https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Apr 2026 21:10:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/something-in-the-water#post-21267 Wed, 23 Nov 2011 14:39:35 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 21267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Whatever's in that water, I want to get me some.<br /> In the past six months (we've been TTC for 10), both of my coworkers, two of DH's coworkers, and four other friends have gotten pregnant or given birth. Where's mine?<br /> Unfortunately, three of these women had miscarriages at 11 weeks - this also seems to be really common lately. Is it just because I know so many pregnant people, that I'm hearing about all these m/cs?<br /> Anyhow, maybe it'll be our turn soon, and everyone on the TTC boards will get knocked up. Our babies can have internet buddies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/something-in-the-water#post-20995 Wed, 23 Nov 2011 10:52:41 +0000 Chastenet 20995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@carrieknitscake: Me too! Hopefully it'll be our turn soon :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/something-in-the-water#post-20981 Wed, 23 Nov 2011 10:30:40 +0000 carrieknitscake 20981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chastenet: Last year, there were a slew of pregnancy announcements all in the same time period. It was crazy! The end of this year into next year, the announcements have been fewer, but that could change. I'd love to be one of those announcing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/something-in-the-water#post-20978 Wed, 23 Nov 2011 10:25:36 +0000 Chastenet 20978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There's something in the water by me, too. 5 people have announced their pregnancies to me in the past week!!! I have never before had so many people share the same news in such a short time period. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/something-in-the-water#post-11450 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 10:20:35 +0000 MrsLilybugg 11450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you're right in that your husband being around his brother and SIL with their baby will be a good learning process for him. He may think to himself "well if HE could do it and be OK... " </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/something-in-the-water#post-11442 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 10:10:22 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 11442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't worry about it. It's better to start when you are ready, and who knows maybe by then your friends will be at their second ;) </p> <p>You don't want to have babies simply because everyone else is. BUt I understand the sentiment you are having (my sister who is 5 years older than me still isn't married or has kids) so ya, it's bitter sweet. </p> <p>But NO PRESSURE! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/something-in-the-water#post-11351 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 07:44:30 +0000 Chillybear 11351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When my best friend got engaged last year and announced her her intentions to wait until Oct 2012 to get married I had a long conversation with my husband about our family plans having only been married 2 months waiting until after her wedding seemed like a good plan for a timeline. We wanted to have some time to just be married first.</p> <p>Of the three only my friend Rachel planned her pregnancy and she is also in the wedding. She timed it so she would have her kid 5 month before the wedding. At this point if i were to get pregnant tomorrow I would have a baby a month or two before the wedding and I would have trouble participating in all the events prior to. </p> <p>As for the other 2 Oops pregnancies, I know it hasn't been easy for them to come to terms with it. and they're both over whelmed esp. my cousin who has only been in her relationship a year and was living 2 states away from our family and was testing the waters with a career change. She's struggling to make decisions like where to live and if she should commute to her previous full time job. </p> <p>I guess my issues are that I will never be able to have an oops pregnancy, meaning that we will have to consciously make the decision. I have to be off my psoriasis meds for 3 months before I can come off BC. It has to be timed with the seasons so there will be less chance of a flare up and I have to consult with my ob and my derm throughout the whole process. The more cycles I go off my meds and w/o a pregnancy the more uncomfortable i will get and I can only hope that i don't have a flare during pregnancy as I can't use the topical steroids. </p> <p>Hubs does want to be a dad and he def does want a couple kids, but at this point in his life he's never been around pregnant woman, babies or little kids. So the idea of having one of his own right now kinda scares the sh*t out of him. I think being around to see his brother and SIL go through it first will be good for him and help ease him into the process. </p> <p>Again I go from rational to crazy and back again at the drop of a hat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/something-in-the-water#post-11075 Mon, 07 Nov 2011 18:34:13 +0000 tequiero21 11075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>there is definitely something in the water, especially when you're ttc and aren't getting pregnant. then you hear everyone and their sisters' stories about getting pregnant.</p> <p>i think you should get pregnant when you and your hubby are ready, not because of a wedding or because other people are doing it. it is nice to have babies all the same age, but that's life. i think 1 year is perfectly fine. it's harder when they're all 5-10 years older than your kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/something-in-the-water#post-11018 Mon, 07 Nov 2011 17:41:26 +0000 carrieknitscake 11018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hear you on the being left out feeling. I know someone whose pregnant with a second, long before we were officially trying. There's another suspected pregnancy too. I hate that feeling like it's never going to happen to us. I hate those that get pregnant just by looking at each other or only trying once. Why is it so easy for others, but not for us? My husband keeps reassuring me that it's not our time. When will it be our time? When will add to our family? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/something-in-the-water#post-11015 Mon, 07 Nov 2011 17:34:03 +0000 cyneswith 11015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not crazy - just adult female. Last year, I had nasty cramps twice a month, every month - it literally HURT not to be pregnant! Being a bridesmaid isn't in my mind a good reason to wait - a pregnancy is a bigger deal than looking trim in a BM dress ('course, I expected one of my BMs to be heavily pregnant at my wedding, and I planned around it. I would talk to the bride and see if she has a strong opinion on whether or not you are pregnant for her wedding.) Getting weight below "obese" is a good reason to wait, as is paying off debt (provided the debt is a reasonable amount.) But pulling the goalie without hub's at-least-vaguely-enthused consent is bound to put a huge wedge in a marriage. </p> <p>And... I'm on HelloBee so I don't drive my husband nuts with my baby fever. Welcome to the club. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/something-in-the-water#post-10649 Mon, 07 Nov 2011 10:10:38 +0000 Chillybear 10649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It all started with my co-worker, then a friend of a friend.....ok I can handle that... then in August my cousin (and MoH) called in a panic when she found out she was unexpectedly expecting, then in the last 2 weeks two more of my BM's (Best friend and SIL) announced their pregnancies. On saturday night we ran into a friend from college who's expecting. What are these people drinking baby making juice?</p> <p>I'm MoH in my best friend's wedding next October so thanks to her 2 year engagement our time line has been set to not start trying until after their wedding. There's other things to be considered too like wanting to lose weight, paying off some debt and just generally being ready to bring a child in our lives. Husband is not at all comfortable around babies but I think he's glad to be an uncle before a father. </p> <p>Rationally, I know its not the right time to have a baby but my empty uterus is arguing otherwise. I also worry and am anxious about medical stuff if I'll have issues getting pregnant. It was so easy for my friends 2 were accidental and the other one was a 1st cycle. </p> <p>Then there's the left out feeling.... all my friends are having babies and i'm not... I thought our kids would grow up together (again rationally 1 year is not going to make a difference, they will still grow up as friends)</p> <p>sorry for the babbling, I didnt mean to use Hellobee as a therapy service but i could use some help getting talked off the baby ledge.... Husband just shakes his head and walks away because he thinks i'm nuts. </p>