https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 20 May 2026 10:58:47 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2346450 Fri, 06 Nov 2015 05:22:56 +0000 Oxana 2346450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like the amount I swear increased tenfold after we had LO. Particularly in the newborn days. "Where the F is ____?!" and "Godd*amnit!" were staples around here.</p> <p>I backed off on the swearing when our 18 month old started saying, "Uck! Uck!" and we knew for a certainty that she was not trying to say duck.</p> <p>Like @torchwood, we won't make a big deal of it if she uses words contextually when she's older. She's only 21 months now, so we just want to make sure they aren't her <i>first</i> words to be used willy nilly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2346411 Fri, 06 Nov 2015 01:04:33 +0000 littleblessings 2346411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD has said, "Oh Shit!", "Open the damn door" and has dropped the F bomb a few times. I just tell her that some words are only for adults to say. I specify which words she shouldn't say. She usually apologizes. Not a big deal over here though </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2346408 Fri, 06 Nov 2015 00:53:23 +0000 Radish 2346408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So far shit and dammit. We just ignore her and let her think it's not a big deal. I actually don't think it's a big deal. They aren't aimed at hurting anyone and they are used contextually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2346393 Fri, 06 Nov 2015 00:10:53 +0000 Foodnerd81 2346393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am pretty good about not swearing in front of her, dh still needs some reminders. But there was a day I was fixing a window shade and it fell right on me and I shouted the F word really loud. She comes walking over happily saying Duck! Duck! I was like, yup, ducks say quack quack. What does a pig say? :silly: </p> <p>I'm sure it will come up. My goal will be to not laugh and just ignore or redirect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2346173 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 20:26:49 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 2346173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She asked me if her diaper was "a poop, or a crap poop?"<br /> She's repeated 'bitch' when she heard it on TV but hasn't said it again since. And she'll say 'shoot' when she stubs her toe. Thankfully nothing has stuck around yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2345997 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 18:39:36 +0000 Torchwood 2345997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Too little to say anything, but we overall plan to allow some swearing. Little things like "crap" when she's younger, bigger stuff like "damn" or "shit" once she's old enough to know when that's appropriate and not (e.g. Not in a school-type setting). They're just words. She won't be allowed to use them towards people, so for example ass would be allowed in regards to her bottom, but not as an insult to a person. Sexual words (primarily f bomb) won't be allowed till much older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2345992 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 18:32:48 +0000 MsMini 2345992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have one hell of a potty mouth in real life :wink: so this has definitely come up with our 3 year old DS. Our approach is to tell him that certain words are "grown up words" and are not to be used by kids. He actually is pretty cool with that and when he says a word, we just remind him it is a "grown up word" and he moves on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2345989 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 18:28:32 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2345989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO has said dammit. She's only 2 so I just said it's not nice and moved on. Not much else I can do at this age. We dont really swear that much and nearly not at all in fron5 of kids but we don't pay too much attention to what we watch around her as long as it isn't scary and I think that's where she picked it up </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2345988 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 18:28:18 +0000 Freckles 2345988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I sometimes pretend that she was trying to say a different word. "oh, fox? Yes, the fox is very pretty." Otherwise, i will say, "that's not a nice word" and not make a big deal out of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2345983 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 18:24:09 +0000 hellocupcake 2345983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I told my DD that we don't say that word, and I'm sorry I said it...now she catches me EVERY TIME and tells me "mommy, we don't say that word...only daddy can say that." I don't know where she got that daddy can say that, but we try to keep cussing at a minimum. I've tried my whole life to quit but it's ingrained in my vocabulary :/ not cool. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2345779 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 16:04:25 +0000 kiddosc 2345779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, I am guilty of occasionally swearing around E, but DH is HORRIBLE about it, especially in the car. I remind DH several times a week to watch his mouth in front of the kid. So far E hasn't really repeated them, which is really surprising to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2345767 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 15:58:15 +0000 BandDmommy 2345767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't swear much to begin with but DH does sometimes. Luckily, the kids are around me most and have not picked up any of dad's bad language. