https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 18 Apr 2026 14:39:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-would-you-pay-for-lo-to-attend-any-school#post-295727 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 15:01:51 +0000 Foodnerd81 295727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It definitely depends. I know DH feels like it is a waste to pay for a "frivolous" major, like dance or theater (which is cousin is currently majoring in), so I think that might have a bigger impact than the actual school itself. But both our parents paid for private university for us, so we wouldn't be opposed to doing it for our kids if we can. I'd like to help guide them to the best decision, without forcing it.<br /> However, my majors weren't particularly lucrative and I do still feel it now, where DH majored in finance, and guess what, makes lots more money than me.</p> <p>ETA: And our school didn't have a Greek system, so my knowledge of it comes mostly from movies. That's accurate, right? That said, I do think kids paying for their own social activities is the way to go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-would-you-pay-for-lo-to-attend-any-school#post-295649 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 14:31:21 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 295649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're setting the expectation for state university for undergrad. There may be exceptions (astrophysics or ballet or something), but for grad school they can go wherever they want.</p> <p>And I agree about the greek system. I pledged but dropped out after seeing some unsavory stuff such as circling fat on womens' bodies and some pretty serious backstabbing. If my girls want to go greek, they can pay for it on their own. I don't need to pay for their social activities! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-would-you-pay-for-lo-to-attend-any-school#post-295632 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 14:21:21 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 295632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know how much we'll be able to afford when the time comes, but if we can, we would definitely support LO in continuing an education. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-would-you-pay-for-lo-to-attend-any-school#post-295556 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 13:23:31 +0000 heffalump 295556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it depends on what we can afford at the time. If I can afford it and she wants to go there, we'll pay for it no matter what. But chances are we won't be able to so she'll be stuck with loans. DH and I went to a state school so I'm assuming she'll do that too anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-would-you-pay-for-lo-to-attend-any-school#post-295464 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:41:21 +0000 Freckles 295464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in Canada, and we always talk about whether we'd encourage our LO to apply to US schools. DH went to grad school in the US, but only because it was one of the top schools for his program. </p> <p>We would definitely encourage her to apply to US schools, but only if it were a good liberal arts college, or a top school for the program (which may not necessarily be an ivy league/name brand school). The reason for our restrictions is that Canadian university tuition is soo much cheaper, and it wouldn't make sense to spend so much on a mediocre US school. That being said, our goal is to be able to cover her tuition when she decides where to go. We're hoping that she'll work and save up to pay for books! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-would-you-pay-for-lo-to-attend-any-school#post-295431 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:30:52 +0000 blackbird 295431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>considering the experience he had, i'm not even surprised. i read that with my mouth open. so jacked up :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-would-you-pay-for-lo-to-attend-any-school#post-295428 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:29:13 +0000 DillonLion 295428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: I'm glad you had such a wonderful experience with it! And I want to reiterate that if that is what she wants to do, she is more than welcome to join and I'd be willing to support her in attending whatever events she wants me to be at, but the checks won't be coming from me (or her father for that matter, who feels even more strongly about this than I do). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-would-you-pay-for-lo-to-attend-any-school#post-295422 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:27:30 +0000 blackbird 295422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>And I totally get that! It's just sad that it taints the pot when most everyone I know had a very positive experience. I don't think it's the norm....I don't think that many people are sadistic enough to allow poor behavior to continue. If your daughter had an experience like mine, it would be one of the most positive influences in her life. I just think it's unfortunate when people write off what could be a wonderful thing when they really just don't know. I loved my house :)</p> <p>But again, I know we've had some chapters do some really awful stuff. And I just can't fathom WHY. and of course, so much of that behavior is perpetuated on TV. Because, again, it's illegal for real fraternal organizations. It really bugs me, ha. So much trashiness. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-would-you-pay-for-lo-to-attend-any-school#post-295414 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:25:56 +0000 meredithNYC 295414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: I'm with you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-would-you-pay-for-lo-to-attend-any-school#post-295410 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:24:45 +0000 DillonLion 295410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: I meet both of your criteria: not involved in one and had bad experiences when I had to deal with them. I'm sure my experience is not necessarily the norm. At least, I really hope that is the case. