self absorbed and only worried about her wants. I am sorry you have to deal with that. : ( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-my-sisters-a-b-venting#post-36132 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 00:16:07 +0000 mrbee 36132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: These sorts of transformations tend to take decades! It is hard work being related to a narcissist! :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-my-sisters-a-b-venting#post-36129 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 00:13:50 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 36129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Thank you - it's reassuring to know someone else has had to deal with similar issues. But it's something I wouldn't wish on anyone else. I'm going to hope she'll eventually redeem herself ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-my-sisters-a-b-venting#post-36124 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 00:07:35 +0000 mrbee 36124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: I've wrestled with similar family issues. At the end of the day, eventually I had to protect myself from further hurt. Family always have a chance to redeem themselves in the future, if they can stop being so selfish! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-my-sisters-a-b-venting#post-36123 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 00:05:28 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 36123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for the support - I did feel so much better after I posted. And it helps to have a wonderful husband to help me put things in perspective (and bring me yummy cheesy mexican food for dinner ;-) )</p> <p>@chopsuey119: Yes, she's married, but no kids, and they won't have any because her husband had a vasectomy after his first marriage. I've tried to confront her but she always just denies that she's doing anything wrong.</p> <p>@MrBee: I actually do keep that in the back of mind everytime I talk to her or do something, but it still hurts when she does stuff like this because she's family and I really like to stay close if at all possible... even though it ends up with her always pulling something like this. Guess that makes me gullible? :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-my-sisters-a-b-venting#post-36097 Sat, 17 Dec 2011 23:15:26 +0000 mrs. wagon 36097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>annoying. glad you're venting. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-my-sisters-a-b-venting#post-36086 Sat, 17 Dec 2011 22:52:54 +0000 tequiero21 36086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>man, she's older, she should be the more mature one. i'm sorry you have to deal with that. what a pain. now's the age you guys are supposed to be closest! =( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-my-sisters-a-b-venting#post-36079 Sat, 17 Dec 2011 22:17:29 +0000 mrbee 36079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is it possible to just always assume your sister is going to do something selfish, and then plan around that? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-my-sisters-a-b-venting#post-36077 Sat, 17 Dec 2011 22:02:11 +0000 chopsuey 36077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. What's up with your sister?! Is she single? No baby? I have issues with my older sister too. Since you guys are sisters I'd confront her and ask what her deal is. After your shower of course. :) heh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-my-sisters-a-b-venting#post-36076 Sat, 17 Dec 2011 21:57:16 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 36076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister and I don't get along - never have, no matter how hard I try. She makes *everything* a competition and wants the attention on her. I'm 29 and she's 31 now and we still can't seem to get along. </p> <p>To give you an example of how she is... she's an ultrasound tech - cool when you're pregnant, right? Well, it would be if she didn't make the ultrasounds about herself. When she did my first ultrasound, she showed the pictures to my grandmother and said "see what I did for Katie?" (not, "Hey, look at your great grandchild"). Another time, when my mom was there, my mom was amazed at how much the ultrasounds have improved since we were babies and said "wow, that's amazing!"... my sister's response "Thank you". </p> <p>She also has a problem with sharing family. For instance, she won't ever let me know when she and my BIL have my neice over because she wants to have all that time for herself. She does the same thing with my parents.... as soon as she hears that I spent time with them, she flips out. </p> <p>And today, my brother and SIL flew in for the first time in 2 years. They'll be here through the end of the year, but the only opportunity I have to see them will be on the weekends... which the only weekends we have left are xmas and new years. So, since I live so close to the airport, I asked her to see if she could swing by once she picked them up so we could all go to dinner or something. She said she would call or text when they decided what they were doing. </p> <p>So... 1.5 hours goes by and I haven't heard anything so I text her. Come to find out, they have already driven over to my parents house and are eating with them... no invite for us, no head ups... nothing. Because she wants my brother and my parents all to herself. </p> <p>Best part is... tomorrow she's hosting my shower with my mom and I have to hold back from choking her. </p> <p>Ok, sorry for the novel, just had to get it out. I don't even think I explained why I'm upset very well, so bear with me. </p>