https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 20:24:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-54724 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 14:54:49 +0000 yin 54724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also avoided giving my in-laws a name because I had no idea what was appropriate. I'm pretty sure I offended them all those years because I didn't address them in the proper Vietnamese way either. Oops! I blame my husband for not teaching me. Now I call them mom and dad in Vietnamese. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-54363 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 08:16:55 +0000 loveisstrange 54363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I called my FIL by his first name until he died. DH's mom died a few months before our wedding, so she was never really my MIL. I always just referred to her as "DH's mom". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-54355 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 07:47:24 +0000 looch 54355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I call them "mother in law" and "father in law" in German. They think it is hysterical because of my heavy American accent, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-54273 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 21:19:39 +0000 emahlee 54273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Prior to marriage, I referred to them as "auntie" and "uncle" as per Chinese practice. When I was first married, I used the Chinese terms for MIL and FIL to address them... until they've asked to be referred to as "Mom" and "Dad". I can't bring myself to call them "Mom" and "Dad" so now I avoid calling them something. My husband, on the other hand, have been calling my parents "Mom" and "Dad" since our wedding day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-54200 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 19:18:55 +0000 calsmom 54200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure what to call them. I don't see them enough to really think about it. I will be seeing them in a couple of weeks so I guess I will decide what to call them then! I won't feel comfortable calling them 'mom' and 'dad' though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-54197 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 19:14:04 +0000 MrsH 54197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I avoid both as I find both akward. I wouldn't mind calling my FIL dad but calling my MIL mom feels weird and I don't want to call one onething and not use the same kind of term for the other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-54193 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 19:10:56 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 54193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I call my MIL by her first name. Before we were married I called her Ms. MIL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-54162 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 18:43:44 +0000 MegWag 54162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: My dad has managed to avoid names entirely for my G'ma and Papa for over 40 years! It's totally bizarre...</p> <p>My ILs are both dead. My husband uses my parents' first names. I think the fact that he was nearly 40 when he met them made it seem silly for him to call them Mr. and Mrs. M... I can't imagine him calling them Mom and Dad, but maybe he'll use Grandma and Grandpa once our LO is on the scene. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-54141 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 17:55:06 +0000 cheesetomywhine 54141@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm an avoider! I don't address his mum by name...I will call her Grandma when we have our bambino though. I call her husband by his first name as does everyone else. My FIL lives with us so I call him Senor (no we are not Spanish but he has the same name as DH and I didn't like saying Senior lol.) When our bambino comes I will call him Grandpa...since that is what I refer to him as when talking with our furinos (a.k.a. pets.) Now that I think of it though I usually avoid addressing him by name too though he knows I refer to him as Senor since my little sister will come over and call him it! </p> <p>As for my DH I think he generally avoids addressing my mum but if necessary he will use her first name. It will be so much easier when our LO comes so we can just use those titles! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-54139 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 17:51:45 +0000 Bluebonnet 54139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I call them by their first names. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-54125 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 17:38:21 +0000 venice4504 54125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I call them by their names. She signs cards "mom &amp; dad" but she's not my mom and he's not my dad. I have one of each, thank you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-54065 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 16:56:01 +0000 cyndistar3 54065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well when LO is there I call MIL grandma but if not it is usually her first name or if we are being goofy I will call her mommy dear or rosemary (her evil twin personality. I call my FIL by his first name. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-54061 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 16:52:39 +0000 Boogs 54061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've avoided calling them anything for almost 9 years now, lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-54057 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 16:47:10 +0000 tequiero21 54057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i call them "MIL" and "FIL" in korean. my hubby avoids calling my parents anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-54045 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 16:24:40 +0000 cyneswith 54045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, looking forward to having kids in this aspect. I call her Mom-in-law in e-mails. I call his dad by his first name, and avoid acknowledging his step-mother's existence - she made the hair on the back of my neck stand up when I met her (aptly - she is an evil stepmother.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-54013 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 15:55:47 +0000 oliviaoblivia 54013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I call FIL by his first name and completely avoid addressing MIL. Four years ago I was directed to call her Mrs. MIL but that always felt weird so I looked to my christmas gift tag and it was addressed<br /> To: Oliviaoblivia<br /> From: Her First Her Last</p> <p>It's just super awkward. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-53986 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 15:36:37 +0000 mrscheesefries 53986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I call MIL by her first name, same for DH's aunts and uncles. I call his grandparents Grandma and Grandpa (otherwise they get a little confused, they're in their 90s) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-53981 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 15:32:44 +0000 lavender 53981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I avoid their first names usually, but will occasional call them by their first names which I feel awkard doing it sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-53965 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 15:22:31 +0000 chopsuey 53965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I call MIL - mammy (this is what her kids call her) and FIL - dad or father (kids call him "faaaaahther") </p> <p>DH calls my parents umma and appa (mom and dad in korean) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-53941 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 15:04:27 +0000 heffalump 53941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I use their first names. </p> <p>Hubby and I talked about it and he said they'd like to be called mom and dad, but really to call them whatever I'm comfortable with. I love them, they're my family, but it's to weird to call them mom and dad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-53922 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 14:52:20 +0000 Rubies 53922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I call them Mr. and Mrs. lastname, much to my MIL's chagrin. She wants me to call her "lailai", which is Cantones for mother-in-law but I can't bring myself to do it only because I'M not Chinses and I feel weird calling her something in a difference language. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-53911 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 14:45:15 +0000 Mrs.KMM 53911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just call them by their first names - pretty easy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-53910 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 14:44:59 +0000 skibobrown 53910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I call them by their first names, and DH does the same w/ my parents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-53902 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 14:38:57 +0000 lilteacherbee 53902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha I never knew so many other people completely avoided calling them anything. I did that for a loooong time! We even lived with them for a few months and I still avoided it! Now I call his mom "other mother" because we're so close (I had "other mother" engraved on a snow globe once for mother's day and it stuck) and I guess I kinda still avoid calling his dad anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-53890 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 14:32:04 +0000 BSB 53890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Now that I think of it, I'm not sure what my husband calls my parents. My parents have 'different' first names. I don't think he calls them mom or dad, either. I think he just avoids using names with them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-53889 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 14:32:03 +0000 Rescuemom10 53889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Call them by first names as well. For DD its Nana and Papa </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-53887 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 14:30:28 +0000 Rosie Girl 53887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I call them by their first name. And Grandma and Grandpa when talking to DS </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-53881 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 14:24:49 +0000 mediagirl 53881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so glad I'm not the only avoider. If I have to say their names, it's Mr and Mrs. H. They're too (scratch that) HE'S too formal to call by his real name. Plus, it's a weird first name to begin with. I can't wait till I can start calling them what our LO calls them. My husband avoids, as well and is looking forward to Gram and Grandpa. He calls them Mr and Mrs B because it's uncomfortable for him since HIS folks are so uptight! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-53880 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 14:23:42 +0000 BSB 53880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I call my MIL and FIL by their first names. The FIL signs his card to me as 'dad.' It's weird when I see it but I don't mind it. I don't think I could ever call him 'dad.' That's weird to me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-call-your-inlaws#post-53879 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 14:23:34 +0000 MrsBrewer 53879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just call them by their names. </p>