https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 29 Oct 2026 03:30:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-928279 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 22:31:02 +0000 pinkcupcake 928279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not liking this post at all. We don't know this woman's situation. Not everyone has the luxury or ability to prepare perfectly healthy meals all the time. </p> <p>I doubt anyone is the perfect parent in all aspects all the time. It makes me sad that someone is being judged like this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-927962 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 19:09:36 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 927962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: seriously, get the kid some FRESH french fries jeesh ;)</p> <p>I wouldn't judge because I just don't care what her kid eats; I just wouldn't feed my kid that. Especially reheated. If I didn't have time, I might have picked up a small sub and some yogurt from Subway with a milk. But, that's me and my kid and my situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-927808 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 17:31:32 +0000 banana 927808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There could be a lot worse things that could happen than feeding a one year old some McD's (unfortunately). I probably wouldn't judge in that situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-925998 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 08:32:45 +0000 SleepyMonkey 925998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shopaholic: yup. Sometimes McDonald's is cheaper than buying fresh food and fruit for your child. A happy meal is like $3 and where I live, just one apple costs about $1.50. A child's lunch with different kinds of fruits, veggies and little sandwiches or snacks and juice can be more expensive than that. Not everyone has the luxury of providing nutritious lunches for their kids all the time. I wouldn't judge in this situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-925832 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 07:59:12 +0000 Mrsbells 925832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: No I am not hurt at all. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-925823 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 07:56:10 +0000 meredithNYC 925823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: To be fair, I didn't call anyone a bitch. I just referred to the behavior as bitchy, which is different. Still, if you are hurt by my comment, I apologize. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-925816 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 07:53:28 +0000 Mrsbells 925816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMini: What I dont understand is if you feel it is wrong to judge why dont you express that opinion without calling someone else immature or bitchy like a pp. I dont get that part of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-925685 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 07:09:26 +0000 shopaholic 925685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ditto what @ms.janedoe: and agree w/@meredithNYC: And at least she didn't starve the kid and come empty-handed. </p> <p>I came from a very career-oriented mom, who almost NEVER made me a packed lunch. I was often sent off with a check for lunch tickets and a frozen and nuked breakfast. Yuck. I turned out fine, but hate that kind of stuff. But I'm sure there will be days (or terrible weeks), where you just can't help picking something fast and easy. Not everyone mom can always be a wonder mom.</p> <p>@T.H.O.U.: Have you seen Food, Inc.? A fast food meal was cheaper than fresh fruit the kid wanted. So sad, but often true. :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-925684 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 07:09:22 +0000 ninja 925684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally had a reheated McDs cheeseburger for my own lunch yesterday :/ and I thought it was delicious. Anyone at my work that judged me wouldn't have a clue that I had been working 16 hour days for a week.<br /> As far as judging what a one year old eats, my LO is only 9 months, so I'm blissfully ignorant on that! I have a feeling that I will agree with @stargal: with the everything in moderation theme. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-925671 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 07:05:47 +0000 mrs. bird 925671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>maybe her fridge is broken &amp; she had to throw out all her food, maybe the kid is on a hunger strike &amp; that's all they'll eat, maybe there's stuff going on in her life that is all consuming and lunch was the last thing on her mind. i have worked in schools where there were students with no food in their homes- we would save packaged foods from class parties and give it to them for snack time or on field trips when there wasn't free lunch served in the caf because otherwise no one gave them food, not even reheated fast food. i'm sure if she was feeling bad about it, there was a reason it happened &amp; it was an unusual occurrence. she doesn't owe anyone a justification for her kid's lunch. her need to defend it says more about the people she's defending it to than it does about her ability to feed her child. i totally agree with @meredithNYC: on this one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-925658 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 07:00:16 +0000 Charm54 925658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: agree. Frankly the "mommy wars" scares me more than giving birth. What will people think if I use a soother from day one? What if I can't breast feed thanks to my breast reduction and need to use formula? Even if I have come to terms with these things I will always feel like I need to explain or justify my choices. It just makes me sad. Why can't we all parent our kids how we best see fit and not put so much attention into what others are doing? </p> <p>There was a year that my dad moved away to get his masters and my mom had 4 kids under the age of 6 to take care of. I'm sure there were multiple days of fast food thrown in there (still don't know how she survived!!) and we all turned out okay. Who knows, the woman in question may be going through a similarly stressful time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-925641 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 06:51:42 +0000 MsMini 925641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the judgement smacks of immaturity, to be honest. It is like junior high school girls picking each other apart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-925576 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 06:04:34 +0000 sorrycharlie 925576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: @stargal: totally agree.