https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 13 May 2026 22:09:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839956 Wed, 15 Aug 2018 15:20:19 +0000 LadyDi 2839956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>New worry: I have been having pain along my collarbone that has extended under my armpit and shoulder to my back. Now I feel like there is perhaps a lump along my collarbone? I thought for awhile that I had just pulled a muscle but now I don't know. Going to my PCP tomorrow!</p> <p>Also a bit worried about finances. I became a SAHM 6 months ago and we're still trying to figure out how to be a single income family. We haven't cut back much and I don't know how to make a good budget and feel very overwhelmed by it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839825 Wed, 15 Aug 2018 08:34:55 +0000 josina 2839825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worry about money because it seems like our credit card gets used way more than it should, even it its for 'must haves' like replacing a cracked window in our van and DS's fillings. I sooo want to have zero credit card debt and that date gets further and further away!</p> <p>With my kids I just worry about all of the bad things that can happen! Serious illnesses, accidental drownings, crazy accidents, kidnappings. It's so terrifying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839767 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 21:10:58 +0000 jhd 2839767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Health concerns for my DH and two boys are at the top of the list. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839760 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 20:12:03 +0000 DesertDreams88 2839760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <br /><p><i>This comment has been deleted by the original poster.</i></p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839759 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 20:10:32 +0000 DesertDreams88 2839759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My main worry these days is my 2 year olds behavior and if I'm screwing up my kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839755 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 19:23:49 +0000 Iced Tea 2839755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Hypatia: Get the Delonghi electric radiators for your space heaters. We used them in our condo in NY as well as here and spent hundreds less than our neighbors did with their poor units. They work extremely well and aren’t a burn hazard to kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839746 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 18:32:35 +0000 Hypatia 2839746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: It's the South. 🔥 But I grew up without even window units, so hopefully we'll adjust. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839745 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 18:23:29 +0000 gotkimchi 2839745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Hypatia: :crying: hopefully you life someplace temperate! But yah that’s rough </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839744 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 18:22:35 +0000 Hypatia 2839744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How worried are we about money? Our HVAC broke, and instead of replacing it, we are foregoing central air and heat. We have two window AC units going right now. In the winter, we'll rely on some space heaters and our fireplace (which has a heat exchange to help a but with its efficiency). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839742 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 17:30:53 +0000 gotkimchi 2839742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Cereal: money for us as well due to student loans and other factors. I keeping thinking we just need to make it 2 more years and we’ll get some relief etc. my husband just got a nice raise and I’m worried it won’t acruakky make a difference and will just get eaten up instead of used wisely </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839721 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 15:38:09 +0000 nana87 2839721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just finished my phd and I'm on the academic job market, which just sucks so much. I worry about how many years it'll take to find a permanent position, or if I'll ever get one. I worked so hard for so long to finish my dissertation, but at the end it felt like I was running full speed off a cliff. I have a temporary job this year, but it's only for this year.</p> <p>I worry about whether lo1's "big feelings" are normal or whether she's especially sensitive or anxious, and if our responses make them worse/less manageable. If it's the former, I worry that lo2's going to hit that stage sooner rather than later and I'll have difficulties parenting her as well (read: will become even more impatient...) </p> <p>dh's family communicates horribly and I worry about whether we're replicating those patterns rather than avoiding them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839710 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 14:25:39 +0000 Mrs. Cereal 2839710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Money for sure is my biggest worry. It's pretty constant with our student loans and the fact that for a few years we had to live off of credit cards when our monthly income was much lower. We are slowly climbing out of this, but it still keeps me up at night. </p> <p>I worry a lot about something happening to me or to my kids. This is pretty much why I will remain on Zoloft for the rest of my life because without it, I cannot think of anything else and my life is miserable.