https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Jul 2026 04:45:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/someone-please-make-me-feel-better-about-day-care#post-680495 Sun, 31 Mar 2013 12:50:50 +0000 MsMamaBear 680495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter goes to the one I teach Pre-K at, which is good for me. I get to see her each day and I do miss her all day, but knowing she's near helps. Also, she loves it! She plays with other kids (her brother, SO's son, is 14) so she loves that. She paints and everything. She just loves it. It was hard, even with being in the building, after I came back to work, but the ladies LOVE her. They are very loving. I know there are some bad stories about daycares, but there are lots of good ones too. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/someone-please-make-me-feel-better-about-day-care#post-669040 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 16:02:12 +0000 Freckles 669040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did the transition very gradually. The first week she was there for only 2.5 hours (i'd pick her up after lunch before naptime), the second week she was there from 9:30-3, and the third week from 9-4. The first two days were the hardest (i'd never heard her cry so hard in my life) but she adjusted and doing well. I also thought i would hate being back at work, but it's the second day and i'm happy i'm back. There is still a lot of guilt, but i think it'll take time for it to fully go away. Good luck!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/someone-please-make-me-feel-better-about-day-care#post-668883 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 15:16:22 +0000 BlueWolverine 668883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone!! This has really helped. I'm going to just enjoy this week and plan on spending some time there next week to reassure myself about her care. They encouraged us come by unannounced and hang out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/someone-please-make-me-feel-better-about-day-care#post-667299 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 08:19:08 +0000 MamaMoose 667299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The anticipation of going back to work was much harder on me than actually going back! Don't get me wrong, I cried my eyes out on the first day. But every day I go to pick her up and she is smiling and happy, she naps, she eats great, and she is loved on. So every day it gets easier. Like @mediagirl: I have to try very hard not to think about the fact that LO spends more awake hours in a day with her teachers than she does with me because that's really tough. But believe me, she still loves her mama best! And her teachers are so so sweet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/someone-please-make-me-feel-better-about-day-care#post-667291 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 08:15:18 +0000 littlek 667291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO loves daycare and his teachers and they love him. When I drop him off in the morning he crawls off and starts playing, he barely has time to wave goodbye to me. However, when I go pick him up he gives me the biggest smile and crawls to me, it's such a wonderful feeling. Like previous posters said, try to be positive, it gets easier! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/someone-please-make-me-feel-better-about-day-care#post-667261 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 08:07:04 +0000 lavender 667261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO loves daycare, it gets to the point where when she sees her teacher she leaps into her arms. That makes me sad/ but at the same time it's nice to know she is so comfortable and happy there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/someone-please-make-me-feel-better-about-day-care#post-667259 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 08:06:26 +0000 AprilK 667259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will say you should be cognizant that the first two weeks will be very hard. Even just getting out of the house in the morning with a baby is difficult and the first two weeks dropping my son off at daycare was the worst. There was alot of crying! In the end, my husband was like "Give it a month or two and then we will reevaluate." And after two months I was back at work feeling like I was back on top of my game there and I felt that my son was in a great routine and loved by his daycare ladies. It was really REALLY hard at first but just stick it out for a bit and it gets SO much better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/someone-please-make-me-feel-better-about-day-care#post-667234 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 07:51:10 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 667234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's good that you love your center and the teachers. I cried in the beginning &amp; worried too, but it's been about 3 months now and I love it! I'm a teacher and off for spring break this week. His teachers were so sad when I told them he'd be off &amp; I'm thinking of sending him tomorrow for a half day, just because he gets so many benefits from being there.<br /> It'll be hard, but if you trust the teachers and see how they'll care for your LO, you'll have a sense of peace. Try to enjoy the last 2 weeks together.</p> <p>As a thought, our center let me bring him for a 1/2 day while on my leave, for "practice". I spent an hour dropping him off and went back after only 1.5 hours. But it was good practice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/someone-please-make-me-feel-better-about-day-care#post-667221 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 07:43:01 +0000 Goldilocks1107 667221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO loves daycare and they love her. I think the transition was easier for me because DH drops her off at daycare in the morning, and I pick her up. So I didn't have to deal with the first few days of saying goodbye and leaving her in a new place. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/someone-please-make-me-feel-better-about-day-care#post-667209 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 07:26:49 +0000 pelikila 667209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS loves his daycare, his friends, and his teachers. He's been there since he was 8 weeks old and is now 2 years and we couldn't be happier with the care he is receiving, the individual attention he gets, the activities he participates in, and the willingness they have had towards working with us rather than imposing "how it's always been done" on us. It's been such a positive experience that when I changed jobs and my commute took me an hour in the other direction, DH stepped up and started taking DS to daycare so he could stay there even though it meant doubling DH's commute. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/someone-please-make-me-feel-better-about-day-care#post-667204 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 07:20:40 +0000 mediagirl 667204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt the same way. I died a little inside each time I thought about dropping her off that first day. The hardest part for me is knowing that these ladies are seeing my daughter for more hours in the day than I am. Kills me. But, I am able to get through because I know they love her. The women in the infant room at my daycare are the sweetest, loving, most caring women I have ever met. I know that's not the case everywhere but it sounds like it is the case where your lo will go.