https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 19:09:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spin-off-does-your-mommil-have-narcissistic-tendencies#post-275844 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 09:38:15 +0000 oliviaoblivia 275844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crumbs: Oh she was sneaky about it and wrapped it up with vague suicide threats. She is a special lady. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spin-off-does-your-mommil-have-narcissistic-tendencies#post-275840 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 09:37:02 +0000 SugarplumsMom 275840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: O_O! Holy crap! At least she's not sneaky about it! I would hate to imagine how it'd be if she was undercover about it. Manipulative + narcissistic + sneaky = one scary combo. I thank my lucky stars my MIL isn't manipulative. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spin-off-does-your-mommil-have-narcissistic-tendencies#post-275756 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 08:34:48 +0000 oliviaoblivia 275756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL is the most narcissistic person I've ever met. DH and I have been saving our down payment for a while. During that time she has run into some financial trouble and thinks that we should give her a yearly stipend of $50k so that she can keep up her lavish lifestyle. Essentially she wants us to pay for her TWO homes before we have one for our selves. Thankfully DH has shut this ploy down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spin-off-does-your-mommil-have-narcissistic-tendencies#post-275752 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 08:32:22 +0000 mrstilly 275752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL only really has the tendencies toward my son. She is a very generous person and does a lot for our family, but once DS is there it's like a switch is flipped and she takes over. It's like she doesn't want to but can't stop herself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spin-off-does-your-mommil-have-narcissistic-tendencies#post-275750 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 08:31:00 +0000 SugarplumsMom 275750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Now that I'm actually awake (I wrote the post after a middle of the night feeding &amp; changing) I realize what I wrote isn't exactly accurate. My Mom isn't narcissistic, she's highly opinionated and feisty, but not narcissistic, although she is used to her way and does have her moments. My MIL, however, is pretty self involved and has had FIL and her sons cater to her for years, so it's not a surprise ... but hurtful and annoying nonetheless. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spin-off-does-your-mommil-have-narcissistic-tendencies#post-275691 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 07:31:29 +0000 blackbird 275691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Neither of them are, but my mother has a tendency to think her way is always right. And she is a boob nazi, so there will be issues. And she gets hurt if I don't listen to her or "trust" her, as she puts it. My father is relatively narcissistic, I'd say, but harmless. They're both retired and they're pretty into their retired lives right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spin-off-does-your-mommil-have-narcissistic-tendencies#post-275605 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 04:13:16 +0000 looch 275605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would probably say I have more tendencies than my mother or MIL, honestly. I can get pretty involved in doing things my way and not accepting other alternatives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spin-off-does-your-mommil-have-narcissistic-tendencies#post-275595 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 03:53:03 +0000 MsLipGloss 275595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom and my FIL, yes. :( My dad and my MIL, no. </p> <p>My mom really seems to try at times, but for the most part, she can only see her side to anything. It takes a ton of work, and patience, to even bring up another perspective on any given situation. It can be extremely hurtful for both of us (even though it seems like it is only apparent to me) . . . me, for standing my ground in the most repectful way possible (which involves a ton of restraint and tongue biting, and never saying I told you so), and her for having to deal with being confronted by a situation where she isn't 100% right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spin-off-does-your-mommil-have-narcissistic-tendencies#post-275556 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 22:32:03 +0000 Mrs. Pen 275556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not at all. My mom is amazing- very easy to be open and honest with. We have a great relationship,</p> <p>I don't know mil as well but she isn't narcissistic either. Though she sure loves to talk lol</p> <p>My dad- he isn't narcissistic as much as pessimistic to a fault. I love my dad but it can be downright repressing to be around him sometimes. He's lost his joy as he's grown older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spin-off-does-your-mommil-have-narcissistic-tendencies#post-275546 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 22:15:50 +0000 sandy 275546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom is by no means perfect but she is an incredibly generous and selfless person. Growing up and even now she thinks of her kids first...she sacrificed so much for us. </p> <p>My MIL is totally different - everything is about her. If we go out to eat she wants the seat with the best view...if we cook at home she takes all the "best" stuff without thinking of aJnyone else...I could not believe this bc my mom is totally the opposite. It's also like she is in a competition with her own daughter...she has to be prettier/thinner/etc...it is very odd to me since my mom is nothing like this.. She definitely thinks of herself first and wants the best stuff for herself and thinks of everyone else as an afterthought. It's hard though bc she had a stroke so i feel like a total jerk for feeling this way but apparently she was always like this even before her stroke </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spin-off-does-your-mommil-have-narcissistic-tendencies#post-275545 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 22:14:27 +0000 Arden 275545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really, but FIL? Heck yeah. