https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 28 May 2026 22:56:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies/page/2#post-985414 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:58:11 +0000 MamaBehr 985414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe because I'm crazy, or because I'm already 17 weeks and 5 days into my third pregnancy, but I don't think I'm going to agree with this.... I hope. I spend my whole day being outnumbered by kids, I'm a SAHM to two children already. My soon to be middle child, is super easy going and happy, my oldest is very maternal (just yesterday we had a five month old over and she spent the whole time trying to give the baby toys to play with), I just don't see how the transition from 1 to 2 is going to be easier than 2 to 3. And, mine will be closer in age than hers are. I guess I can get back to everyone in January, after our third shows up! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies/page/2#post-985383 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:44:43 +0000 Mrs. Blue 985383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Train: One of our friends just had a single baby after twins and was telling us that when they went to their ultrasound, they were saying, "Please just be one, please just be one!" Then they were told it was just one baby, and they said they were suddenly a little disappointed and thought, "Oh, it's only one." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-985326 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:31:00 +0000 FarmWifeGina 985326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not even going to read this because I'm already terrified of having 3 kids! OMG. The 1-2 transition was almost enough to drive me over the edge (literally), here's hoping my placenta pills keep me from running screaming over that edge this time around! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-985325 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:30:53 +0000 Mrs. Train 985325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: DH made me find all the data on what the chances are for two sets of identical twins and one set of identical one set of fraternal twins before he would even consider the thought of getting pregnant again!!! It was the first thing we said at our ultra sound. "Please Lord, tell me there is only one in there." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-985318 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:28:46 +0000 Mrs. Train 985318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I laughed a lot reading that article. Each little bullet point had something I could agree with. It's not like its like that all the time but it does happen. And with three sometimes you just don't have enough hands. Especially the baby sitting thing. It is hard to find someone to watch my four kids. I baby sit for other people all the time but to have them watch my kids is unheard of. I think people get a nervous tick at the thought of having so many kids around. </p> <p>A friend of mine has three boys as well and I had them all for the day while she and her husband moved. Other friends found out and they cringed. "You had all seven kids all day?" Maybe I am just cut out for lots of kids around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-985308 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:26:18 +0000 indi 985308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was the oldest of 4 (7,4,2,1), so I sort of agree with @Maysprout:. I've already done a good go-round of helping to raise 3 kids, I'm looking forward to it when they're actually mine. Yes, it got crazy at our house, but my mom really did basically do it by herself (with my help), so I look forward to it being much easier with my awesome DH there to support our kids. :-)</p> <p>I've also had a few people with 2 kids tell me that they'd wanted 3 but let the hectic baby years change their mind and now they regret it. So we have a pact that once we have this first one, we set our # and stick to the plan unless there are some very extenuating circumstances. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-985268 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:15:42 +0000 Maysprout 985268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was just thinking about this more and since I was around 9 or 10 I would watch my 3 younger siblings regularly and it never was that big of a deal (though I wasn't taking them on outings). I could get them lunch and doing activities and break up spats and ignore them when I wanted. I guess part of me thinks if my 10 year old self can do it my 30 something year old self will be able to do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-985262 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:15:00 +0000 StbHisMrs 985262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: That was my favorite part too! </p> <p>I love watching their jaws hit the floor when I say nope this is my third AND I have 2 step-daughters! I had a lady tell me yesterday that I didn't look old enough to be pregnant with my first, I didn't tell her my oldest is 11 ;)</p> <p>That article is scary true though. I've never experienced having 2 so close, mine will be 23 months apart, the four older kids are 3 years apart, 11, 8, 5(just turned), 1.5(2 in Oct.)<br /> Gawd, I'm insane! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-985239 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:09:55 +0000 DillonLion 985239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: I cried when DH went back to work after his 1 week paternity leave because I was jealous ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-985195 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 13:51:22 +0000 edelweiss 985195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>haha this was funny, thanks for sharing! even if i wanted three, this wouldn't affect my decision too much because i think she was just being funny. i'm sure she could also write a post about the wonders and fun of having three, and was just letting off some steam. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-985191 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 13:50:12 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 985191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is very helpful for my just under the surface baby fever :) I can feel the inherent truth of what she is saying and it brought me right back to when my brother was born and how chaotic it was... And I was 8 then. My little sister who came after him didn't make nearly the same ripples in the family! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-985136 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 13:33:22 +0000 Crisark 985136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ginger333: I agree...<br /> Mine aren't super close in age so that might have something to do with it. But, I was one of 3 and having a third just seems normal.<br /> I think she has valid points but honestly having the third hasn't been that big of a deal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-985125 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 13:26:31 +0000 mrsmate 985125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: The older kids are 13mo apart, the younger ones are twins.</p> <p>@blackbird: I think $ makes a huge difference when it comes to having a large family. DH's aunt w/the 4 kids, her husband is a C-level exec at a Fortune 200 company. They're loaded! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-985116 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 13:20:31 +0000 blackbird 985116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So i was talking to DH about this and he commented that the spacing is key. We want #1 and #2 closer in age, then wait until #1 is in school for #3. And within the next 7 years, we should be making more money, which will help offset it. </p> <p>@highwire, shiiiiit, i was looking forward to going back to work when E was 3 months old :P</p> <p>I also don't get how having 4 gets easier. For me, the cost of 4 is the killer. 3? Doable. 