</p> <p>If only you all knew some of the things I've done, ha ha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-923426 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 15:20:45 +0000 winniebee 923426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly I wouldn't judge. We are in the throws of a cross country move and I'm doing all the oacking alone since my husband has surgery board exams today. I dont have time to cook nice meals at the moment. T has gotten some less than perfecg lunches this week and I would hope no one judges me for that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-923422 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 15:19:33 +0000 birdofafeather 923422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i agree with PPs, the judgy part for me would be because it would be reheated.</p> <p>i grew up eating mcdonald's and although i try to avoid fast food, i ate some greasy fries from there the other day during a wedding i was working! as much as i try to avoid it, i know there will be times when i have to grab and go. as moms, we all judge, but i think if we keep it to ourselves, or show compassion when another mom is obviously embarrassed, then we'll all be better off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-923373 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 15:08:56 +0000 MrsH 923373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd judge, day old Mickey Ds is gross. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-923369 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 15:08:09 +0000 Freckles 923369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSCB: I think the discussion ended up going down that path. It never ends - either you judge or fear that you're being judged. You just can't seem to win as a parent! As if you don't have enough to deal with. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-923358 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 15:05:55 +0000 MrsSCB 923358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: @Mrsbells: Ah, thanks for clarifying because that wasn't really the impression that I got, but either way I still think its a little harsh to judge without knowing the circumstances. Though I do know it can be hard to turn those feelings off! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-923303 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 14:57:51 +0000 Mrsbells 923303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: precisely! :happy: </p> <p>Thanks everyone for all the input. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-923286 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 14:54:28 +0000 BananaPancakes 923286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: Agreed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-923263 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 14:50:23 +0000 Freckles 923263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSCB: I think @Mrsbells: judged because the kid was only 17 months old. I think eating fast food as a 3 year old is different from eating it as a 1 year old. I agree that it's not a big deal once in a while, but just wanted to point out that her comment didn't seem to be just about fast food. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-923196 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 14:42:25 +0000 mrbee 923196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally agree with @meredithNYC: on the importance of not judging, and how a little compassion goes a long way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-922910 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 13:55:39 +0000 MrsSCB 922910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: ITA with you</p> <p>@stargal: "all in moderation, folks." &lt;--- you hit the nail on the head I think. I guess I just don't get what the big deal is with occasional fast food. I had it at least once every couple of weeks as a treat growing up and I've never been overweight or unhealthy or anything. The reheated thing doesn't really bother me either. Sure, I wouldn't like the taste of it, but if the child ate it without a fuss, I would imagine they didn't really care about the taste. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-922883 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 13:51:15 +0000 stargal 922883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I honestly don't think its a big deal. all in moderation, folks. yes it had to be reheated (and yuck reheated fast food sucks) but its not like she bought it and let it sit in her car over night, im sure she stored it in the fridge. and shes probably having a rough week and needed a break, I don't call that lazy or bad parenting, I call it real life.... to put it into perspective, its a couple of lousy meals, its not going to hurt anyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-922870 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 13:49:43 +0000 Weagle 922870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: I totally agree with you. I admit to judging at times (not about this), but that doesn't make it right. Judgement is nothing to be proud of. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-922862 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 13:48:35 +0000 su9su9 922862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I honestly would not have judged. I would not even think twice about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-922836 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 13:42:30 +0000 Mrsbells 922836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: We have to agree to disagree on that one, because I dont get that tone from this thread at all. Some people think its wrong for her to bring reheated happy meal for lunch, some think its okay. To me thats a balanced range of opinions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-922677 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 13:05:47 +0000 meredithNYC 922677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: Perhaps we have a different definition of bitchy, and it wasn't my intention to single anyone out. My feeling is that even if this isn't "real life", the idea of people sitting around and heaping judgment on this woman who we don't know doesn't sit well with me.</p> <p>I understand this is a place to vent, discuss, etc. with anonymity, but the fact is that we could stand to be a little more understanding about people's unique circumstances. People on HB are often bemoaning "lack of education" when it comes to parents doing something they disagree with (whether it's feeding, proper car seat usage, whatever) and I get that. But I think if I were a woman who maybe fed my kid McDonald's on occasion, I would feel bad about myself reading all of this and I wouldn't stick around to learn some of the awesome things that HB has to offer. And that would be a shame. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-922658 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 13:01:23 +0000 Mrsbells 922658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. 64: wow really? I didnt know that was even allowed in schools </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sorry-but-i-judged/page/2#post-922652 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 13:00:11 +0000 Mrsbells 922652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: "gleefully bitchy comments" ? which comments are you referring to? I dont see anyone being bitchy here. </p>