https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 16:18:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-vacation#post-187046 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 12:51:58 +0000 Modern Daisy 187046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I probably wouldn't be comfortable with it especially if it were my first pregnancy. Even though he could probably get home in time for the delivery, I would assume there would be heavy drinking going on so it wouldnt' really be a possibility for him to leave immediately. Plus my DH is terrible about answering his phone, so I would be nervous that he would be unreachable in the first place.</p> <p>But like PP's have said, if you have someone like a family member or close friend nearby who can be on call that weekend and you're comfortable with the idea of not having your DH there for the delivery, then maybe you can compromise and take that chance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-vacation#post-187030 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 12:38:44 +0000 Boogs 187030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be nervous that close. As a compromise, is there a way for him to go a little sooner? Otherwise, I'd let him go and have a list of everyone's numbers just in case. It will likely be his last trip like that for a while, so it will be a nice way for him to recharge his batteries before the baby comes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-vacation#post-186921 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 10:17:04 +0000 chopsuey 186921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dh is going to Germany 4 weeks before my due date. It doesn't make me nervous.. It'll be his last trip before baby though </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-vacation#post-186802 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 09:01:05 +0000 matador84 186802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamamoose - whoops, i just mistyped 36 and should have put 34...so I'll be six weeks out from my DD.</p> <p>I suppose I'm just paranoid...I had major hemorrhage around 9 weeks and couldn't get a hold of him when I was in the hospital until after I'd been there for over an hour, and then he had an hour drive into town...it was just a scary time. I'm not the type to tell him he can't go, but with him living and working out of town M-F, it bums me out more than I thought it would with the thought of him being gone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-vacation#post-186783 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 08:52:34 +0000 Alivoo01 186783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depending on how I was feeling (e.g. pains, mobility restrictions, etc.), I'd be okay with the hubby going. If it was week 38+ then I'd be a little more reluctant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-vacation#post-186757 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 08:32:08 +0000 Lozza 186757@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also, DH has done a couple of weekends away post-baby. He went to a wedding when LO was 6 weeks old, he's had a couple weekends at home to himself when I've gone with LO to visit other family, and he did a weekend-in-the-woods-with-the-boys two months ago. When LO was little, I made sure to have help when he was gone; now I'm fine being home alone with LO.<br /> So I just want to point out that having kids does not necessarily negate the possibility of seeing friends, and having kid-free time with friends. I had such a miserable pregnancy, and LO is relatively easy... I'm actually much more ok with DH being gone NOW than I was when I was pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-vacation#post-186754 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 08:28:12 +0000 Lozza 186754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it depends on a few things. With my DH, he'd rather me tell him "No" than tell him to go ahead, but then be resentful and guilt trip him about it. We had a rule throughout my pregnancy that if DH had to be gone for more than a couple nights, he had to find me a babysitter (for me. not for the unborn baby). I had a miserable pregnancy, and I'm lucky enough to have a sister in town who can easily stay with me, and a mother out of town who is unemployed and likes to visit. So that made a big difference to me and wasn't hard to arrange (we learned this lesson during my first pregnancy, which ended in a loss at 13 weeks.... DH was out of town and I was alone and un-contact-able when I got some bad news, and it was really really awful).<br /> The cell phone thing would be a big deal for me. I feel like for future pregnancies, I'd be ok with DH traveling (as long as I have the help I need), but going somewhere for fun where he might not be reachable would be a no-go for me, I think. If cell phone access is spotty, can you ask him to check in frequently to help ease your worries of being out of touch? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-vacation#post-186753 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 08:27:22 +0000 MamaMoose 186753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well I'm a little confused because your first post says it's 6 weeks before your due date, so 34 weeks pregnant, but then you said you would be 36 weeks pregnant. Those two weeks actually make a big difference in my mind because 36 weeks and later is when I would be uncomfortable with my husband traveling. But at 34 weeks I would be fine with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-vacation#post-186749 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 08:24:31 +0000 LuLu Mom 186749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think 6 weeks is fine, if it were within 3 weeks I would rather he didn't leave (unless of course I was on bedrest/had complications/ect. then we would