https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 10:47:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-being-comfortable-with-grandparents-and-baby#post-32747 Tue, 13 Dec 2011 01:46:40 +0000 mynoahbear 32747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'm very comfortable with my mom because she used to be a preschool teacher. i'm also fine with FIL and step MIL because they are used to being around grandbabies from her kids. i'm very worried about MIL though because she isn't the most careful person. she hasn't been around babies in a long time either. we live nowhere near here, so she probably won't ever be alone with baby so we will always be around, so that's a little reassuring. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-being-comfortable-with-grandparents-and-baby#post-32733 Mon, 12 Dec 2011 23:33:28 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 32733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm totally comfortable with my parents and the baby. But the in-laws are harder. My FIL had the baby standing up on some railing this weekend and I nearly jumped out of my skin! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-being-comfortable-with-grandparents-and-baby#post-32397 Mon, 12 Dec 2011 15:15:26 +0000 Boogs 32397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We won't leave our kids alone with either of my parents for a number of reasons, e.g. my dad is an alcoholic, my mom hangs out with actual criminals and just plain dangerous people. My inlaws were on a maybe list, but after my FIL dislocated my LO's elbow (accidentally), I'm a little more scared now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-being-comfortable-with-grandparents-and-baby#post-32381 Mon, 12 Dec 2011 15:05:49 +0000 cyndistar3 32381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Maysprout: it happened at least twice that I am aware of... and she didn't even think it was a big deal at all, she was just like "oh oops". Their couch at the time was pretty high, it was a pretty decent sized couch plus it was on those raiser blocks because MIL and FIL are really huge and they have a hard time getting up off of it. Sooooo needless to say she won't be watching this one that much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-being-comfortable-with-grandparents-and-baby#post-32336 Mon, 12 Dec 2011 14:29:13 +0000 Maysprout 32336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cyndistar3: Yeah I've had a similar situation with my MIL except not as high up, just from her bouncy chair, but it happened twice. The first time I was like oh ok mistakes happen, the second time I was quite a bit angrier and it undermines the trust. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-being-comfortable-with-grandparents-and-baby#post-32330 Mon, 12 Dec 2011 14:26:15 +0000 cyndistar3 32330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wasn't worried about my dad or my step mom at all because they know how to handle babies. My MIL on the other hand really doesn't and she made me super nervous because she has never had a baby baby (she adopted DH when he was 2). She actually let my daughter fall off the couch when she was a month or so old because she wasn't paying attention to her... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-being-comfortable-with-grandparents-and-baby#post-32329 Mon, 12 Dec 2011 14:24:40 +0000 mediagirl 32329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@enjollah: That's hilarious because....it's so true. "Oh I forgot" and then apologizing to the dogs, that's classic. I'm so glad I'm not alone in this, but it's worrisome with a child on the way!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-being-comfortable-with-grandparents-and-baby#post-32326 Mon, 12 Dec 2011 14:21:50 +0000 enjollah 32326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: omg tell me about it! our conversation goes more like this:<br /> Me or hubs: "they can't eat that."<br /> Her: "oh really?"<br /> Me or hubs: "Yes, it can make them sick"<br /> Her: "oh i forgot" </p> <p>and then she looks at the dogs and apologizes and says "no more no more" </p> <p>OMG. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-being-comfortable-with-grandparents-and-baby#post-32321 Mon, 12 Dec 2011 14:17:52 +0000 mediagirl 32321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@enjollah: sigh. My Dad does that, too. And he thinks it's funny. Our dogs don't get human food at home but he finds it hilarious to keep them fed from the table at my parents house. It's infuriating. Me: "Please don't feed the dogs." Dad: "Oh, they are fine." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-being-comfortable-with-grandparents-and-baby#post-32320 Mon, 12 Dec 2011 14:17:41 +0000 HabesBabe 32320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just think of it this way-- they raised you, and you turned out OK. Plus, I think it's hard to avoid the spoiling-- that's just what grandparents do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-being-comfortable-with-grandparents-and-baby#post-32318 Mon, 12 Dec 2011 14:16:35 +0000 chopsuey 32318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom is SO good with my LO. Even more careful and attentive than I am. That's why we named her our baby's guardian in case something happens to us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-being-comfortable-with-grandparents-and-baby#post-32313 Mon, 12 Dec 2011 14:15:05 +0000 mrsjyw 32313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm worried about FIL and him spoiling them with treats and sugar and candy. (He overfeeds our dogs ridiculously.) Elsewise, MIL is a nurse, Mom is obsessed with babies and cared for many in her lifetime, and Dad is so overly cautious, that I'm not too worried. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-being-comfortable-with-grandparents-and-baby#post-32309 Mon, 12 Dec 2011 14:12:51 +0000 heffalump 32309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sure your dad will be a lot more careful with a baby. We just set a lot of ground rules, and remind them of things. Like we just told everybody that she's starting to grab a lot now so make sure there's nothing small near her that she can put in her mouth. They probably think we're crazy because they've raised so many kids, but I don't think it hurts to remind people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-being-comfortable-with-grandparents-and-baby#post-32306 Mon, 12 Dec 2011 14:11:15 +0000 enjollah 32306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm worried about my mother in law and how she will be with LO. I've seen her spoil our dogs several times despite us telling her not to (ie: watermelon and grapes!). I worry that she won't follow our way/instructions of taking care of our LO.... maybe i'm being too paranoid or uptight? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-being-comfortable-with-grandparents-and-baby#post-32305 Mon, 12 Dec 2011 14:10:58 +0000 Mrsbells 32305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents have a lot of experience with kids, as do my husbands parents. I am not worried at all about how they will treat my baby </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-being-comfortable-with-grandparents-and-baby#post-32293 Mon, 12 Dec 2011 14:04:42 +0000 mediagirl 32293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was reading eupenmalmody's post on comfort levels with your baby and husband and it made me think of grandparents. This weekend my Dad was rubbing my dog's belly and she fell off the couch. She landed on her side and her leg popped out of socket for a few minutes. While that was bad, it wasn't as bad as it could have been. Dogs can flip themselves over so they don't fall on their heads. Babies can not.</p> <p>Does anyone worry about grandparents and the baby? I'm sort of fearful of my Dad and a baby now! </p>