https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 17 May 2026 16:40:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423945 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 22:35:53 +0000 jh524 2423945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: Don't feel bad!<br /> I'm exhausted by the end of the day too and I don't work full time like you. See what I do is get together with my friends in the morning. There's no way I could go out late and then being pregnant adds a whole different level of tired. Congrats by the way! Maybe try to invite them for coffee and breakfast over the weekend ? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423414 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 13:02:38 +0000 autumnleaves 2423414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: I have a similar schedule and love getting together with friends but struggle to leave my house and socialize after I pick LO up at the end of the day. I have to remind myself that getting together with them once a month at night is doable and I always feel good after meeting up with them. Do I make it every month? Nope. I generally give up on the early morning work out the next day if I meet up with my friends the night before. I am also usually the first to leave the get together. I left around 9:30 this month and was home by 10PM - my friends are OK with it.<br /> We also shoot to get together for brunch occasionally on the weekend and I am trying to commit to being in a small group that meets on Sundays afternoons for an hour - DH and LO go to the small group with me as we really want to connect with families with kids of similar ages to us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423336 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 11:43:32 +0000 JoJoGirl 2423336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: Yeah that's what I'd consider- I'd likely have to skip both morning of and morning after, but if that would help me get there, I'd do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423334 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 11:42:21 +0000 meredithNYC 2423334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, I just have to force myself out of the house. My two "things" are Junior League and book club, as just random, spur of the moment socializing is just too hard.</p> <p>Like you I am an early work-out person and so I'm tired by like, 6pm. But, is there any chance that you could skip the gym the morning of book club? Seems like the trade-off would be worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423329 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 11:36:56 +0000 JoJoGirl 2423329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: Yes this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423234 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 10:32:44 +0000 rachiecakes 2423234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>haha, YES. How times have changed since having a LO. With an action-packed schedule all week long and errands/cleaning/organizing/family time on the weekends I rarely get adult social time. And like you, when the opportunity comes up, sometimes I'd much rather just veg watching bad TV. So I pick and choose what's worth it to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423220 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 10:17:41 +0000 jedeve 2423220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I SAH and my kid wakes up at 5:30 every day! </p> <p>I would try it once. I get that it seems like too much work, but I think that kind of thing I usually dread and then feel better once I go. Going is always harder than being there! But first trimester fatigue is soooo hard. Maybe try in a couple months? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423205 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 10:05:32 +0000 Silva 2423205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have much energy for it these days, but have been forcing myself. I know that its always a struggle to get myself out the door, but I feel so energized after those kind of social engagements that its worth it. I'm home with my daughter a lot and am self employed as a therapist, so I don't get social time at work. Its really my only opportunity to talk to adults besides my husband! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423183 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 09:53:53 +0000 runnerd 2423183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um I don't have a social life. :) but honestly, I was the type of person before kids who was happy to have 3-5 social events (ranging from coffee to nights out or running together) with friends per month.</p> <p>So now that I have kid(s), after I spend time with LO, DH, work, exercise, and attempt to keep the laundry and dishes done, I don't really want to spend time with other people more than once a month. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423164 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 09:46:27 +0000 mrsjyw 2423164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's definitely the mental struggle! Bed just sounds so gooood! I had dinner w one of my bffs at 8pm the other night! Sucked it up and made myself go, Drive through snow even. It was so worth it because once I was there the QT was something that I miss and need regularly in my life! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423161 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 09:45:20 +0000 Alba4 2423161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As a working mom I only socialize on the weekends. I just can't get through my week otherwise. Most of my social group also works, so we have similar socializing habits. I did befriend a few sahm over the summer, but we only socialize then (since I have summers off). One women I like so much, but she keeps asking to get together for weekday dinners and I just can't handle it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423151 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 09:39:36 +0000 JoJoGirl 2423151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pwnstar: Thanks :( I miss my friends, I just cannot deal with anymore interaction in the course of one day right now!</p> <p>@Mrs.KMM: Makes more sense to me as a SAHM, especially if that's the only adult interaction you get! I just feel like I'm already overloaded on adult interaction and can't deal with anymore :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423149 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 09:38:03 +0000 looch 2423149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: I'd be down with a watch TV group. Or a listen to a podcast group, lol.