https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 04:50:42 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane/page/2#post-2916158 Thu, 04 Jun 2020 06:10:02 +0000 Pumuckl 2916158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. K: They have luckily all been at least half decent sleepers. The twins were in NICU a little while and on a schedule that helped with sleep :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane/page/2#post-2916048 Fri, 29 May 2020 21:59:32 +0000 Mrs. K 2916048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumuckl: that’s really part of the motivator for more kids closer together is the fact that they will *hopefully* grow up being close and be each other’s biggest supporters!! Can’t believe you ended up with twins! Massive bravo for you surviving!! 🤣 I hope they are at least good little sleepers for you!! ❤️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane/page/2#post-2916047 Fri, 29 May 2020 21:56:52 +0000 Mrs. K 2916047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms. RV: oh my gosh you’re totally right I didn’t even think of the night wakings!! 😱 yikes... I was lucky enough that my oldest was sleeping through the night when I got pregnant it’s a little one now but she is still not sleeping through the night consistently. I am hoping that as she is a few months older that she will eventually start to STTN more consistently! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane/page/2#post-2916046 Fri, 29 May 2020 21:55:24 +0000 Mrs. K 2916046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: thank you for the advice! It was fun to stumble across this thread while I’ve been pondering this decision and being able to hear your perspective on things now. It does seem like people’s experience is all over the place and it sounds like a lot of it depends on temperament of the kids on whether or not it makes things harder or easier. Honestly the thought of going out with three kids sounds like such a feat! 😂 I have a hard time wanting to go out with two because I still don’t trust that my 2.5 yo son will stay close by and be safe, but I think I also need to just let go and try. Well, if I ever end up with a BFP I’ll hop back on here and share! Many thanks! 🥰 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane/page/2#post-2916009 Fri, 29 May 2020 03:11:15 +0000 Pumuckl 2916009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. K: so we were the same and on the fence if we should go for no. 3 or not. One thing I was personally sure was that I didn’t want to be pregnant while still nursing again which is why LO1 and LO2 are 21m apart and LO2 and LO3&amp;LO4 (turned out to be twins) are 24.5 (or would have been 25.5 months but preemies) apart. We love the spacing and ours are each other’s biggest supporters. Now that they are older it’s been a really cool thing especially during lockdown that they play so well together. Says the mum whose kids are currently playing in the living room while she sits in the kitchen and enjoys some HB and a cup of coffee. So while there are definitely hard days we definitely don’t regret going for no. 3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane/page/2#post-2916008 Fri, 29 May 2020 02:45:59 +0000 Petitduck 2916008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: I love the 2 year age gap and think it’s perfect. There are 22 months between my first two and 24 between baby #2 and #3. I’d love to have a 4th, but my hubby is over babies. But if we did I’d want the same age gap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane/page/2#post-2916007 Fri, 29 May 2020 00:13:35 +0000 bees_knees 2916007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms. RV: haha! Nope, no more babies here, we have always said 4 :) </p> <p>And yes I should have mentioned that I have rockstar sleepers so the sleep thing wasn’t as much of a factor in oir decision. All of my kids had been sleeping through the night 99% of the time by the time I got pregnant with the next. </p> <p>@Ms. RV: Hope those little dudes start sleeping better for you sooner rather than later! And hope all is well with everything else, too :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane/page/2#post-2916002 Thu, 28 May 2020 19:37:39 +0000 Ms. RV 2916002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: I totally didn't see the dates at first and was all confused! </p> <p>@Mrs. K: DD was two months shy of 3 when I had DS1 and DS1 was 9 months when I got pregnant with DS2. DS2 is now six months, DS1 23 months and DH and I sleep in separate rooms because neither boy reliably sleeps through the night. There are nights when both are up twice and DH and I would get zero sleep if we both woke up four times. The boys are super, super close already and that is so awesome, but night wakings require strategy... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane/page/2#post-2915996 Thu, 28 May 2020 15:19:49 +0000 bees_knees 2915996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. K: My thoughts remain: give me all the babies. All of them. ;)</p> <p>So we have a 2y3m gap between DS1 and DS2, then 19 mo between DS2 and DS3, then 22 mo between DS3 and DD. </p> <p>The transition from 2 to 3 was definitely our most difficult--not sure if it's because of the small age gap, or because we went from man-to-man to zone defense, or because of DS3's personality (he was def our hardest baby). BUT it must not have been that bad, because we chose to have a 22 mo gap between #3 and #4 and it has been seriously so easy. And that's with us going through a major renovation at the same time! (Seriously. Our house was in pieces when DD was born. Kind of hilarious when I think back on it).</p> <p>Anyways, I think this advice was given earlier on this thread too--for me, it helped to think of the very specific logistics of everything. When we go to the grocery store--how will I get my kids from the car to the cart? Etc. I still remember the first time I had all 3 out in public by myself and I felt like superwoman :silly: </p> <p>For us, I think a 2ish year gap is perfect! GL deciding on going for a 3rd--you don't have to decide today, and remember it's ok to change your mind from day to day! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane/page/2#post-2915992 Thu, 28 May 2020 14:46:21 +0000 Mrs. K 2915992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: I know this post is originally from some time back but I stumbled across it and saw that you now have 4- congrats! I have two littles and on the fence about a third. Lo1 is 2 yr 8 mo and Lo2 is 9 months. If we were to have another I want to wait until she is at least a year but I feel like our hands are so full already! What are your thoughts now that you’re on the other side of this? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane/page/2#post-2740169 Thu, 25 May 2017 13:57:06 +0000 matador84 2740169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, I didn't realize how awesome it would be having two older kids! My oldest will have just turned 5 when the baby is born and the middle will be 3.5. They are both very independent, and just require basic supervision from me and both super helpful. I think it would be great if I had our 3rd while I was younger, but I've enjoyed our little family of 4 and all the things we've been able to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane#post-2740066 Thu, 25 May 2017 12:20:14 +0000 bees_knees 2740066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs.kiwi: thanks! And congrats to you! </p> <p>@mamainthesun: Congrats! Two is so fun!