</p> <p>I feel your pain, mama. You'll get through it, it will be very difficult the first week, though. Come in here and we'll support you through it!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/someone-please-make-me-feel-better-about-day-care#post-667193 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 07:09:55 +0000 th_momma 667193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter started daycare at 6 months. I was 100% against it (we originally had a nanny, but she canceled on us two weeks before DH had to go back to work). I am so glad my husband talked me into it. She LOVES it. She loves the other kids, and the women are fantastic with her. Every week she learns something new. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/someone-please-make-me-feel-better-about-day-care#post-667186 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 07:01:05 +0000 Rubies 667186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO loves daycare! However, it's a little different because she started at 13 months. But I love the teachers, they are so loving and they really LOVE my daughter. When she moved up to the toddler room, they cried! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/someone-please-make-me-feel-better-about-day-care#post-667072 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 23:53:29 +0000 BlueWolverine 667072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bluebonnet: I don't think I want to be a stay at home mom. I never really considered it seriously as I knew I'd be going back to work. I don't know that I could be a SAHM, but I also don't know that I couldn't. I try not to think about it as it isn't currently an option. I'm more comfortable with a day care center than an in home day care. I don't think a nanny is doable on our income. I kind of like that centers are constantly inspected.</p> <p>Thanks for asking these questions - it makes me remember why I can be comfortable with this choice. Of all the centers we visited, I liked the feel of this one the best. It may be a small thing, but I appreciated that the director knew all of the babies' names by sight.</p> <p>And thanks everyone else for your responses. I do feel a bit better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/someone-please-make-me-feel-better-about-day-care#post-667070 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 23:44:04 +0000 red_seattle 667070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I returned from maternity leave, (before I quit my job to go back to school), I cried every day on my way to work for the first week. Going back to work is hard. But, it was good-- I got comfortable with it after a few weeks. I typed a list of reasons why it's good for me to work to my computer monitor, and read that every day. I don't remember the entire list but it was something like "1. It's good for my marriage. Working gives me something to talk to DH about other than the number of poops LO had today. 2. It's good for LO to feel comfortable with other caregivers. 3. It's good for me to feel comfortable leaving LO with others, so that I can feel ok about not being around my baby 24/7. 4. I need to work for financial reasons. 5. Interacting with adults is good for me socially and mentally." --- stuff like that. It really helped. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/someone-please-make-me-feel-better-about-day-care#post-667068 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 23:39:39 +0000 Bluebonnet 667068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love LO's daycare. Her teachers are awesome, she has learned so much from her teachers and observing the other kids in her classroom. She's hit all of her milestones early and I think a lot of it has to do with learning from others in her class. </p> <p>The transition back to work was much better than I expected. I realized I really to have adult interaction, a sense of accomplishment, and the added financial security my income brings. I miss LO like crazy, but its awesome to see her face light up when I pick her up. </p> <p>Are you having trouble with the thought of being a working mom versus a stay at home mom? Or are you having trouble with the thought of this particular daycare (or daycare in general) versus other child care arrangements? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/someone-please-make-me-feel-better-about-day-care#post-667067 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 23:39:34 +0000 MaisyMay 667067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both love it! LO has been at her current daycare for a month now and it's wonderful. It's a home daycare and the lady's kids are so excited to see her! I don't even ring the doorbell because they see me walking up the steps and I hear "They're here! Amelia!" They have a camera so that I can peak in, and the lady is absolutely wonderful with A. A is very happy/smiley with them too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/someone-please-make-me-feel-better-about-day-care#post-667066 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 23:33:21 +0000 yoursilverlining 667066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Try not to go into this assuming you will hate it. You might surprise yourself and honestly enjoy going back to work, having a break during the day, having adult conversation and intellectual stimulation. I think it's harder to go back to work the more you "know" how much you will hate it.</p> <p>I hope that you find it an easier transition than you expect! I did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/someone-please-make-me-feel-better-about-day-care#post-667064 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 23:32:39 +0000 Mrs Hedgehog 667064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't speak for leaving my LO is a day care because she isn't here yet but I used to work in one and I have to say, of every teacher there, the infant teachers were always the most loving and caring ones there! Don't get me wrong, the other teachers were too but those women with those babies... you couldn't rattle them or upset them at. all. They were always all about the babies they were caring for. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/someone-please-make-me-feel-better-about-day-care#post-667058 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 23:28:48 +0000 BlueWolverine 667058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I go back to work in two weeks. We found a day care for Baby A. The infant room is staffed by two women who have been working together in that room for seven years. I visited and they were very loving with the babies. </p> <p>And yet I die a little inside every single time I think about leaving Baby A there. I have to go back to work. I have no choice. I need to enjoy these last two weeks at home with her but all I can think about is day care and how I much I hate having to leave her. </p> <p>Moms with babies in day care - how did it go for you? </p>