https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 07:03:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-how-do-you-discipline-your-lo#post-83161 Tue, 28 Feb 2012 02:46:53 +0000 looch 83161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends...sometimes a firm no doesn't do anything, like when he touches the knobs on the stove or plays with the floor lamp. We can't remove everything and frankly, I don't want to, because what do we do when we go to someone else's home?</p> <p>Redirecting just causes a meltdown in some cases, so I have to pick my battles. If I need a few minutes in the kitchen, I have to do it during a nap. When my son is older, I'll have him "help" with simple tasks, but for now, he's too little and doesn't have the motor skills or understanding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-how-do-you-discipline-your-lo#post-83128 Mon, 27 Feb 2012 22:35:54 +0000 chopsuey 83128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: oh yeah. I'm all about prioritizing our marriage. I guess good mom is slightly more impt since I feel like it's my job and even though I've been a mom for 11 months, it still freaks me out sometimes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-how-do-you-discipline-your-lo#post-83124 Mon, 27 Feb 2012 22:27:41 +0000 mrbee 83124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: Most dads I know aren't thrilled about being the clear and distant priority... but some dads don't mind at all!</p> <p>I'm a big believer in, "whatever works for your family is what makes the most sense!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-how-do-you-discipline-your-lo#post-83115 Mon, 27 Feb 2012 22:23:12 +0000 chopsuey 83115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: HAHA. yeah. Is that bad? I feel like I've got the "good wife" down already. Even if I slip up, DH understands. LOs are such tricky and impressionable creatures! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-how-do-you-discipline-your-lo#post-83100 Mon, 27 Feb 2012 22:01:25 +0000 mrbee 83100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: Haha, in that order? :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-how-do-you-discipline-your-lo#post-83087 Mon, 27 Feb 2012 21:37:10 +0000 chopsuey 83087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: HAHA. Love it. *sigh* I just wanna be a good mom!<br /> edit: and wife! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-how-do-you-discipline-your-lo#post-83077 Mon, 27 Feb 2012 21:12:33 +0000 mrbee 83077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: Oh I forgot to highlight one more wonderful point from that article:</p> <p>-------------</p> <p>I adopted the trainers' motto: "It's never the animal's fault." When my training attempts failed, I didn't blame Scott. Rather, I brainstormed new strategies, thought up more incompatible behaviors and used smaller approximations. I dissected my own behavior, considered how my actions might inadvertently fuel his. I also accepted that some behaviors were too entrenched, too instinctive to train away. You can't stop a badger from digging, and you can't stop my husband from losing his wallet and keys.</p> <p>------------------</p> <p>This advice works wonderfully on babies and spouses alike! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-how-do-you-discipline-your-lo#post-83023 Mon, 27 Feb 2012 20:04:06 +0000 chopsuey 83023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Awesome! Thanks for the advice! I'm so afraid of having a spoiled child who throws tantrums and doesn't listen! ahhhhhh!!! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-how-do-you-discipline-your-lo#post-82964 Mon, 27 Feb 2012 16:26:39 +0000 mrbee 82964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For a very young child, I would focus on redirecting.</p> <p>There's also another trick that works wonders, called "incompatible behavior." Here's a description from a NYT article about how a woman trained her husband using this technique.</p> <p>-------------</p> <p>On a field trip with the students, I listened to a professional trainer describe how he had taught African crested cranes to stop landing on his head and shoulders. He did this by training the leggy birds to land on mats on the ground. This, he explained, is what is called an "incompatible behavior," a simple but brilliant concept.</p> <p>Rather than teach the cranes to stop landing on him, the trainer taught the birds something else, a behavior that would make the undesirable behavior impossible. The birds couldn't alight on the mats and his head simultaneously.</p> <p>At home, I came up with incompatible behaviors for Scott to keep him from crowding me while I cooked. To lure him away from the stove, I piled up parsley for him to chop or cheese for him to grate at the other end of the kitchen island. Or I'd set out a bowl of chips and salsa across the room. Soon I'd done it: no more Scott hovering around me while I cooked.</p> <p><a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2006/06/25/fashion/25love.html?pagewanted=all" rel="nofollow">http://www.nytimes.com/2006/06/25/fashion/25love.html?pagewanted=all</a></p> <p>-------</p> <p>I often do something similar. So for example, after his evening bath, Charlie kept trying to help prepare his milk bottle, which would result in spills, whining and crying (on his part, although I also wanted to cry). He would sometimes pour out the milk or do something naughty, which drove me crazy.</p> <p>I ended up creating an incompatible behavior, by training him to hit the "30 second" button on the microwave that we use to heat the bottle. He would get so excited about that, that he would forget to try and help prepare the milk. It's removed the need for his involvement in the milk prep, which has eliminated the need for any discipline. Phew! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-how-do-you-discipline-your-lo#post-82963 Mon, 27 Feb 2012 16:25:34 +0000 mamimami 82963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lozza: oh my goodness what IS it with space heaters? It's like it's the greatest and most interesting toy ever invented!!! If he'd only play with one of his own toys half as much as he tries to touch the space heater. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-how-do-you-discipline-your-lo#post-82962 Mon, 27 Feb 2012 16:21:40 +0000 heffalump 82962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So after reading this thread lo pulled my hair and I told her no in a firm voice. And she giggled. I couldn't help but laugh.! Wow, my daughter is going to be spoiled! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-how-do-you-discipline-your-lo#post-82960 Mon, 27 Feb 2012 16:20:21 +0000 daniellemybelle 82960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have a LO but I have watched my mom effectively discipline LOs, and I've watched a lot of Supernanny! :) What I've seen that works is simply ignoring bad behavior. At young ages (under 2) babies just like attention, even you feel like you are correcting them by talking to them or otherwise engaging. Just an idea! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-how-do-you-discipline-your-lo#post-82951 Mon, 27 Feb 2012 16:06:13 +0000 Maysprout 82951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She's started to man handle my face sometimes when I'm holding her (she's 9 months). The first time I'll tell her no in a firm voice, the second time I'll tell her no and stop her little fist from pummeling. The third time I'll usually put her down or move her so she can't pummel. That usually results in tears but it stops the pummeling if I get tired of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-how-do-you-discipline-your-lo#post-82934 Mon, 27 Feb 2012 15:34:27 +0000 Lozza 82934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're starting to tell LO "No" when he tries to touch things that we don't want him touching. And often just the firm voice is enough- he'll kind of look at me when I say it, start to reach for it again, I'll said "NO NO" again, and then he'll often leave it. If he doesn't, I'll typically pick him up and move him away and say "We don't touch the dishwasher/space heater/rabid hyena."<br /> And if he's doing something I don't like while I'm holding him (like trying to stick a finger up my nose) and he doesn't respond to me saying "NO", I'll put him down and ignore him for a minute. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-how-do-you-discipline-your-lo#post-82922 Mon, 27 Feb 2012 15:27:52 +0000 heffalump 82922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't. She's too little for discipline. When she does something I don't want her to I say no... but I'm pretty sure she doesn't know "no" yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-how-do-you-discipline-your-lo#post-82917 Mon, 27 Feb 2012 15:24:14 +0000 banana 82917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Same here! We use a firm voice but I don't think he really seems to care. lol. We also use the "ignore and walk away" thing and that sometimes works. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-how-do-you-discipline-your-lo#post-82900 Mon, 27 Feb 2012 15:05:27 +0000 chopsuey 82900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I use a firm voice, but it doesn't seem to work on my LO.<br /> She's unfazed by my mean voice. -.- </p>