need to discuss it even further.) I think it's a good idea for him to get soem guy time in before he is solely focused on you and baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-vacation#post-186714 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 07:50:38 +0000 pelikila 186714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My pregnancy was uneventful so I would have let my husband go. I would say 38 weeks is when I'd ask him not to travel anywhere until after baby arrives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-vacation#post-186711 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 07:45:35 +0000 hilsy85 186711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is going away to a bachelor party in TX (we live in NY) about 8 weeks before LO is born. It's one of his best friends, so he's definitely going...however, if for some reason there are complications or my doctor thinks that I could go into early labor, we would have to reevaluate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-vacation#post-186704 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 07:33:47 +0000 Smurfette 186704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lydg: I know how you feel, mine DH travels during the week too. So I know that it is hard to have them gone over the weekend when it is your only time for the week. I am not pregnant but I do think that if I was in your situation I would let him go. It is going to be a while before he will get another weekend away with the boys. Just make sure he has his phone on him all the time. I would just make sure to schedule you something fun to do, girl time, massage, pedicure, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-vacation#post-186700 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 07:24:13 +0000 heffalump 186700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As long as I didn't have complications I'd let him go. But if you're going to worry the whole time I'd make him stay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-vacation#post-186694 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 07:18:18 +0000 matador84 186694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@purpletulips I know what you mean. Part of me says to just let him go, but part of me is mad and thinks he needs to sacrifice some and just get over it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-vacation#post-186688 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 07:08:19 +0000 purrpletulips 186688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH is wanting to do a similar thing. I'm torn on letting him go but he doesn't get to hang out with this friend very much anymore and they want to go backpacking which I hate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-vacation#post-186686 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 07:04:24 +0000 matador84 186686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll be 36 weeks when he wants to go. Cell reception is Ok...it's in the mountains about 280 miles away. I am probably just being mopey. He works out of town all week and I only see him on the weekends...so I am selfish with the weekends as LO arrival gets closer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-vacation#post-186674 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 06:46:37 +0000 Sammyfab 186674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also wouldn't mind DH going on a trip at that stage of the pregnancy. We had our baby at the end of february. If he was planning a trip within that month I would have been more hesitant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-vacation#post-186669 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 06:29:02 +0000 autumnlove 186669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I would mind...as long as there is good cell reception and he has a way back if he needs to leave early! I think 2 weeks would be my cutoff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-vacation#post-186662 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 06:21:20 +0000 Rubies 186662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it were me, I would have let him go only because my pregnancy was really good and at 34weeks, I was doing well. How long is he going for? In my opinion, I think 36weeks+ is the latest I would feel comfortable with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-vacation#post-186660 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 06:11:47 +0000 mamabolt 186660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I both did a solo trip with friends earlier during my pregnancy, honestly, it was a fun thing to do that we felt like we wouldn't be able to go for a while. I think I was 28 weeks when he traveled. My mom and sister ended up coming into town that weekend for a girl's weekend so I didn't feel lonely or worried about being alone just in case. Assuming everything was going well with the pregnancy, I think 35ish weeks is probably the latest I would have wanted him to travel. Four hours isn't that far for him to drive back suddenly if it looks like you are going into labor, and maybe you could have a family member or girlfriend come hang out for the weekend if that would help you. But if you aren't comfortable being left alone for that weekend, then he should respect your feelings and not go! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-vacation#post-186656 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 05:58:21 +0000 matador84 186656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH asked me if he could go on a trip with his buddies to our cabin 4 hours away about 6 weeks before my DD. Although I don't really care if he goes since he never gets to see his friends, he knows I am kind of hurt and nervous because it is close to the baby's arrival. </p> <p>Would you let your SO go? How close is too close for your SO to be gone IYO? </p>