</p> <p>And the world in general. I worry that we are headed in a direction that can't be righted and that my kids will live in a depleted and desperate world as adults. I worry that I will not have grandchildren because my own children won't see the point in having kids in a world that is so messed up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839693 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 13:33:01 +0000 pachamama 2839693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: totallyyyyyy worry about being so irritable, I'll fuck my kids up. I *legit* can't seem to help it. (and it is so hot)<br /> @Iced Tea: politics and the news yes. it's kind of like I have this dark, menacing feeling of worry in my stomach at all times thinking about what's happening in the world....<br /> @oskarsmommy: yup, I wish I started earlier. I'll be 70 if I'm lucky by the time my son has grandkids. Holy shit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839691 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 13:29:23 +0000 pachamama 2839691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worry so much. It's exhausting. I have some pretty big things going on...<br /> 1) I worry about the health of my unborn son. I worry there's something wrong with him and he won't be as "perfect" as my son now, I worry I'll go preterm, I worry I'll have a bad delivery. It's absolutely endless.<br /> 2) I worry about going back to school because we are undergoing new construction and my classroom is going to be completely different and unfinished. I'm worried about exposure to construction chemicals and dangers as well<br /> 3) I worry about my marriage. A lot of the time I am a stressed out, impatient, no fun bitch to my husband. I wonder how long he will take it?</p> <p>Ok wow that was heavy. I feel better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839682 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 13:17:15 +0000 smuckers 2839682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Money. Will we ever be in a place financially where we can move to a new house? Will we EVER finish paying off my student loans (for a degree that I use 0% of in my job)? Will we ever have the robust savings of my dreams? </p> <p>DD. Are we doing enough for her (mentally, physically, developmentally, etc)? Do we give her a balanced enough diet? Is she not saying words because we don't talk to her enough? Is she suffering because I WOH? Am I teaching her bad habits (eating, cleaning, swearing, watching tv, etc)?</p> <p>DH. Am I supporting him in the way he needs? Am I nagging all the time? Am I giving him enough space to recharge? Am I being too controlling? Does he still love being a SAHD? </p> <p>Myself. Am I being a good mother/wife/daughter/friend? Am I working hard enough? Am I making "the right" choices? Am I spending enough time focusing on things that need to be focused on? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839676 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 13:07:57 +0000 snarkybiochemist 2839676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes its good to just get worries out into the universe.<br /> I have general worries about raising E and doing a good job raising a girl with self confidence and all that along with stupid stuff like when does she need to wear shoes and what are acceptable lunches to pack<br /> I also worry about my grandfather who is on his 4th different cancer diagnosis and is contemplating a difficult and complicated surgery. He is also dealing with gallbladder and other infection issues and is 88. He is on Cape Cod, I am outside of Philly. I worry so much because I am his medical proxy now that my dad is dead and I want to do right by my grandfather if I ever have to made decisions for him but he forgets who he has told what information to or doesn't want to burden me even though I need him to tell me stuff and its all just so hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839672 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 12:56:34 +0000 Iced Tea 2839672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for starting this post. It's helpful. </p> <p>Our income is technically great at this point, but for years everything extra will go toward fixing two huge financial mistakes my husband made. As a result, I worry about all the money that should be going into retirement and college savings but isn't. We are about to downsize to a smaller house (if we actually get approved, thanks mistake), but beyond this, there isn't much more I can do about our budget since we already live simply. I used to imagine we'd be worry-free if we had this income level, but it feels like the universe is laughing at me now. </p> <p>Medical issues and healthcare costs. Whew. It's alarming. We are self-employed and living in a state without any meaningful insurance options, so we are trying a health share this year. I sure hope they pay okay, because we ended up with an unexpected surgery last week. </p> <p>Politics and the news. I'm trying to put more emphasis on my mental health lately, so I started limited myself to reading the news 2-3 times a week instead of daily. It helps. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839669 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 12:33:51 +0000 agold 2839669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <br /><p><i>This comment has been deleted by the original poster.