</p> <p>@Mrs. Champagne: Thanks! Are you guys gonna go for it, too?! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane#post-2739813 Thu, 25 May 2017 06:45:22 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2739813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: congrats!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane#post-2739793 Thu, 25 May 2017 02:53:19 +0000 mamainthesun 2739793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congratulations !! I'm still pregnant with number two but wondering already about number three!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane#post-2739790 Thu, 25 May 2017 01:13:15 +0000 mrs.kiwi 2739790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: congrats! I commented on this thread weeks ago too and now I find myself pregnant with #3 as well </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane#post-2739756 Wed, 24 May 2017 20:12:23 +0000 bees_knees 2739756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2littlepumpkins: oh good! I'm excited to join at some point, esp with some other third timers ;) So I guess I'll be "seeing" you! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane#post-2739755 Wed, 24 May 2017 20:10:34 +0000 bees_knees 2739755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: sorry you had a rough night. But if you're trying talk us out of it, it's (hopefully!) already a done deal 👆🏼 I'm aware that it's going to be crazy at times, but I'm still excited! I can remember when I was pregnant with DS2, thinking nap times/bedtimes were going to be IMPOSSIBLE with two LOs. And low and behold, we figured it out! I'm assuming the same will happen when LO3 comes along. </p> <p>I feel like I should add for clarity...we did NOT base our family planning on this poll. (Some people really don't get my strange sense of humor :meh: ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane#post-2739733 Wed, 24 May 2017 18:49:36 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2739733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: wow! Good luck. Tonight I had a mini breakdown over how needy three little kids are at bedtime. And overall it was a smooth tantrum free bedtime. Just dishes, bath, diaper, prep a bottle, snacks, teeth, book one, book two, cough medicine, ice pack for a bump, medicine for a bite, extra hug and kiss, and maybe they are asleep. That's just all the steps I did. DH was by my side doing all the Same steps too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane#post-2739703 Wed, 24 May 2017 16:45:28 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2739703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: oh good! I'm due Dec but kind of following along with the Jan group too because I'm a late dec due date and because there are a few 3rd timers in there now! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane#post-2739702 Wed, 24 May 2017 16:42:20 +0000 bees_knees 2739702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: @LemonJack: @2littlepumpkins: thanks! :heart: </p> <p>Jan 31 by LMP, probably closer to Feb 4 by O date :) @2littlepumpkins </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane#post-2739700 Wed, 24 May 2017 16:38:48 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2739700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: yay congrats!!! 🎉 When are you due?? :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane#post-2739696 Wed, 24 May 2017 16:10:20 +0000 LemonJack 2739696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: congrats! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane#post-2739689 Wed, 24 May 2017 15:51:12 +0000 youboots 2739689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: congratulations </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane#post-2739680 Wed, 24 May 2017 15:38:22 +0000 bees_knees 2739680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, "babies rock" won by one...don't let anyone tell you your vote doesn't matter ;) 😂 #pollsarelife</p> <p>Slightly terrified, mostly excited!</p> <p>[attach=6904/17/oqh5by.600x223.IMG_2698.JPG] </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane#post-2726003 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 19:41:03 +0000 mrs.kiwi 2726003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: hahahah lol at the four kids being your excuse for everything. My first just turned 3, second is 14 mo and we are thinking about being open to our 3rd... If it happens soon it'll be ahh but yayy and if it takes awhile I'll enjoy the break 😃 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane#post-2725981 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 18:21:12 +0000 lilyofthewest 2725981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only have 2, but, a big factor in my timing decisions was the research that pregnancies less than 18mos apart has prematurity risks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane#post-2725892 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 14:43:55 +0000 bees_knees 2725892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: We just sleep trained and I'm 98% sure I ovulated this month (I got my cycle back after sleep training DS1 too, so makes sense). We avoided this month but I'm anxious to see what my luteal phase will be like since I'm still nursing 5-7 times/day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane#post-2725887 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 14:39:24 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2725887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: I'm still bfing and haven't got my period yet since having dd. but we haven't been using any birth control.... so who knows what will happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane#post-2725863 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 14:17:42 +0000 bees_knees 2725863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: sorry for your losses. I hope your older boys adjust well when LO3 comes along! </p> <p>@KayKay: that is such a good point! (Knock on wood, again) The newborn stage with my boys have been pretty easy. I can see it getting more difficult when LO3 is around 5-6 ish months (and don't stay put in one place ;) ) But it all depends SO much on personalities, so it's kind of a gamble regardless! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane#post-2725840 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 13:58:00 +0000 KayKay 2725840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it will be crazy either way, just maybe at different times! A good friend has 3, and they are all 15m apart -- she said that when LO3 was 0-6m was super-hard because LO1 was mostly independent but LO2 was super-clingy (personality) and needy (age) still. My 3 are farther apart (2.5y between the first 2; 2y between the second 2), and so the initial transition home wasn't that difficult, but I think it will get harder when I have a not-yet-3y w/ a mobile infant/toddler. And then who knows after that!</p> <p>3 is a logistical challenge no matter what the ages, so I'd say you probably go for it! </p>