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-would-you-pay-for-lo-to-attend-any-school#post-295409 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:23:49 +0000 pelikila 295409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I won't limit where my child can go to school based on my preferences but I know we won't be able to afford every school. We'll try to help narrow down options based on what my son wants to do and go over the pros and cons to each school, which will include finances. Our goal is to be able to cover our son's education in total without him having to take a loan but if he selects a school we can't fully afford (due to out of state tuition or similar) then he'll have to understand that he would be responsible for helping mitigate those additional costs through a scholarship and/or loan. To me, this is one of those first real "life lessons" where the child has to make a decision that affects the rest of his/her life whether it is earning potential, quality of education, financial impacts, etc. Yes, they are still young and not necessarily fully equipped to make the decision but to me that is where I as a parent can step in and help weigh out the decision, not provide the answer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-would-you-pay-for-lo-to-attend-any-school#post-295402 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:20:46 +0000 blackbird 295402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends more what they're going for. While those are good schools, I don't necessarily think the students are THAT much more prepared for life than, say, where I went. I make just as much as my MIT coworkers. And like coco bee said, I wouldn't be keen on supportive a private ($$$) education for something like teaching, that can be much more affordably obtained at a state school. I think education is often a return on investment and many forget that, so I wouldn't want my child to be sucked into a lot of debt that would not pay itself off. </p> <p>I really don't buy into the whole private is better argument, either! It would ultimately depends what they're going to go for. </p> <p>People who don't 'support' sororities were generally either not involved in one or had bad experiences. Some of them are...less than savory. I have heard about some stuff that is really sad and awful. Gives such a bad name to everyone else. Some of it's truly disgusting. The show Greek is actually about non-panhellenic sororities. REAL sororities are not permitted to behave in that fashion. Ours never did. When i hear about hazing on campus, I just smack myself in the face. I don't get it. It's illegal and totally ruins the reputation. </p> <p>My parents had many of the same concerns when I rushed :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-would-you-pay-for-lo-to-attend-any-school#post-295366 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:00:36 +0000 sunny 295366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: that's kind of along the lines I was thinking...<br /> That it doesn't make sense to pay a lot of money for an education that yields so little pay. </p> <p>On the other hand, if my LO got into an Ivy, I'd probably pay for it regardless of the degree since there are a ton of reasons to attend Ivy league schools. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-would-you-pay-for-lo-to-attend-any-school#post-295343 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 11:45:57 +0000 Mrs. Pen 295343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: can you write on my wall?! I really am curious :) like I said, I don't know enough about Greek life to have a formal opinion on it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-would-you-pay-for-lo-to-attend-any-school#post-295335 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 11:40:58 +0000 DillonLion 295335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: I just won't be paying for it. I can't really elaborate without being rude/offensive to some. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-would-you-pay-for-lo-to-attend-any-school#post-295331 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 11:38:00 +0000 Mrs. Pen 295331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: you don't "support" sororities? All I know about them is from the show Greek and I loved it lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-would-you-pay-for-lo-to-attend-any-school#post-295330 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 11:37:18 +0000 Mrs. Pen 295330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sunny: I couldn't justify an ivy league or private school if he/she was planning to major in something like English or teaching. Those are low-paying jobs that you can generally get positions regardless of where your degree is from.</p> <p>If they wanted to go for something where "brand name" schools really come into play, I might be a little more supportive - like lawyer, mathematician, med sciences, etc. </p> <p>But I probably wouldn't discriminate on schools, I'd be honest with what I thought and definitely be up front about what we can afford. I HIGHLY doubt we'd ever be able to afford an ivy league school </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-would-you-pay-for-lo-to-attend-any-school#post-295327 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 11:35:02 +0000 Honeybee 295327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We hope to pay tuition for our kids, regardless of where they go/what type of program. So tech/career school along with private colleges and state universityies would be paid for. We do expect that our kids will work and pay for their own living expenses, though, regardless of the school/program. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-would-you-pay-for-lo-to-attend-any-school#post-295324 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 11:33:25 +0000 DillonLion 295324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The choice is totally hers to decide. If we can pay for it great, if not, she can pay for it herself. But I have absolutely no plans to withhold money because I don't like the school she chose. The only thing I will not be paying for with certainty is Greek life. If she wants to be a part of that she will have to pay for it herself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-would-you-pay-for-lo-to-attend-any-school#post-295319 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 11:31:18 +0000 hilsy85 295319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup I think I would pay for any type of school program. Even something that I didn't think was necessarily useful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-would-you-pay-for-lo-to-attend-any-school#post-295311 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 11:25:32 +0000 sunny 295311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I plan to/hope to have enough money saved up so my LO can attend private university. However I was thinking that there are certain schools/programs that I don't think are worth it. For instance, I'd pay for Stanford or MIT in a heartbeat. But if she was choosing between an unknown private school vs. our awesome state school, I'd rather that she went to the state university and saved the money.</p> <p>Would you pay for your LO to attend any school of their choosing? Or just "approved" ones?</p> <p>On the other hand, I want my LO to pursue her dreams even if I don't agree with them, so I'm a bit conflicted! </p>