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2345756 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 15:55:23 +0000 littlejoy 2345756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our LO said "dammit" after DH said it. We aren't sticklers with cussing ... It's a big conversation with many facets. I'd like to stop cussing around her as much as I can, but it's probably not entirely realistic. Plus, it's all about the thought behind the words. </p> <p>I do not want her cursing though, so just like some tasks are for mom and dad, some words are for mom and dad. It won't be something we discipline her for, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2345737 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 15:45:56 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 2345737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh boy.... I have no controlled my swearing, and I really need to because now, whenever I tell DD1 to get her shirt on, she smiles and replies back with "My f***ing shirt?".... And then the gem she pulled yesterday when I had her at Target and she randomly said "are you p*ssing me off right now??". </p> <p>I might be guilty of dropping the F bomb in front of her, but not the 2nd one, so I'm not sure where she picked it up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2345729 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 15:41:16 +0000 JoJoGirl 2345729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO had a massive shit on the floor the other week and I yelled HOLY CRAP and she incessantly repeated it over and over until bedtime. The more I reacted to it, the more it egged her on. I haven't mentioned it since and she's forgotten, but even saying "DON'T SAY THAT" just made her say it. Ignoring it made it go away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2345723 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 15:38:58 +0000 tofuwad 2345723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No personal experience but my SIL tries her hardest not to react and then explain that those are mean words. </p> <p>After she had explained this to her LO she had been trying to clean up her and her husband's language. And my niece caught on to the fact that when one parent swore, the other parent would say, "That's not a nice word, &lt;name&gt;." And then my niece started repeating it! So if she heard her mom swear she'd say, "That's not a nice word, Heather." (Instead of saying Mommy)</p> <p>It is super hilarious! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2345436 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 12:56:35 +0000 Mommy Finger 2345436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH blurted out the full version of WTF when he got DS1 up from a nap to find he had poop smeared and so DS went through a phase of saying it over and over again b/c he knew he would get a rise out of everyone. Well, at least from his daddy b/c DH has a hard time not laughing at it or just ignoring it. He doesn't say it much anymore but will from time to time. I just ignore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2345434 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 12:54:00 +0000 blackbird 2345434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've already learned that with E, if i make a deal out of something, she is ALL ABOUT IT. Like i caught her sucking her thumb awhile ago. Told he not to do that, that it was yucky. And then she'd keep putting her thumb in he mouth and looking at me for a reaction, grinning wildly. So i just ignored it. And i guess it got boring to look at me for a reaction and to have none given back. When she's a little older, hopefully it's an easier discussion to have! But at 2.5? nope. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2345403 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 12:22:12 +0000 Cherrybee 2345403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Heck isn't a swear word is it?? I say heck and hell and sod and bloody and allsorts in front of E and wouldn't bat an eyelid if she repeated them. DH has dropped a few Fs and c-bombs by mistake and I would be mortified if she repeated one of those! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2345374 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 11:58:43 +0000 edelweiss 2345374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>either i don't make a big deal out of it and remind myself and my hubs to watch our language, or i honestly tell LO "hey i think you're saying that because you heard us say that, and we shouldn't say things like that." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2345318 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 11:17:18 +0000 Adira 2345318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The other day when I was giving Xander a bath, he kept saying "fucking." And I was like "What?? What are you saying??" And he just kept saying it, and finally added "Dada says 'fucking.'" I was finally like "Okay" and tried not to make a big deal of it or tell him not to say that and he dropped it. Just hope he doesn't say it at daycare!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2345309 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 11:07:18 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2345309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: yep, at some point kids just need to know when it's okay to use it. As an expression of frustration "what the hell" is no different than "oh brother!" except of c I use some things just sound more pleasant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2345302 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 11:00:58 +0000 yoursilverlining 2345302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We try not to swear around LO, but naturally, we've failed some and LO has learned the F word. She called the cat a “f’ing jerk” the other day lol :bummed: :silly: </p> <p>So, our approach with the “lighter” swears like damnit are to completely ignore. With the F word, it’s been trickier because I laughed super hard the first time she said it so then it became a thing to say to get a reaction out of me. What’s mostly solved it for us is that I sat her down and told her it was a mean word and when you say it to someone you are being mean and saying a mean thing to them and that it hurts their feelings. That really made an impression on LO, so she doesn’t say it anymore, except on accident like calling the cat an f’ing jerk </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2345278 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 10:49:21 +0000 .twist. 2345278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He hasn't yet. But we've definitely let a few out and even dropped a couple F bombs here and there. Oops. </p> <p>I think I would have done the same as you, kinda say it's not nice and just drop it! I definitely believe making a big deal about things makes them want to do it/try it more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/solets-talk-swearing#post-2345267 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 10:43:24 +0000 sorrycharlie 2345267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm guilty of swearing in front of my kids every so often. lesser swears like heck, hell, frickin. but still - I try not to!</p> <p>my 3 year old has repeated frickin (although only with "frickin fly" so I think she thinks that's what they're called?!) and the other night, as I was getting her into bed, I noticed her sheets were damp. I told her she had to tell me in the morning when they were wet so I could change them and she sighed and said "what the hell." :shocked: </p> <p>I just said "that's not nice" and ignored it. I don't know if making a big deal would work because then she may say it more!! haha. she hasn't said it since though..</p> <p>does your LO drop swears? how do you handle it? </p>