https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Apr 2026 05:21:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sos-toddler-sleeping#post-2783613 Wed, 01 Nov 2017 22:03:10 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2783613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Autumnmama79: we think that has to do with him room sharing with his sister! He was never alone. But there were some nights he wanted to be held over and over. But yes it made the wake ups way more tolerable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sos-toddler-sleeping#post-2783557 Wed, 01 Nov 2017 15:49:24 +0000 birdofafeather 2783557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Autumnmama79: it was! we prepped ourselves for sticking with it for a week just so we couldn't turn back in the MOTN when it's so tough to stand firm. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sos-toddler-sleeping#post-2783529 Wed, 01 Nov 2017 14:29:13 +0000 MrsADS 2783529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnmama79 my son (before sleep training) would also STTN occasionally, like once every week or two, and I was like "he'll do it! We just need to give him time!". And maybe he would have... but him being up all night, it just didn't happen. </p> <p>I hope the trend continues for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sos-toddler-sleeping#post-2783507 Wed, 01 Nov 2017 14:01:35 +0000 Autumnmama79 2783507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsADS: up for 4-5 hours a night?! Thats insane. Glad it passed for you. I *think* I've got DH on board to do the checks...</p> <p>@MACSUNSHINE: He doesn't nurse to sleep. He does nurse right before but as soon as I notice him slowing down I unlatch and take him to his crib. I too, am coming to accept that maybe he's just not a great sleeper!</p> <p>@2littlepumpkins: Amazing that you could put him down awake in the middle of the night and he'd be okay with that! For us that seems to be the MOST clingy time that is the biggest struggle. </p> <p>@birdofafeather: 3 nights is awesome! I've hopefully got DH on board to do the night checks so we'll see how it goes...</p> <p>@arosebyany: Hmmm, I'm waiting for that magic switch to go off for DS too. Good point about the diaper, I should start to take more notice of that and see if there is a pattern.</p> <p>Thanks for all the ideas and stories. Last night was some kind of freak miracle and he actually slept through the night. And so did I. Its been months and feel like a completely different person! Maybe its a new trend or maybe it was a one off, but it sure does feel good. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sos-toddler-sleeping#post-2783134 Mon, 30 Oct 2017 20:04:40 +0000 arosebyany 2783134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This may sound strange but DS is 22months and just started consistantly sleeping through the night about 2 weeks ago from 8:30ish to 7:30ish. Before that (about 6 months) he just woke up once sporadically in the middle of the night. I swear the only thing waking him up was his diaper. I noticed that on the nights that he woke up he had a really full diaper, so I started cutting back on his liquid intake after 5pm. Now when he wakes up in the morning it's still not a totally full diaper. I truly think DS is just sensetive to his diaper being full. Just some food for thought 😊 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sos-toddler-sleeping#post-2783094 Mon, 30 Oct 2017 17:00:31 +0000 birdofafeather 2783094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I nursed until 18 months with my first but night weaned/trained at 13 months because I couldn’t take the MOTN wake ups anymore and nursing to sleep wasn’t working. We (actually only DH) had to do Ferber with checks for 3 nights and then she STTN. I was anti until we realized nothing else worked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sos-toddler-sleeping#post-2783089 Mon, 30 Oct 2017 16:24:46 +0000 MACSUNSHINE 2783089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ditto everyone else. I would successfully night wean my son, usually through CIO, and then something would derail. He is now 21 months and fully weaned and sleeping better. I will tell you that I expect to continue to have derailment, my boy is just not a good sleeper and he loves snuggles. </p> <p>Staying strong and just consistently letting him cry worked for us. Does your DS nurse to sleep at the start of the night? That made a huge difference for us dropping that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sos-toddler-sleeping#post-2783087 Mon, 30 Oct 2017 16:15:00 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2783087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Until around that age or so I just always held my son for awhile in the motn but put him back down awake and that tended to do the trick. I wasn't nursing though and dropped the bottles around a year if I remember right. </p> <p>With my first lo I did CIO at 16 months. At that point I knew that she knew how to fall asleep and she just wanted to come in our room and sleep in the pack n play and that was just not something I could do. I got no sleep that way and her time demanding to be picked up was earlier and earlier. </p> <p>So tough, I hope you find something that works soon! They are all so different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sos-toddler-sleeping#post-2783062 Mon, 30 Oct 2017 15:21:00 +0000 MrsADS 2783062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnmama79 yes, same checks for MOTN wakings. We had to nurse/rock our son to sleep, he would sleep for a few hours then be up for 4-5 hours in the middle of the night, every night. It was AWFUL. Like the darkest time of my life. LOL. I always said it was a phase, or maybe he's getting teeth, or whatever, and I had to come to terms with the fact he was just a crappy sleeper with bad sleep habits.