</p> <p>@pwnstar: I just can't talk at some points, you know? Especially if it's small talk! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423147 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 09:37:34 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2423147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am a SAHM but I definitely make a point to get together with friends in the evenings or on weekends at least once a week. A social life was not something that I was willing to give up just because I now have a child. Getting together and spending time with my friends is too important to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423143 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 09:35:55 +0000 pwnstar 2423143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: The only reason I make it across the street is because I am not already inside! After I get LO down, I am pretty much worthless (especially now that I'm knocked up!). I *might* do a load of laundry and pick up a few toys, but that's about it. Pretty much, I just want to zone out in front of the boob tube and then take my tired butt to bed. Just know you're not alone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423129 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 09:26:47 +0000 JoJoGirl 2423129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pwnstar: Thanks. I know I'd probably feel better if I just FORCED myself but god seriously I just want to sit on the couch and watch TV for an hour then go to bed :-/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423121 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 09:23:02 +0000 pwnstar 2423121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: Your schedule is almost identical to mine, and most nights, I'm on my own for dinner/bath/bed. I'm so wiped out most days that I almost cringe when I turn on to our street after pickup and I see our lovely neighbors outside with their adorable children, all of whom play remarkably well together and with my LO, because I know my LO will want to go and play for a few minutes too. It's not that I don't want to talk to them (because I do! I wish I knew them better!), it's just that my talk/social tank is so empty, and I'm usually still preoccupied with work (some days it just takes me longer to wind down mentally) and I feel like a lousy small talker . . . *augh* Totally makes me feel like a social leper. Eta: I usually go anyway because it's maybe 10-20 minutes, and LO gets extra time to play outside. But I always feel awkward about it. </p> <p>@looch: I would totally join your *Less Talk More Run* running club. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423103 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 09:09:34 +0000 JoJoGirl 2423103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Haha, that's sort of brilliant :) Or a watching TV group?? :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423092 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 09:03:01 +0000 looch 2423092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I hear you, I get up early, go to work, deal with people all day long, get home and deal with my family, I can't even begin to think about having a conversation again past 7:30.</p> <p>What about a running group? I am seriously considering joining one so I can be around people and not have to talk, lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423088 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 09:01:35 +0000 JoJoGirl 2423088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: No no once a month! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423085 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 09:00:00 +0000 Foodnerd81 2423085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They meet every week? That's a lot! I am part of a book club but we meet once a month, which is more doable- and sometimes I still don't feel like going! And yes, I'm a sahm and I usually do wake up way later than 4:50. (When I don't have a newborn who is up at whatever hour she wants). Plus as a sahm book club is sometimes the only adult interaction I have that isn't interrupted 30 times by my kid. </p> <p>I don't think you should feel guilty, especially since you are pregnant and it's less fun going to wine club when you can't drink! Maybe you could make an effort to go once a month so it isn't such a big commitment? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423084 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 08:59:47 +0000 fancyfunction 2423084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A lot of times I just force myself to go out b/c at the end of the day, I usually don't feel like going out again but once I'm there, I always have a great time. I also like to make weekend brunch plans with friends so I get out in the morning and am home by late afternoon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423081 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 08:58:23 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2423081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh I usually am sooo tired too by the end of the day. But once I actually get out I have fun and am so glad I went. I just make sure to get home in good time. My son likes to surprise me and get up at 530 on days when I really would enjoy a sleep in! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/social-time#post-2423061 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 08:40:08 +0000 JoJoGirl 2423061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My new neighborhood is amazing - I live on a tiny dead-end street with tons of moms (kids all the same age) who love getting together and they're all awesome.</p> <p>They started a monthly book club (read: wine club) on Thursdays at 8pm. I am (was?) a total social butterfly before LO and am struggling with the fact that I've never gone!! I get up at 4:50am to go to the gym before work, work 40+hrs/week, pick up LO from school and sometimes have help with dinner/bath/bed (sometimes not), then after LO goes to bed at 7:30 the LAST thing I feel like doing is going out to see friends, especially since I go to bed at 9 so I can get up early the next day! </p> <p>They had a book club last night in the home attached to ours and I feel so guilty about missing it! What is wrong with me? :) They're all moms too , mostly SAHMs (I only say this because I think they get up way later than I do), but I just cannot motivate. Plus none of them know I'm pregnant so couldn't partake in the champagne *sob*</p> <p>How do you have energy for a social life? </p>