4?...Brokeville</p> <p>eta: I always wanted to jokingly tell people when they asked if E was my first, "no. 5th" just to watch the look on their face </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-985115 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 13:20:03 +0000 Mrs. Blue 985115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsmate: She had two sets of twins?? That's my nightmare/dream depending on what kind of day the boys are having! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-985098 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 13:09:53 +0000 mrsmate 985098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: hopefully you'll be in good shape since your son is several years older. Is he helpful w/your DD?</p> <p>DH's aunt had 4 LOs but had them 2 at a time. The eldest 2 are in college and the youngest 2 are in middle school. She said it worked out well. MIL had 4 too but they are all 2-3yrs apart, and according to DH "it sucked". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-985078 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 13:00:08 +0000 Mrs. Blue 985078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds like she wasn't planning on three, at least not that close together, which I'm sure makes a huge difference in how you feel about it, too. I don't really get why three is harder than four or more. I'm not saying it's not harder, I just don't understand why it would be. I don't think 4 kids suddenly means they start acting as a group like she says, but maybe I'm wrong. I really like the "non-rebuttal" she linked to best, but I have to admit I giggled a lot at the part about her considering swinging the car seat. </p> <p>Hard or not, we definitely want more than the two Baby Dudes. Maybe we're crazy, and I'll write a blog post someday about how three is whooping me. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-985057 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 12:52:37 +0000 birdofafeather 985057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and i are both from families of 3, so that's what we want. we know it will be crazy, but for us, 3 kids plus 2 parents equals a family! and it's to the point where you can still drive in a normal car. :)</p> <p>my parents had it a little easier because i was 3.5 years old than my brother and 6 older than my sister, and i was a good kid and helped. my mom said if my sister was first, they might not have had 3!</p> <p>DH is a twin with a 2 year old sister (also a helper!) and they said they pretty much don't remember those first two years of the twins life! they didn't find out they were having twins until 2 weeks before they were born. so the plan was 2, but they ended up with 3! ha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-985013 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 12:29:08 +0000 Dandelion 985013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"I refrained from saying, “What do you want to say NOW? What’s your ADVICE?” but only narrowly."</p> <p>That part just totally cracked me up!</p> <p>3 does sound like the hardest...I think if you can do 3, you can do more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-984997 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 12:22:22 +0000 Andrea 984997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>3 sounds like the hardest number to have! It would be fun to have more kids if we had family around to help? But we don't so I think we're good with our 2! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-984991 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 12:20:01 +0000 Maysprout 984991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love going over to my LOs bf house, who is the youngest of 3 girls The older 2 are great playing with the LOs and my daughter gets so much out of interacting with the kids and the mom and I can mainly just hang out and talk. But there is so much going on, someone's always having a bad day and lots and lots of noise so right now I'm just a mooch off of multiple kids while then going home to a bit more quiet :wink: We still plan on having 3 or so. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-984984 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 12:16:49 +0000 runsyellowlites 984984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsmate: Our #2 &amp; 3 will be close in age (just under 2 years apart) ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-984979 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 12:14:39 +0000 mrsmate 984979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think spacing must make a big difference, bc the only mom friend I know w/3 has a 6yo, a 4yo and a 6mo, and she said its been a pretty easy transition.</p> <p>I've always wanted 3 but bc of my age (34) and IF issues I know DD2 and LO3 will have to be close in age if its going to happen. Not going to listen to this thread! *Plugging my ears and singing lalalala* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-984970 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 12:08:41 +0000 Honeybee 984970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have heard over and over again that 3 is the hardest number, especially 3 close together in age, and I totally believe it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-984948 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 11:59:35 +0000 runsyellowlites 984948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-984924 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 11:53:12 +0000 cyndistar3 984924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yea, I still want another :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-984916 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 11:51:49 +0000 DillonLion 984916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This part made me laugh: </p> <p>"I started to feel this kind of sadistic glee in saying, “Oh, no, it’s my third,” and watching their expressions change from helpful know-it-all to horrified stumped person. I refrained from saying, “What do you want to say NOW? What’s your ADVICE?” but only narrowly."</p> <p>The rest of it made me shiver with fear. Three young kids sounds terrifying. One of my friends from high school just had her third, and now she has THREE kids under three years old. She just returned to the workforce when this newest baby was like a month old and she was SO EXCITED. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-984901 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 11:47:13 +0000 lizzywiz 984901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think managing 3 would be crazy, but I am a firm believer in money making it waaaay easier, regardless of how many you have. I wonder how different her post would be if she could afford some of the things she mentioned (personalized childcare, baby gear, etc).<br /> If we could easily afford to house, feed and educate 3 or more I would do it (adoption probably because of my fertility issues). But we can barely pay daycare for one, so that is all we will have and I am happy with that scenario, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-984895 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 11:46:17 +0000 runsyellowlites 984895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: Yea , I was glad she put that in there... Of course circumstance has a great affect on the family dynamics (regardless of size). Like I said, we have friends pregnant with #8 (they "might" be done) &amp; I know I could NEVER survive a family that size! Lol</p> <p>@sloaneandpuffy: I totally laughed at that too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-you-would-like-to-have-3-babies#post-984892 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 11:45:56 +0000 T.H.O.U. 984892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love this non-rebuttal, but a list of the positives of having three. </p> <p><a href="http://frailb.wordpress.com/2013/06/29/so-you-would-like-to-have-three-children-a-non-rebutting-counterpoint/" rel="nofollow">http://frailb.wordpress.com/2013/06/29/so-you-would-like-to-have-three-children-a-non-rebutting-counterpoint/</a> </p>