</p> <p>We had to be so, so, so consistent with it. The checks had to be extremely brief. Sometimes it seemed like he got worse after the checks, but I did not feel comfortable doing extinction CIO w/no checks. I would have your husband do it in the MOTN if your LO wants to nurse (mine did). </p> <p>Yes, they will be hysterical - I think they all are. It is terrible. I cried so much thinking I was such a bad mother doing this to my child, etc. But I promise so worth it after! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sos-toddler-sleeping#post-2783058 Mon, 30 Oct 2017 15:18:30 +0000 Autumnmama79 2783058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mama Bird: ugh it’s so hard. I’ve wondered if I should be more firm about having DH do the bedtime and night wakings and see if that helps... right now it’s all me which I don’t mind but it’s clearly not working. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sos-toddler-sleeping#post-2783056 Mon, 30 Oct 2017 15:16:28 +0000 Autumnmama79 2783056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsADS: sorry you suffered through this but happy to hear you had long term success! In the case of middle of the night wakings, would you just do the checks every 3-5 min as well? </p> <p>Mine goes to sleep well, laid down awake, it’s the middle of the night that’s the killer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sos-toddler-sleeping#post-2783053 Mon, 30 Oct 2017 15:13:11 +0000 Mama Bird 2783053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD nursed all night till 16 months. She wasn't so much hungry as she just missed me. I think she'd catch up on sleep during the day so she could hang out with me at night. </p> <p>Regular sleep training would not work because one, she was in our room, and two, she went ballistic if left alone. Our sleep training went like this - DH was next to her crib telling her she should go to sleep for an hour and change, and I was hiding. She started STTN after three days of this, but one bad illness and it all goes out the window. She's 2 and we're re-sleep training this week. Again, I have to stay far far away for most of the sleep routine cause it's me she wants to hang out with. </p> <p>Logically, I think this would all stop if I could quit my job and she would get all the mommy time she wants when normal human beings are awake. But I can't... so it'll have to be sleep training. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sos-toddler-sleeping#post-2783051 Mon, 30 Oct 2017 15:07:41 +0000 MrsADS 2783051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnmama79 this sounds just like my son at the same age. I had several posts begging for help because I was about to quit my job due to sleep deprivation. </p> <p>The bottom line, what we ended up doing (he was 17-18 months at the time) was Ferber sleep training, extremely consistently. I was really anti-CIO but we had to. I felt unsafe driving. We set up a super regimented bedtime routine (same thing every night), very early. We did our routine, I nursed him but instead of rocking/nursing him to sleep, we put him in his crib. Of course he became hysterical. We gave hugs, kisses, said I love you, said I will be back to check on you in 3 minutes. We set a time for 3 mins and went to check on him every 3 mins. We would only stay in the room like 10 seconds during the checks, we had a set phrase to say, like "I love you, it's time to sleep" or whatever. We would increase the intervals slowly to 5 min, etc. but I was never comfortable going really long intervals.</p> <p>The first night I think he cried off and on for about 90 minutes. I cried my eyes out. I made my husband do the checks, I couldn't handle it. Then he would cry may be 5 minutes for the next 2 weeks, and then he stopped crying at bedtime. And he has STTN ever since. It was a game changer for us. He is happier with more sleep and so are we. </p> <p>If he ever cries now (barring like illness or whatever), we do Ferber checks again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sos-toddler-sleeping#post-2783046 Mon, 30 Oct 2017 14:53:15 +0000 Autumnmama79 2783046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Looking for any and all ideas - I’m out of em!</p> <p>DS is 18 months, still not sleeping through the night. His preference would be to nurse through the night like a newborn right next to me. Have tried various sleep training over the past year including CIO and sleep sense. They seem to work for 4-6 weeks but then are derailed by illness or teething or god knows what and then back to repeated wakings. Naps are good, approx 1.5 -2 hours, bedtime routine starts between 7 and 730. </p> <p>I’m back to work now and I’m tired, really tired. It’s acffecting my ability to work and I’m willing to try anything. Last night he cried/called for mama for well over an hour until I caved. At which point I brought him to our bed and he nursed/fussed around every couple hours until morning. Brutal. </p> <p>Help? </p>