</i></p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839667 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 12:28:18 +0000 newlypregnantlady 2839667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Money. Money. Money. Politics (specifically my girls growing up in this anti-fact anti-science world). Money again. </p> <p>I also need to find a job but it’s really hard to apply for jobs without a computer while I’m staying at home with my girls. Plus my husband is doing this grad school program for teachers in the summers, where he’s out of state for 4+ weeks every summer. It’s a struggle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839661 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 11:49:37 +0000 Silva 2839661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>global warming</p> <p>fucking up my kids by being irritable (i'm pregnant and it is SO HUMID. WHY.)</p> <p>we are buying a big lot of land with a ton of cash on thursday, and plan to build a house on it in a few years. i worry that our dreams are unreasonable, that we will hit some roadblock that will prevent us from building, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839660 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 11:47:24 +0000 youboots 2839660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are moving from Oregon to NY on Saturday. The logistics are challenging. We are leasing our house- tenants are due to sign Saturday. We close on our new house later this month. We can’t afford to pay 2 mortgages for an extended period of time so I hope it all works out. I’m moving my business and have no clients. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839659 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 11:46:56 +0000 Mrs. Turtle 2839659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are we doing a good enough job parenting kids with trauma. This is what keeps me distracted at work, up at night sometimes, or just not quite present during the day. Trauma is messy and complicated and I feel like we have some ideas about how things should be done but aren't implementing them well and end up resorting to more traditional parenting when stressed or frustrated. There's a tremendous amount of pressure to NOT DO MORE DAMAGE and it can be overwhelming sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839655 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 11:41:02 +0000 annem1990 2839655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My current worry is all health insurance related. I had some major health issues a few months back that have yet to be resolved ( seizures and heart issues)...and even THAT isn't stressing me out. What IS stressing me out are the amount of medical bills I have paid/ keep receiving. We have great insurance, have met deductible/ out of pocket, but there are several bills no one has record of. For instance an $1100 credit card charge by the hospital that they have no record of. It's on our credit card statement, though. So I've spent HOURS on the phone with billing and insurance and no one can help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839653 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 11:33:38 +0000 IRunForFun 2839653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What am I not worried about is a better question? But my biggest worry right now is our house because we apparently bought a huge lemon that needs a ton of work and I have no clue how we are going to pay for it all. It's literally keeping me up at night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839650 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 11:21:37 +0000 MrsSCB 2839650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My worries: Mostly money related. Like paying for daycare for two kids. Yikes. My husband will be looking for a new job soon, that will hopefully bring a good raise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839649 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 11:20:20 +0000 MrsSCB 2839649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: @oskarsmommy: FWIW, my mom had me at 42, and she has one grandchild and one on the way (she doesn't know about that yet, though :silly: ). People are living longer and longer! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839640 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 10:41:14 +0000 wrkbrk 2839640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not worry as much as a constant nagging that I am unable to live in the moment and may pass my anxiety on to my son. Also, he is at the stage where he watches and listens to EVERYTHING we do. It is exhausting to be "on" all the time and model my behavior and language! Who knew what terrible language I had?!! But I dont want him to copy things I dont like about myself so I do worry about that ... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839627 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 10:03:11 +0000 Ajsmommy 2839627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oskarsmommy: I try to avoid actually thinking about it!! I am hopeful that maybe they'll marry early ish?? and have kids in their early 30's unlike me?? I hope anyway. I went through a lot in my 20's and 30's so I am really hoping they don't and maybe they'll settle sooner.... fingers crossed anyway.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839624 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 09:59:26 +0000 oskarsmommy 2839624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: same. I was 36 with my first. If he is say 34 when he has his first, I am 70 best case scenario as a grandma. I had my last at 39. If he is say 40, I am 79 for his. My parents are 74 &amp; 75 and can only do limited babysitting. I don’t onow why I never did this math earlier in my life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-tired-of-worry-what-are-you-current-worries#post-2839623 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 09:58:43 +0000 MrsDynamiteGal 2839623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get general worries, too. Right now specifically worried about finances and my job. Not getting the hours I was promised and I took it thinking it would cover what I needed. TTC is another worry as well. </p>