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spin-off-does-your-mommil-have-narcissistic-tendencies#post-275533 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 22:01:54 +0000 pinkcupcake 275533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, neither are like that. My mom is probably one of the kindest, most selfless people I know. I'll be so proud of myself if I can just be 1/10th of the mother that she was. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spin-off-does-your-mommil-have-narcissistic-tendencies#post-275531 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 21:57:52 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 275531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, not at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spin-off-does-your-mommil-have-narcissistic-tendencies#post-275519 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 21:50:31 +0000 HLK208 275519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>MIL: yes.<br /> My mom: not really but she has her opinions and if I don't do things her way, her feelings are hurt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spin-off-does-your-mommil-have-narcissistic-tendencies#post-275497 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 21:15:12 +0000 SugarplumsMom 275497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@junebugmama: Rant away! Interestingly enough, I think my Mom may be the opposite of your Mom. She's more selfless now than back then. She still has her moments, but becoming a grandma (so far) has changed her in a good way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spin-off-does-your-mommil-have-narcissistic-tendencies#post-275491 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 21:07:04 +0000 BSB 275491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For my mom, I say she is very opinionated, closed minded and stubborn. I wouldn't call her narcisistic. Emotionally, she does not put herself first. Sometimes, I wish she would. For my MIL, I would say she wasn't. She was great. She was like a second mother to me. Then the wedding happened and her true colors were shown. She is caring and thoughtful when you are on her good side but definitely not when you're not. Now that I saw that side, I see her differently.</p> <p>ETA: Thinking about it a little more when it comes to being a grandmother. Yes, they both will be narcissistic. My mom does it to my nephews and I can bet money that the MIL will do it, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spin-off-does-your-mommil-have-narcissistic-tendencies#post-275487 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 21:00:34 +0000 ScarletJwl 275487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My Mom has definite narcissistic tendencies. She is being very pushy about being around when I might go into labor and for a few weeks to a month afterwards. The fact that she is narcissistic (as well as other things...) means that she makes everything harder instead of easier when she tries to help, so I am trying to dissuade her from being around too much (but trying not to put it like that, cause that would just start a fight). But she has told me that she has a right to see her grandchild whenever she wants, no matter what DH and I want... ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spin-off-does-your-mommil-have-narcissistic-tendencies#post-275486 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 21:00:04 +0000 junebugmama 275486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My Mother is very into what's happening in her life only. However, this is a new issue. My Mother was the most selfless giving person when I was growing up. She had my sister and I back to back starting when she was 19. She essentially put her life on hold to raise us, while my father supported the fam. About a year ago she decided it was time for her to live her life, which I totally understand, and she began to start her own business. Her business, has not taken off, but she is obsessed with it. </p> <p>My sister and I have discussed how we feel sad that our children will not get to know her the way that we do. Don't get me wrong she's a great Grandma, but she isn't around a lot and when she is, she talks about what's going on in her life constantly. I hate calling her even because the conversation always turns into stuff about her business. She doesn't even ask how the kids are or DH, its just right into what's going on in her life.</p> <p>Sorry. I ranted in your post lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spin-off-does-your-mommil-have-narcissistic-tendencies#post-275479 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 20:56:29 +0000 DillonLion 275479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. Neither women are remotely narcissistic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spin-off-does-your-mommil-have-narcissistic-tendencies#post-275474 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 20:54:20 +0000 heffalump 275474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not at all. They're both extremely selfless people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spin-off-does-your-mommil-have-narcissistic-tendencies#post-275461 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 20:47:29 +0000 anonysquire 275461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL is just pure psychotic mixed with immaturity. She is a gem. We have no relationship and I love it that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spin-off-does-your-mommil-have-narcissistic-tendencies#post-275458 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 20:44:49 +0000 SugarplumsMom 275458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After reading Mr. Bee's question on another thread about narcissistic tendencies regarding a situation about a smothering grandma and whether it's solvable based on it; it got me thinking. </p> <p>I realized that both my Mom and MIL both have serious narcissistic tendencies! I would even go so far as to say they're both narcissistic! They're used to having their way, my Mom not as much as my MIL, plus my Mom lives far away and my ex-MIL helps keep her in check (it's a weird situation, but it works). My MIL, however, lives somewhat close-by and we see her regularly. Come to think of it, most of my problems stem from their inability to think outside themselves. </p> <p>Does your Mom/MIL have narcissistic tendencies? What problems have arisen because of it? </p>