https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 07:44:08 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry/page/2#post-1086131 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 16:48:28 +0000 DillonLion 1086131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spinningry: Leaving is not what people responded to. Flounce posting (specifically starting a thread to announce your departure) is what some people find dramatic.</p> <p>I'm sorry that the other thread got heated. If you don't feel comfortable here, that's understandable. I really think this will all blow over and be long forgotten about soon. My hope is that you will stick around to see how great this community can be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry/page/2#post-1086118 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 16:41:16 +0000 looch 1086118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ehhh, stay, go, whatever you decide...but don't turn it into a YAGE. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry/page/2#post-1086114 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 16:38:18 +0000 Vegmama 1086114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yikes. I've been watching this thread over the last two days ... Either let it go (many have had their say, and it's settled), or leave ... Or, leave, and sign-up with a new name/avatar. Problem solved. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry/page/2#post-1085103 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 10:57:07 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1085103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spinningry: I saw the responses to the post, and I don't think anyone was rude or unwelcoming. I think they were letting you know that the post was in the wrong place and a bit insensitive. I don't think anyone meant any harm to you just as you didn't mean any harm to anyone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry/page/2#post-1085054 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 10:43:44 +0000 Freckles 1085054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pink Champagne: I agree with @Pui. While her initial post may not have been insensitive, saying she wishes to share her fertility with someone who isn't lacks awareness. I think those who responded were quite fair in their response to her. </p> <p>@spinningry: No one is trying to make you feel unwelcome. It was an honest mistake, and people will forget it after a few days. I think you had already apologized in your previous post, and people understand where it was coming from. Please stay, as i don't think you should leave over something like this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry/page/2#post-1085017 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 10:27:55 +0000 spinningry 1085017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The irony of this is that the purpose of the the original post was for people to help me know how to be more sensitive about infertility and better understand it. When you have no idea what something is like or how someone feels or will react about something said, it's hard to know whats okay to say and what isn't. Now I know. Yes I was insensitive, but I did not realize it. But to be shredded about it, that is a whole other story. And to say that leaving here, because I don't feel welcome, is dramatic? Way to make me feel even less welcome. But that's okay. Whatever makes you feel better.</p> <p>Thank you to those of you who were welcoming :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry/page/2#post-1084111 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 21:25:18 +0000 MamaMoose 1084111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You made a mistake and posted to the wrong board (in my opinion that was your only mistake. Fertility guilt is something plenty of people struggle with when their loved ones battle IF and you are more than welcome to start a discussion about that topic.). It's nothing to feel you need to leave the community over. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry/page/2#post-1084110 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 21:23:52 +0000 deerylou 1084110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: I'm definitely not saying that the two involve the same level of pain and heartache; certainly not. I was merely trying to convey that you could apply the "foot in mouth" sentiment to several different topics here. Anyway, definitely not trying to debate the significance of one topic over the over; I do get what you're saying. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry/page/2#post-1084087 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 21:07:10 +0000 swedishfish 1084087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really tried to not comment on this thread because I do think it's melodramatic but @deerylou: I think comparing the IF boards to the breastfeeding boards is a bit imbalanced as those struggling to breastfeed have a baby and those struggling with IF dream of having a baby. Just a thought...</p> <p>@spinningry: people struggling with IF are all different. If I was still going through my round of IVF and saw your thread I probably would've chalked it up to immaturity and ignorance and ignored it. But that's me. You learned a lesson on empathy today so let's move on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry/page/2#post-1084006 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 20:42:47 +0000 Caly 1084006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely don't leave! It was a completely honest mistake &amp; honestly, tomorrow it will be forgotten. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry/page/2#post-1083836 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 19:56:36 +0000 BSB 1083836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pui: I agree. I think there were other factors involved in the OP's last thread, not just being in the wrong board.</p> <p>OP- I don't think you should leave. It was an mistake. We all make mistakes. As someone who has struggled with IF, I think it makes me feel better that you are more aware of how insensitive the thread you created was. That's the only thing I can do about it. Creating IF awareness is high in my book and so if the Resolve link helps you, that's great and wonderful.</p> <p>We have been through the trenches with IF and it sucks. Really it does. I would never ever wish IF on anyone. Some days I don't want to talk about babies and sometimes I do. You can see from my post count that I do and enjoy the HB community. </p> <p>Live and learn, I guess. But no need to leave. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry/page/2#post-1083831 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 19:53:58 +0000 mrbee 1083831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: a lot of parents hide the Breastfeeding board, for the reasons you mentioned?</p> <p>I appreciate the OP's apology and sincerity, and am hopeful we can move on to other topics! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry/page/2#post-1083811 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 19:45:05 +0000 deerylou 1083811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pink Champagne: +1 - I pretty much agree with all you said.</p> <p>OP, I don't think anyone is gunning for your removal or desires you to leave. Quite the contrary. It was an honest mistake - a question I believe was from a place of curiosity rather than malicious intentions. All you did was post it on the "wrong" board. Stay. There's no reason not to. I'm pretty sure all has been forgiven.</p> <p>While I think it's important for the community to be informed, aware, and kind, I think it's a bit bogus to assign heightened sensitivity to some subjects of conversation, and not others. We could extend the same "foot in mouth" sentiment to the victory threads on the breastfeeding board, when there are numerous members who are physically unable to breastfeed, and might feel disappointed or alone in those struggles. All I'm saying is that while sensitivity *does* certainly go a long way, assuming people might have your best interest at heart does too. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry#post-1083726 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 19:15:03 +0000 MsLipGloss 1083726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pink Champagne: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry#post-1083725 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 19:13:08 +0000 MrsStormy 1083725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your probably embarrassed, and I totally get that (even though you really shouldn't be) it's not a big deal, if everyone else who was offended (I was not) by it can move past I think you should to! I have serious foot in mouth syndrome so I've learned to just let the past be the past and learn from these awkward situations! </p> <p>@HabesBabe: @yoursilverlining: @kiddosc: I don't really think telling her not to be dramatic is making her feel included or want to stay a part of the community, I understand your point, that she drew attention to something that would have otherwise died on its own, but a little sensitivity can go a long way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry#post-1083689 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 19:01:20 +0000 pui 1083689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pink Champagne: I didn't initially find the OP's other post offensive, but after reading it again I can easily see why some were very hurt by it (especially those who have struggled long with IF). I don't think it was just because she posted it to the Infertility board, either. </p> <p>Also, I agree with some PPs, posting this secondary flouncing thread was very melodramatic.</p> <p>Anyway, the OP has apologized and I think everyone here completely forgives her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry#post-1083630 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 18:37:43 +0000 Pink Champagne 1083630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: agree. We're not mind readers. We can do our best to be supportive and nice and helpful (oh wait, not helpful, I just learned that you shouldn't try to be helpful in some situations) but you can't tell people what to talk about (barring something totally inappropriate/offensive to the masses)</p> <p>Please don't go. It was a simple mistake, and I think some of the reactions were a bit dramatically phrased. Yes, you accidentally hurt some feelings because you posted it in the wrong place, but I think someone who was offended could have been a little gentler about letting you know that. (Maybe by saying, "Hey, I think this might be in the wrong board, this is a sensitive topic," rather than "I'm going to go cry my eyes out now," "Thanks for ruining my day," etc.) You OBVIOUSLY weren't TRYING to be offensive. It's not fair that people can have harshly worded reactions just because it's a sensitive topic and people think that's ok, because as a whole community we are supposed to be respectful and word our responses more carefully. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry#post-1083588 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 18:23:43 +0000 googly-eyes 1083588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spaniellove: I agree, but I don't think sensitivity means not to talk about certain topics at all... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry#post-1083403 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 16:57:23 +0000 HabesBabe 1083403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kiddosc: Ditto. I didn't see what the original thread was even about (I'm sure 99% of HB's users didn't, either), so this is way dramatic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry#post-1083325 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 16:24:48 +0000 Cherrybee 1083325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Another vote for don't leave!! You clearly meant no offence and we are a very grown up, sensible group here - we have heated discussions, things get said, but we move on quickly and stay friends! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry#post-1083250 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 15:54:52 +0000 mrsjazz 1083250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spinningry: You shouldn't leave. People post in the wrong categories all the time. You apologized. I didn't think what you said was offensive but see how where you posted would be offensive to some but it was an honest mistake. Nothing to leave Hellobee over! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry#post-1083244 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 15:53:19 +0000 runsyellowlites 1083244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spaniellove: Totally agree! It's one of the great things about HB.. we really get an all around perspective on some topics b/c our community's diversity. Some of course touchier than others &amp; this just happens to be one of them to tread lightly &amp; with extra sensitivity. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry#post-1083238 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 15:52:10 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1083238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww don't leave!! It was an honest mistake, and your intention wasn't to purposely offend. We've all put our foot in our mouths here, but we're adults and learn to move past it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry#post-1083230 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 15:50:17 +0000 MsMini 1083230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't leave over the mistake ... and you did ask how infertility sufferers feel about people who get pregnant easily ... you sure found out! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry#post-1083226 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 15:48:18 +0000 yoursilverlining 1083226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kiddosc: +1 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry#post-1083188 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 15:39:30 +0000 pui 1083188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: I think it's a little unfair to imply that those who were hurt by the post shouldn't have been. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry#post-1083186 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 15:39:02 +0000 MsLipGloss 1083186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spinningry: Please don't leave over this! :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry#post-1083164 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 15:35:14 +0000 anonysquire 1083164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't go!!! The post was not offensive, it is not your fault people chose to be offended by it. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry#post-1083156 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 15:32:29 +0000 aMohror 1083156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You can't go! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry#post-1083073 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 15:08:04 +0000 banana 1083073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No don't leave!!! It really was an honest mistake and there are many of us that have made them! As you can see from the posters above, you've made some friends already on HB! STAY! STAY! </p>